evan, i'll first start by saying that it's terrible that you feel hurt and sad. that's a bummer. but you are chock full of double-standards and very quick to judge other people for doing the same things you do. you say that you "could never have a relationship with this kind of a girl," yet you feel you have some sort of rights to her after someone else expresses interest. the "this kind of a girl" phrase alone is a huge insult. really, use a little introspection; just based on what you've written here, you seem to get around quite a lot yourself. it's really sad to see men (i say men because i have never heard or seen a woman say this) say that they look down on women they've slept with on the first date because they're "easy." you sure liked that they slept with you on the first date, that night. another thing to keep in mind was that you didn't know this girl before she came to your house, except for a few conversations online. you took a big chance on someone you really didn't know, and a very recently divorced person who's already plastered herself all over the net and doing things for webcams seems less than entirely stable. but she didn't owe you anything just as you didn't owe her anything. one weekend together isn't a promise of anything for the future. what your friend did wasn't cool. going behind your back after you told him about someone you'd been with wasn't right. i'm with you on that. but for you to blame this girl in the end for being another "girl like this" or "a whore" is totally unfair. she was good enough for you when she was giving you what you wanted. you just switched to name-calling when your feelings got hurt. if you want someone who'll be true to you, someone with integrity, you've gotta start looking in the right places. and be sensible as well as learn from experience; people who masturbate in front of webcams and work in strip bars aren't very likely to be old-fashioned girls.