peache5030 Posted February 8 Report Share Posted February 8 How do I ask this guy im seeing if he is gay without offending him???Trust me i have very good valid reasons for these thoughts..Too clarify..it wouldnt matter to me BUT i like him a whole lot so I would rather know now...any suggestions???------------------Dont ever stop smiling-->you never know who is falling in love with your smile...I dont cry because it ENDED--> I smile because we HAPPENED.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smellykelly Posted February 8 Report Share Posted February 8 i guess...just bring up being gay in conversation. maybe something about your best friend being gay or something. ------------------Unga Bunga watermelonshaving sex in thebathtub!Sometimes its better tobe alone...no one canhurt you that way. -Kelly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
peache5030 Posted February 8 Author Report Share Posted February 8 the thing is we are really really close..so he already knows my thoughts on being gay or bisexual..so it is too late just to bring it up...i think he might just be confused, understand?? ------------------Dont ever stop smiling-->you never know who is falling in love with your smile...I dont cry because it ENDED--> I smile because we HAPPENED.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmb1975 Posted February 8 Report Share Posted February 8 If you are really close, how do you not know? or are you trying to find out if he is "in the closet" gay? If so, you can't push that, there is a reason he is not admiting either to himself or other people yet. What are your reasons for wanting to know?------------------i know what i want, but it took me a long time to figure it out[This message has been edited by cmb1975 (edited 02-08-2001).] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
peache5030 Posted February 8 Author Report Share Posted February 8 Originally posted by cmb1975:If you are really close, how do you not know? or are you trying to find out if he is "in the closet" gay? If so, you can't push that, there is a reason he is not admiting either to himself or other people yet. What are your reasons for wanting to know?Yes in the closet gay...and i want to know because we are seeing each other and i really like him in a sexual way as well as emotionally...Dont want to be somones guinea pig...hes only been with one person...sooo i think he is still wondering..------------------Dont ever stop smiling-->you never know who is falling in love with your smile...I dont cry because it ENDED--> I smile because we HAPPENED.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
D.Schwartz Posted February 8 Report Share Posted February 8 Try to hook him up with a guy and see what happens.. That should do it....------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
deanna11 Posted February 9 Report Share Posted February 9 just say it. if you're close, you can do that. i did that to a close friend of mine who i'm attracted to. thing is, why do you want to know? i mean, if he doesn't know for sure himself, how do you expect him to be able to answer you? does his answer make a difference? if your relationship is faltering and you suspect the reason is him being gay, then i understand why you're curious. so if he says he is gay, then the relationship ends probably? what if he says he isn't gay and the relationship continues as is? are you going to stick with it because he's not gay, or are you going to realize that it doesn't matter what his orientation is; the quintessential issue is what is between you twooff track; i think "straight" and "gay" are general statements------------------"real fucking high" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dreamtemple Posted February 9 Report Share Posted February 9 When you see a fit bloke on the street say summthin like "he's gorgeous" (or whatever) and ask for your friends honest opinion. Then you can take the conversation from there, carry on to talking about gay ppl and stuff.------------------Stay Twisted Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
starcapone Posted February 9 Report Share Posted February 9 well being up front like i am i'd say " r u gay/ what's your sexuality?" hm just start a regular convo...and either spot a guy out in a mag/ store/ street " damn " he'd probably say "what?" you'd say "that guy is slammin'" he'd either say what he thinks or remain quite. an out of the closet gay guy will say what he thinks and also does he feel comfortable w/ u? i have gay friends so i know, it's not easy to tell someone your gay.good luck. ------------------* starcapone * modus operandi * athenalust@hotmail.com[This message has been edited by starcapone (edited 02-09-2001).] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trikki Posted February 10 Report Share Posted February 10 Bring up a gay conversation and talk about what it would be like to be with someone from the same sex and see where it goes.------------------Live life to the fullest, because you never know when it will be your last!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leviathanx Posted February 10 Report Share Posted February 10 Hmm... I don't know. A lot of guys might answer your questions in a 'gay' manner because they think girls are into sensitive guys like that. It may just be a ploy to get the girl more interested in him. I've seen it done, and it isn't pretty, but I've seen it work.I would just ask him out front in the proper context. Like if you are alone and want to make out - just ask him, "You are straight, right?" If he says yes, then you are good to go. If he says no or has to think about it then you know, and you can just follow up with, something about how it doesn't matter to you, but that you have feelings for him, etc., etc.Btw, girls listen up. Just because a guy doesn't make the first move on you doesn't mean he is gay. It usually means that he wants to make you feel comfortable, and let you direct what does and does not happen. Either that, or he is afraid that you don't like him sexually, and all it takes is one direct action by you to eliminate that fear. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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