marcid21 Posted March 8 Report Share Posted March 8 Has anyone wondered how to clean the slate with someone? Like, as if a bunch of meaningless bullshit and fluff has gotten in the way of what was a great friendship or relationship, and for really no reason? I know sometimes it's better to leave dead things burried, but then your mind starts wandering to those dreaded "what if's" and you just have a feeling that it's not really dead, just needs a lil' something.....I really think my situation is one that needs resoulution and just needs the air cleaned, but I'll be damned if I know how to go about it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
georgym Posted March 8 Report Share Posted March 8 The only thing i can think of to reply to your ponderence, Marci, is Time.Time is the natural healer. In time, the dust clears, bad things are forgotten and learning takes over. Then, after a while, i'd approach whatever you are thinking about cautiously, like baby steps.I hope that helps Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
barslut Posted March 9 Report Share Posted March 9 If someone fucks me over one time i can never trust them again , None of this clean slate stuff. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marcid21 Posted March 9 Author Report Share Posted March 9 Originally posted by barslut If someone fucks me over one time i can never trust them again , None of this clean slate stuff. I agree, ya WHORE!.......it's just that I wasn't really "fucked over". Like I said...just a bunch of "fluff" developed....mostly meaningless bullshit that could've been avoided... but somehow wasn't.Papa Smurf's advice sounds like the only avenue. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted March 9 Report Share Posted March 9 You can't always forget or forgive someone for things they have done or said, even though we'd like to be able to.... You can attempt a fresh start,but it will never be the same as it was.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
synderella420 Posted March 9 Report Share Posted March 9 Shit with this topic I could write a book on trying to wipe the slate clean with my cousin and my ex best friend... they are married now and he chose water over blood and wiping the slate clean was tried but it aint eva gonna happen..Sometimes it is just better to forgive in your heart but completely forget about them... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dgmodel Posted March 10 Report Share Posted March 10 You in the dark You in the painYou on the run Living a hell Living your ghost Living your endNever seem to get in the place that I belong Don't wanna lose the timeLose the time to come Whatever you say it's alrightWhatever you do it's all goodWhatever you say it's alrightSilence is not the wayWe need to talk about it If heaven is on the wayIf heaven is on the wayYou in the seaOn a declineBreaking the waves Watching the lights go downLetting the cables sleep Whatever you say it's alrightWhatever you do it's all goodWhatever you say it's alright Silence is not the way We need to talk about it If heaven is on the way We'll wrap the world around itIf heaven is on the way If heaven is on the way I'm a stranger in this town I'm a stranger in this town If heaven is on the way If heaven is on the wayI'm a stranger in this townI'm a stranger in this town Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted March 11 Report Share Posted March 11 DG, where is that from? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
atomicapples Posted March 11 Report Share Posted March 11 DG is a wierdo on his own... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
djmoonshine Posted March 11 Report Share Posted March 11 Def. one of the hardest things to do... You wanna forgive and forget, but it's virtually impossible. Time does help, but as for helping to the point where things could be the way they were, i'd say that was impossible... but then, that's me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
highmay Posted March 12 Report Share Posted March 12 Originally posted by barslut If someone fucks me over one time i can never trust them again , None of this clean slate stuff. Gotta disagree with your POV...It depends on the type of after affect your action produced.If I'm seeing a girl and I kill her parents, you can pretty much kiss that second chance goodbye.If it's something like worthless gossip gets in-between the two parties, you have to be able to give it time, forgive, and forget DEPENDING ON YOUR PERSONAL ASSESSMENT OF THAT PERSON.If you think the other is a good person, by all means forgive and forget. Generally good people have the ability to understand their actions, learn from them, and discipline themselves never to repeat it. On the other hand, I was friendly with someone over the summer that, shall we say, led off a pretty negative vibes with the actions that he did that I was forced to be involved in due to association. He fucked up one too many times, so I cut that person off when the opportunity presented itself.If YOU fuck up and are sorry to someone you care for, wouldn't YOU want to wipe the slate clean? You have to understand that NO ONE IS PERFECT. People will fuck up. It always happens. That's why we have drama in the world. So stay positive and learn to forgive and forget. I've been on both sides of the spectrum (forgiving and forgivee), and I have a good idea about what emotions people deal with on each side. Like to know what you think. