nightcrawler Posted September 28 Author Report Share Posted September 28 Originally posted by vampienyc10:I think you are right sweetie.. It is a shame though.. But it also depends on which girls you are interested in..What age are we talking about?? If I can be of any assistance or guidance let me know I have been there...I can give you honest, critical advice.vampie where u at? i though u were gonna give me advice [This message has been edited by nightcrawler (edited 09-27-2000).] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
misskittie Posted September 28 Report Share Posted September 28 Originally posted by msoprano13:[, if I found someone who could make me see they wouldnt hurt me and wanted to be with the real me, then I would in a heartbeat. [/quotei would be with the real you and treat you right if you were the type of person i was looking for..whoknows maybe you are..i know i like to joke around on this board a lot but im being serious.Well thats really sweet of you. Maybe you are the right one. Never know. Im just an overly cautious person. So are you trying to hint something to me now? ------------------ There's an old Irish saying -- 'there are no strangers, just friends who haven't met' -- so, until we meet, may peace and plenty rain down upon your head. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
misskittie Posted September 28 Report Share Posted September 28 Originally posted by mysteriousss:In my mind, getting hurt shouldn't be the reason to stop wanting something serious. Of course it depends on the person, but I guess I'm just very naive and do not hold other people responsible for what others did to me in the past. I might be the only girl out there who still wants something serious Having fun is of course great but I found it to be so much less fulfilling than a real relationship. And the question should be what's with guys nowadays? Guys do the same thing - want to hook up for a day and move on. So I think it goes both ways.Hon I agree you shouldnt hold others responsible for what previous people have done but sometimes its hard. Its not that youre naive but you give everyone the benefit of the doubt which in ways I do too. But when you were in love with someone and all they knew how to do was put you down and make you feel like you werent worth living, its hard. Its really hard and its not fair that it happened. Everyone has their own story and some are a little harder to swallow. Ive been hurt time and time again. Maybe I just pick these assholes or really good actors. But its easy to see why I would like to hide away from it and all withdraw from the dating scene.I want to be happy and I need to find myself right now. I dont think anyone will make me happy until I do that either. But Im getting there. Slowly getting there. I thin many girls are wanting love and someone to hold and protect them. Someone who is fun and loving but its hard to find. Everyone is about playing games and making false promises. I dont know I think Im babbeling now. This is a touchy subject for me. ------------------ There's an old Irish saying -- 'there are no strangers, just friends who haven't met' -- so, until we meet, may peace and plenty rain down upon your head. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nightcrawler Posted September 28 Author Report Share Posted September 28 i hate playin games, im talkin to this girl now and all she does is play games, i feel like im in freakin high school again, how do u convince a girl that u wont hurt her? that theres no need for the games? ? ? ------------------beware of the darkside.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mysteriousss Posted September 28 Report Share Posted September 28 Kitty, I totally hear what you're saying. And of course you gotta do what you gotta do to protect your own ass and make sure that noone hurts you. I guess I haven't been hurt enough to stop believing that there are nice people out there. Sowwy to hear that you got hurt. Some guys are just assholes, so I hope you have better luck next time Until then, party on and cheer up, not the end of the world just yet ------------------ <IMG SRC="http://wwww.maxho.com/~zoya/oz21870.gif""> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
misskittie Posted September 28 Report Share Posted September 28 If she was hurt before it takes time. But actions speak louder than words. Dont just SAY you wont hurt her b/c that line has been thrown around by guys who were lying too. SHOW her. All you have to do is be patient. I know its frustrating but if you really like her and care for her, it will be worth it.Good luck honey. ------------------ There's an old Irish saying -- 'there are no strangers, just friends who haven't met' -- so, until we meet, may peace and plenty rain down upon your head. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nightcrawler Posted September 28 Author Report Share Posted September 28 i know what ur sayin kitty but how do i show her?? i mean like i said she is playin games, so do i play right into them? give in to her every wish? were still in that "lets see who will get jealous first" phase, i dont think being jealous really will help the situation, so what is a guy to do?------------------beware of the darkside.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
misskittie Posted September 28 Report Share Posted September 28 Ohh well hmm I dont know then. Games I personally dont have time for nor do I think they are healthy for any relationship. Ive never gone that route so I cant really give you advice with it. Do you think she genually lieks you or is it strickly games. Pay attention to her behavior. Then decide if its worth sticking around or wait for someone else's advice. Sorry hon------------------ There's an old Irish saying -- 'there are no strangers, just friends who haven't met' -- so, until we meet, may peace and plenty rain down upon your head. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
