happykittn

Is there anything a girl can do to make sex more comfortable if a guy's just too damn big? Is there anything the guy can do to make things more comfortable for the girl? I'm Asian and my boyfriend is 1/2 black (definitely on the bottom half). I've never been with a guy that big before (about 9", and thick), and it was a little uncomfortable even though I was really wet... he can't thrust all the way in, or he hits my cervix and it hurts like hell. Is there anything I can do to relax more and maybe take more of him in? Has anyone else had this problem, and if so, how did you deal?

Apparently it was unofficial Asian night... I had a good time... The girl on the left is extremely conservative during the day: Gotta love the dancers: Boyfriend/me (he felt a little out of place at first, but it was fun dancing):

Any suggestions?

Can you recommend a romantic bar in West LA/Santa Monica that would be a good place to go for first-date drinks and possibly dinner? I'm taking the initiative and asking out the guy. Met him at a party, hoping he'll be up for an evening out on Friday. The only spot I can think of is the Arsenal, which is a possibility... too many weapons on the walls, though. Thanks!

Checked out the Laugh Factory last night (thanks to steviediggler), and man... I haven't laughed that hard in a long, long time. My girls and I had an AMAZING time, and you can bet we'll be back for more... if any of you kids are looking for a way to ease into your Thursday night partying, I'd HIGHLY recommend the LF. Thanks so much, stevie! Love the hair.

What are the best clubs to check out on Saturday nights that play "jiggy music"? Think R. Kelly's "Hotel", Britney's "Toxic", Big Tymer's "This Is How We Do", etc. About twelve of my girls will be driving up from San Diego for a bachelorette, all-girls weekend, and they want to go to "Legends" (?) on Friday, open to suggestions for "jiggy" bars/clubs Saturday night, and shopping at the Fashion District on Sunday. Any suggestions appreciated, thanks!

Interesting, I didn't notice that. I like the stiff drinks and chill atmosphere there... wish more people actually danced, though. And heck yeah it did.

Ugh. Barely-18-year-olds in dark lipliner and too-tight clothes... Sleazy guys/cholos/gangsters thugging it out... Dirty venue and a long-ass line... I took one look and left for Joya.

Any way you could get an addy, hon? I was going to stop by Circle Bar and Sugar tonight, but am open to other options. I'm not familiar with Mor...

If so, how is it? Any good Thursday nights?

I'm on Desogen right now, and forgot my packet of pills on the plane. I have 3 more to take, and all I have is a package of Avril (supposedly the "generic" version of Desogen). Would it be okay to take three Avril birth control pills to take the place of the three Desogen pills I was supposed to take? Ugh!

I'll see if I can find a recent one of us...

I'm on Desogen. No negative side effects so far... I used to take Ortho Tri Cyclen... which caused me to gain 20 pounds, break out like crazy, and become depressed. Never again!

She'll be here for one full week, and I'd like to take her out to a club at least one night. I live in West LA, but am willing to drive up to 30-40 minutes for the perfect spot. Looking forward to suggestions, tanks deepfunk!

My mom's coming to visit me next month. She's never been to LA before... she's never been to the beach... she's never been apart from my father, and she's never been to a club. She grew up in China in a very strict/conservative family, and has never experienced any sort of nightlife, etc. (she basically married my father right out of high school). I'd like to take her out for a night on the town... a nice restaurant (any suggestions?), and a good club afterwards. Just so she can experience it ONCE in her life. What club(s) would you recommend? I was thinking something with a more sophisticated (late 20's/early 30's) crowd, trendy and fun. My mom looks young (she still gets carded when she buys cooking wine), and I just want to show her a good time. I love my mommy.

Once again, please educate yourself before you speak seemingly all-knowingly on such issues. FYI, males CANNOT be tested for the HPV virus. There is currently NO TEST available for medical professionals to test for the virus in men. The only way women know whether or not they have the virus is via an abnormal pap smear, etc. So basically, the guy won't know he has it unless he either has an outbreak of warts/bumps (which is rare, most males show no symptoms whatsoever)... and the only way he'll know is if his girlfriend goes into the gyno and discovers she has an abnormal pap smear. Neither of my girlies who have it "screw around". The one I already mentioned only had ONE partner, and the other has only had 4 partners in her lifetime (she's 26 years old). Believe it or not, people who sleep around with hundreds of people aren't the only ones in danger of catching an STD. ANYONE is vulnerable. Communication with your partner is key, but sadly, sometimes that isn't even enough (i.e. if the male never knows he has it, he can't tell his partner). Be careful, kids. And have a happy new year...

I'll make that a New Year's Resolution.

I'm PMS-ing HARDCORE, most people in this world are ignorant dicks, and I haven't gotten any in over a month because my boyfriend is away on winter break. Tonight, Imma try to cheer myself up at a few parties.

You can get HPV via skin-to-skin contact. No intercourse is necessary. HPV is also small enough to pass THROUGH condoms, the only virus known to be able to do so. Way to be educated, you ignorant asshole. One of my girlfriends has only had ONE partner her whole life, and he cheated on her and passed the disease to her.

Two of my closest girlfriends recently confided in me that they have contracted HPV. I did more research on the virus, and apparently 1 out of every 4 (or more) sexually active people have contracted it at one time or another in their lives. For most men, there are no sypmptoms at all... for women, there is the risk of developing cervical cancer for certain strains of the HPV. My girlfriends were devastated at first, but they have realized this is something they must deal with. Neither have any idea how they will tell future partners. If you have or know anyone with an incurable STD, how do they deal with it? How do they tell their partner(s), if they even bother to? I had an acquaintance my freshman year of college who contracted herpes in a threesome with 2 older women over Spring Break. At first, he was up front with all the girls he dated about the herpes... after they all dumped him, he stopped telling the girls he had sex with so he could get laid. I didn't associate with him after that. Your thoughts? I'd be open to dating someone who had a curable STD in the past (chlamydia, gonorrhea, etc.), but I'd have to really love someone to consider continuing a relationship if they told me they had HPV, HIV, herpes, etc.

What's the dress code for Club Sugar in Santa Monica? How is "Pure" on Saturday nights? I'm probably going to check it out tomorrow night... thanks!

My normal period cycle is 35-40 days. I'm currently on a Pill with a 28-day cycle. Should I stick with the 28 pills, or should I take additional pills that would allow me to menstruate at my normal rate/cycle? (meaning, instead of taking 28 pills, I'd take 35 pills, from an additional package) Also... my boyfriend is away on break, and he's coming back to visit for one day on December 28th (after that, he won't be back until mid-January). With the 28-day cycle, I'm scheduled to start my period on December 25. I haven't seen him for almost a month, and I REALLY don't want to be stuck with my period when he comes back... would it be okay to take a couple extra pills to delay my period until he's gone? Thanks ladies!

Girl, when you come visit me in LA I'll hook you up with my waxer. She's the SWEETEST Vietnamese lady who does full Brazilian bikini waxes for $12... I always end up giving her $20 ($8 tip!) because the does the BEST work ever... even goes in with tweezers to get rid of every last hair! The ones I've gotten before (paying $40+) have SUCKED... this woman lifts your legs and bends you all over the place to make sure you leave clean and smooooooooooooooth. I love my waxer.

OMG... so many of these girls are SMOKIN' hot...