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rachel1997 Posted March 12 Report Share Posted March 12 This is the reason why we "forget" If we rememberd everything, every little thing, we won't be able to go on with out lifes.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marcid21 Posted March 12 Author Report Share Posted March 12 Originally posted by highmay Gotta disagree with your POV...It depends on the type of after affect your action produced.If I'm seeing a girl and I kill her parents, you can pretty much kiss that second chance goodbye.If it's something like worthless gossip gets in-between the two parties, you have to be able to give it time, forgive, and forget DEPENDING ON YOUR PERSONAL ASSESSMENT OF THAT PERSON.If you think the other is a good person, by all means forgive and forget. Generally good people have the ability to understand their actions, learn from them, and discipline themselves never to repeat it. On the other hand, I was friendly with someone over the summer that, shall we say, led off a pretty negative vibes with the actions that he did that I was forced to be involved in due to association. He fucked up one too many times, so I cut that person off when the opportunity presented itself.If YOU fuck up and are sorry to someone you care for, wouldn't YOU want to wipe the slate clean? You have to understand that NO ONE IS PERFECT. People will fuck up. It always happens. That's why we have drama in the world. So stay positive and learn to forgive and forget. I've been on both sides of the spectrum (forgiving and forgivee), and I have a good idea about what emotions people deal with on each side. Like to know what you think. Well, I for one think this has made more sense to me than a lot of things lately.Your #1 in my book Highmay....thanks for ur words of wisdom. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
highmay Posted March 12 Report Share Posted March 12 Originally posted by marcid21 Well, I for one think this has made more sense to me than a lot of things lately.Your #1 in my book Highmay....thanks for ur words of wisdom. awwww thanks hun! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted March 12 Report Share Posted March 12 Originally posted by marcid21 Well, I for one think this has made more sense to me than a lot of things lately.Your #1 in my book Highmay....thanks for ur words of wisdom. Sometimes pearls of wisdom come from peculiar places;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
djmoonshine Posted March 12 Report Share Posted March 12 Originally posted by SPYGIRL2 Sometimes pearls of wisdom come from peculiar places;) very true... i mean it's highmay... j/k... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
georgym Posted March 13 Report Share Posted March 13 I just want to add that yes, starting over from clean slates IS indeed possible I never believed it, but im back together with my smurfette The only reason we broke up was b/c of suffocation, and due to each of our conscious realizations of the reason for the breakup, we are starting aknew ...We still are gonna go out separately with friends and let things happen, but we're also remembering that flame that once burned and we're gonna start off in a newm, better direction Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marcid21 Posted March 13 Author Report Share Posted March 13 Originally posted by gmccookny I just want to add that yes, starting over from clean slates IS indeed possible I never believed it, but im back together with my smurfette The only reason we broke up was b/c of suffocation, and due to each of our conscious realizations of the reason for the breakup, we are starting aknew ...We still are gonna go out separately with friends and let things happen, but we're also remembering that flame that once burned and we're gonna start off in a newm, better direction Woo hoo!!! Congrats Smurfy bebs...I'm really happy for you! :D :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted March 14 Report Share Posted March 14 Originally posted by gmccookny I just want to add that yes, starting over from clean slates IS indeed possible I never believed it, but im back together with my smurfette The only reason we broke up was b/c of suffocation, and due to each of our conscious realizations of the reason for the breakup, we are starting aknew ...We still are gonna go out separately with friends and let things happen, but we're also remembering that flame that once burned and we're gonna start off in a newm, better direction :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
djmoonshine Posted March 14 Report Share Posted March 14 :grin: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted March 14 Report Share Posted March 14 Originally posted by djmoonshine very true... i mean it's highmay... j/k... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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