Divette, do the two fo you WANT to be with other people? 3 1/2 years is a long time with alot of memories and feelings. It sounds to me like you both want to experience seeing how it is with other people and if that's what you both feel and are mature about it you may think you will be ok handling hearin or seeing him w/ someone else but when it really happens, b/c you still are in love with him it will hurt like hell. But if you two think you are falling out of love then maybe you need to let it all go and moe on maybe later down the line see if the friendship works but not if you both still have feelings. What happened in the past that he holds against you? Are you in love with him or just love him? The two are very different. I wish you luck.