flyboy7 Posted November 8 Report Share Posted November 8 ok there it is... i'm with this girl, we've been together for a while (almost a year and a half). we haven't had actual intercourse because she wants to wait untill marriage which is cool with me, since she's very good in everything else... but here's the dilemma - when i please her (oraly or with my fingers) i can never get her to cum because she stops me right before that. in the beginning i thought she just wants to prolong the pleasure, which is really fine with me, i like to take my time with her anyway, but the thing is she just doesn't want to cum. i get her to the point where she's a millisecond away (mad shaking, shivering, grabs my hair, squezes my head or hands like crazy, gets REALLY wet), and then she just pushes me away. i cant get her to talk about it, because she always goes away from the conversation. don't know what to think... maybe she's really sensitive to the point where it hurts right before she comes (although she looks like she's enjoying every second of it), or maybe she gushes when she comes and is embarassed of it. i don't know what to do, since i want her too feel as good and comfortable as possible.any ideas? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brandie Posted November 8 Report Share Posted November 8 maybe she thinks that what she's feeling is not *right* . . .or maybe like mysteriousss says, she might think an orgasm is a sin, or isn't moral until she's married . . .but i don't get why she would fool around with you at all then . . . hmmmmluv,brandie------------------"And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music."**NEW EMAIL!!** brandie@powerpuff.com AIM: loves2coxi love Rob *always&forever* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sirdante Posted November 8 Report Share Posted November 8 maybe she is just nervous. has she ever made herself orgasm?------------------i love music! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brandie Posted November 8 Report Share Posted November 8 just had another thought . . .perhaps she doesn't want to have an orgasm b/c she already likes what she's feeling, and knows that an orgasm will be more intense and even more amazing - so she's scared that if she has an orgasm, she'll want to have intercourse . . . ?luv,brandie------------------"And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music."**NEW EMAIL!!** brandie@powerpuff.com AIM: loves2coxi love Rob *always&forever* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
b-side Posted November 8 Report Share Posted November 8 I hate 2 tell you.. But this sounds like years of therapy...Not that therapy's bad... But regardless of the reason(why she says stop)I don't think the dormant problem will go away after marriage. It will multiply.Physical / Mental it's still a problemGot my PH D..in Sex TheraPY..from the UniV...of the b-e-D,>>>DOC-B Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emmitt Posted November 8 Report Share Posted November 8 maybe she's saving it for someone else... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flyboy7 Posted November 8 Author Report Share Posted November 8 she's not religious at all, so that's out of the question Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eazyroller Posted November 9 Report Share Posted November 9 Dude, that sucks...if she's not religious than it's very strange and very difficult to try and figure it out. I don't know... try to confront her agagin while letting her know that whatever the reason, it's OK you jut really want to please her and ask why it's OK that you fool around though. I'm probably not really helping, but I'm trying to think of something for you...lo siento.GOOD LUCK! ------------------"Why judge after the moment, when everything felt right in the moment?" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mysteriousss Posted November 9 Report Share Posted November 9 Just a random guess.. Maybe she's not only waiting to have intercourse until she's married. Maybe she considers it a sin to have an orgasm before she's married too... Who knows.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phrankadelic Posted November 9 Report Share Posted November 9 I don't get it? Well I do, but hey that's another topic But what I'm sayin is that if she DOES consider an orgasm a sin, then why fool around period? I don't see any satifaction in getting all into it and then backing off in the last second. Geez...i'd go nuts. It sounds like she's contradicting her beliefs. But then again...i don't know what her beliefs are... ------------------Phrankdaphunk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kookooo1 Posted November 9 Report Share Posted November 9 well, i sometimes do the same thing...not as much as i used to though..and i would do it because i liked to finish myself... the orgasm i would get by pleasuring myself, would be 10 times better then the one my b/f at the time would give me. i dont know why, but it just was. maybe she knows how to hit her spots better then you do? ------------------lalala Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest chinagirl Posted November 9 Report Share Posted November 9 Originally posted by mysteriousss:Just a random guess.. Maybe she's not only waiting to have intercourse until she's married. Maybe she considers it a sin to have an orgasm before she's married too... Who knows..i totally agree, i would try to talk to her about it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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