djmikedr Posted September 28 Report Share Posted September 28 Originally posted by nightcrawler:i hate playin games,how do u convince a girl that u wont hurt her? that theres no need for the games? Dude: you set the rules, you tell the truth, and you realize that because they were hurt before that you will have to put up with some stupid bullshit. YOU LET THEM COME TO YOU. And if its not too late, they will see what there missing.Be:"Willing to protect, willing to accept" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vejita Posted September 28 Report Share Posted September 28 Yeah, girls are so difficult nowadays. I mean, it's always "Vejita, yer so hot -- you can type 60 words a minute, and you code like a muthaf*@#ka. Let's go to the nearest dark corner and have wild crazy wombat sex". And all I really want is to have a hot chocolate and talk. All day long, sex sex sex.... why can't we just be friends?Hehehe. Welcome to my parallel universe.-------------------=Vejita=-"Live through the week. Live for the weekend." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
divalicious Posted September 28 Report Share Posted September 28 i'm not one who is looking to only hook up. while i'm certainly not looking for a husband (eek!) i do want a steady guy in my life. i don't want a "serious" relationship tho...that implies that it won't be fun and what do i want with that?! ------------------ Peace Love Happiness y'all Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mysteriousss Posted September 28 Report Share Posted September 28 vejita u're crazy LOL.------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nightcrawler Posted September 28 Author Report Share Posted September 28 can u explain urself a little more divalicious, wut do u mean by steady guy but not serious relationship? do u mean steady like the two of u would be exclusive? i think the girl im talkin to is thinkin on the same track------------------beware of the darkside.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nickijay Posted September 28 Report Share Posted September 28 Well speaking for myself, I think I have become more like a guy. I used to always want a b/f and love and all that good stuff. If I wasn't in a relationship I'd miss it!! It's just so strange -- the older I get, the less I want it. I'm just so content by myself. I'm not saying I'd run away if a relationship opportunity presented itself but I'm not actively seeking one or even missing not being in one. The older I get, the less I want to settle down and get married. I just don't know why -- I never thought I'd feel this way. Maybe I'm in the middle of a mid-life crisis (at the ripe old age of 32!! ha ha!) I'm just having tooooo much fun and a boy would just get in the way at this point, unless he likes to have my kind of fun.....I've never had the pleasure of dating anyone who likes the club scene as much as me. Oh wait, I lie, I did and that dude broke my heart. I said I'd never find another guy like him (meaning w/ same interests, etc.) and I haven't so......Anyway, as times change so do people, I guess!!!------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
petp Posted September 28 Report Share Posted September 28 true a lot of girls these days are lookin to just hook up. as for the reasons behind it...kitty is most likely right that theyve been hurt before by some asshole and now they dont trust anyone...which is a shame. perfect example, i was going out with this girl for almost 8 months. i knew her past experiences with her previous bf's (they cheated on her, did drugs, treated her like shit...etc) so i knew it wasnt gonna be an easy thing to get her trust. but let me tell you, i tried like u wouldnt beleive!!!! everything from getting her a job (she was a temp at the time, working with me), to taking her out for $300 dinners, to doing absolutely everything any girl would ever want from a man (i hope im not sounding like im bragging, but im not). after all that she still didnt get it. after all that, it wouldve been just plain ole stupid of me to just keep on persisting. you have to love yourself before u love someone else, and i do love myself...so much that i knew that i was wasting my time with her. so i just told her, one day she'll look back at all the things i did for her and how i treated her and she'll kick herself for not doing something about it at the time and for treating me the way she did. now ive been cheated on in the past, and ive been abused and put down, but i know the people that did those things to me are the ones that are fucked up...not me. and trust me, in the end, what goes around, comes around. so they'll all get theirs in the end.u have to realize that some people are truly decent (theyre rare, but they do exist). and if someone doesnt treat u they way u want to be treated, fuck em, dont waste your time with those lowlifes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mysteriousss Posted September 28 Report Share Posted September 28 petp u're so right.------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sneha Posted September 28 Report Share Posted September 28 I think NYC is definitely an influence on women and their conceptions of relationships...I've been here almost 2 years and I have yet to get involved with somebody...I don't want to get hurt either but if you don't put yourself out there you never know what you're going to find...you have to take that chance..------------------Silently whispering when my heart wants to scream... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vejita Posted September 28 Report Share Posted September 28 Mysty -- I'm crazy, eh? But then, you already know what sort of crazy I am......CRAZY LIKE A FOX! -------------------=Vejita=-"Live through the week. Live for the weekend." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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