sassa Posted August 12 Report Share Posted August 12 I've been seeing this guy for a few months now..but it really has been more of a relationship for him than it has been for me..first,he's moving to Scotland next month so I won't be seeing him for a long time anyways.Second, he has invested a whole lot more into this relationship than I have.I have been realistic throughout the whole thing...and come to think of it,at times I am not even sure why we're together in the first place. We were friends for a long time before we got together (one weird night when we were both high as hell), and now he's in California, while I am in New York, he is expecting to see his girlfriend glad to see him and anxious to be with him constantly, while I just wished he'd leave already. I know that sounds mean, but I feel like I am only with him now because I don't want to hurt his feelings when I tell him it's over. I am going home in a few weeks. What do I do?Any advice would be appreciated....thanks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
donvito Posted August 12 Report Share Posted August 12 its gotta be like taking off a band-aid. One motion, RIGHT OFF!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigten4 Posted August 12 Report Share Posted August 12 Tell him ASAP and don't talk to him until he gets back from Scotland once you've ended it. Period. Dumping someone is extremely hard and it sounds like you're a sympathizer, but you have to just do it clean and let time do the healing. Otherwise, you'll both just be miserable. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goodfella73823 Posted August 12 Report Share Posted August 12 tell him it was nice knowing u take care now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thehacker Posted August 12 Report Share Posted August 12 you should meet me. i'm awesome.and then you'll realize there are more awesomepeople in the world than the one you're with andit's time to move on.signed,k-risthe ever un-date-ablebut still awesome human.*sigh* Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shugabooga Posted August 12 Report Share Posted August 12 the butcher with the sharpest knife makes the cleanest cut. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
synderella420 Posted August 12 Report Share Posted August 12 GIVE HIM A BAND-AID AND SAY LISTEN BUDDY YOU ARE CUT!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sassa Posted August 13 Author Report Share Posted August 13 Oh God, I wish it was that easy! I feel really bad about telling him goodbye over the phone and not in person...plus he has something of mine which is very private and I want to see him first to get it back...can't say what...and,well, if you guys knew how he was you'd understand why it's hard...he's so annoyingly sweet.He's never really been terrible or mean to me in any way, if anything I've been the bitch in the relationship. I just think it's run its course,and I need something to say to him when I go back to California next month. Relationships suck!Thanks for the advice though P.S. To thehacker: I'm sure you're awesome and I hope you find an awesome person to compliment you. Same to everyone else who is single. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thehacker Posted August 13 Report Share Posted August 13 if you feel it's more your reluctance to continuethe relationship than anything either of youactually did wrong... maybe it's time to justlet it rest for a while and see what happenswhen you're both not thousands of milesaway from each other... like keep in contactbut not sweat it so much that you're not seeingeach other as often as you could be... just my 2c. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
barvybe Posted August 13 Report Share Posted August 13 well, a clean cut is the best, but since you guys were / are such good friends you can always use that route. Just tell him that you're more comfortable as friends and that its just not working out right now romance wise. It sounds like you sort of feel like you've lost something you used to have before sex weirded it out for you. Not sure if you should do this in person or not or if he can send you the *private* thing in the mail. If you're sincere about this he should realize-that you care about him a fair amount-you want to be honest with him so that you don't ruin the friendship relationship totallyit sucks having to hurt the sweet ones, but its better to do it now then let him invest more and then get hurt more.since he'll be going away for a while he should have some time to figure this out away from you. if he contacts you while he's away, just respond like a friend - NO FLIRTING.depending on the personalities, this could work for 'ya! Good luck hon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thehacker Posted August 13 Report Share Posted August 13 spoken like someone who's been there b4! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
barvybe Posted August 13 Report Share Posted August 13 Originally posted by thehacker spoken like someone who's been there b4! those of you who know me wouldn't be surprised - i hate hurting people but have in the past made things worse by trying not to (does that make sense?)cool meeting you friday @ Fubar btw... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
barvybe Posted August 13 Report Share Posted August 13 Originally posted by barvybe those of you who know me wouldn't be surprised - i hate hurting people but have in the past made things worse by trying not to (does that make sense?)cool meeting you friday @ Fubar btw... oops. just realized that wasn't you! i've got a forgetory... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted August 13 Report Share Posted August 13 Whatever you do, make sure you do soon, the longer you wait the harder it's gonna get. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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