imnikki Posted July 19 Report Share Posted July 19 okay sohow come.. when trying to argue a point - or maybe not even 'argue' so to speak.. but to exprss the way you feel about a certain situation... men for the most part tend to take your expression as a means of attack... or as if your attempting to start shit -...what is the best way to express that you may feel differently about something to a man, with out making it seem as if ur instigating an argument.... just basically to saylook - i hear what YOUR saying..but this is how I see it... and then _____________...so wut do u guys think.. (gerls welcome to answer this one too.. any opinions welcome)I know vocabulary has a lot to do with it.. what words should i avoid?.. ------------------aim---> I Beez NikReligion is for those who fear going to hell-Spirituality is for those who have already been there! -nik-u can always find me under the disKo Ball Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clubbingirl Posted July 19 Report Share Posted July 19 Originally posted by imnikki:...exprss the way you feel about a certain situation...what is the best way to express that you may feel differently about something to a man, with out making it seem as if ur instigating an argumentdepends on what you are trying to say....what is the pt that you want to get across??------------------EXIT fridays: Use my guestlist-->ESCAPE!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nitro449 Posted July 19 Report Share Posted July 19 It's all in the way things are said..guys don't like to be spoken to kids but sometimes guys are just plain defensive..If your just speaking at a normal tone and the guy feels like you're still giving him shit then he's the problem.....it's all how it's said...------------------~~all those who dance may enter my life~~keeping the groove alive~~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tenupa Posted July 19 Report Share Posted July 19 Here's whats worked for me.....in these types of situations it's better to keep things in the "I". If you start saying..."you did this and you did that" then the other person is going to get all defensive and it turns ugly....instead I typically say something like "I feel like this, or I feel like that....keepin in the "I". It puts a whole diff. spin on the conversation and gets the point across at the same time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
millertime22 Posted July 19 Report Share Posted July 19 or some guys are just arrogant assholes.------------------"just because I rock doesn't mean I'm made of stone.""come down on the street and dance with me."capthelmet@aol.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest gabo Posted July 19 Report Share Posted July 19 Sounds like your dating a lawyer... attack first so he has the upper hand. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
b-side Posted July 21 Report Share Posted July 21 Allright..... now before this post you were at 100% COOL in my book but this is totally irrelevant to the gender of person.... Honestly, most of the women I know (friends or girlfriends) get defensive way before a man does.... most guys don't give a fuck unless you push their buttons.... and women usually push buttons for the wrong reasons.....(Like you just did with this post....LOL LOL JK)But really ....... anyone who cares about you generally takes offence when you don't say what they expect... I know it sounds fucked up but it's true... think about it...... If they did not care what you were saying he/she would not get hostile....Just my 0.2 cents Peace Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
imnikki Posted July 23 Author Report Share Posted July 23 Originally posted by b-side Allright..... now before this post you were at 100% COOL in my book but this is totally irrelevant to the gender of person.... Peace so like.. im not 100% cool anymore? =*(.. :::sniff..sniff::: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gothzane Posted July 24 Report Share Posted July 24 Compensation is the keyas long as your basics are covered.As per us men?Keep a few keywords in your sentences to keep our attention span going...1) Sex ( on your minds 24/7...its the majority of the 7% of the brain most of us use)2) Our Name ( yes...we have the attention span of a dog..so? )3) Beer (we drink it we are it)4) Buffalo Wings (we eat them we like them)5) Hooters (a splented combination of all our basics....heaven on earth plain and simple....the restaurant...well...those too)6) Sports (99% of us dig it...im particualry a softee though...not into sports...im into arts and crafts , computers and poetry...hey so im not the perfect guy...sooooory *shifts his nuts and spits on the floor*7) Cars (shiny, noisy, greasy, fast, can kill us in 1/8th of a second...whats not to like?)8) Computers (personal fave...where else can i order food, order my porno dvds, go clothes shopping, and slowly decapitate an online game player in tokyo?)9) Lesbian (personal fave...always wanted to be one)10) Party(where we can share what we learned about our basics and aquire new wholesome experiences with them)Refrain from these words:1) Me (We care...but its a bad way to open up a coversation...at this point we begin to feel abdominal pain)2) Buy (We care...as long as jewerly isnt involved.....especially the word RING...gah...unless you have them hooked...consider us considering our options and experiencing severe abdominal pain)3) You (never say you...BAD..we go into football/boob/ignore mode...saying our name keeps us in tune better)4) "My girlfriends boyfriend does..."(*shakes his head refraining from comenting*)5) "I dont know"(If I made a promise..you make the godamn promise neverto say that to anyone ever....I rather hear "Oh I feel like stomping you in the nuts and taping over all your football games."then the ever fucking popular "Hey Hun...what do you feel like doing tonight?" "Oh I dont know." GAH! enough of that one6) IM FAT, DOES MY ASS LOOK FAT IN THIS!(me thinking - Yes you hosebeast go on a god damn diet ofblowing my sausage)..no no...in actuality...if im with you...even if you arent a supermodel....YOUR NEVER FAT UNLESS WE SAY"Godamn women ...youve turned into a fat pig! put down that twinkie and lets go for a jog before i have to get you a godamn detour sign for your neck."7) The evil unspecified "No.""No" "Why?" No" Why? "I dont know" AHHHH!8) "I forgot to cook dinner."GAAAAAH...heh...okay i usualy do the cooking...and if i ever forgotespecially if i cooked regular for someone who was with me for an extended amount of time...say...more then a week *Cackle*theyd be pretty damn pissed if they came home hungry and their"norm" was broken.9)"Ive....got....a.....HEADACHE!!"youve just given me one...in both heads....10) "Cant we just be friends?"No. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
imnikki Posted July 24 Author Report Share Posted July 24 lmao - i am dyin laughin over here from yer post gothzane.. it really made me laugh - at a much needd time to0..well just fyi guys ---... Doesnt matter at this point whether or not i phrase things correctly/incorrectly... I broke up with him last nite..... grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr wtf does EVERYONE have to play GAMEZ?!??!??!?!?!? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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