I have to laugh at this whole thread, really I do... Ok first off, if things weren't going good with your bf when you went away you might have considered telling him that you wanted to just date. Second, like someone mentioned earlier, you had kissed this kid and still hung out with him some more and then he went down on you and then later you guys had sex. Now you prefaced all this by saying, "A little kissing doesn't hurt now does it?" Well gee, if you're supposed to be in a relationship that I'm going to presume is monogomous, then yes, it does. By standard definition, you're supposed to be true to that one person, if not, then what's the point, whether drunken or not. Now yes people make mistakes but by asking if it doesn't hurt, you're looking for some kind of justification instead of accepting it for what it is. That, plus you added "lol" I'd imagine to try and use it as a humorous defense mechanism. Then you readily admit that "the inevitable happened one night, we had sex." Well, if you knew it was inevitable, why would put yourself in this situation? It has nothing to do with being confused about your feelings for him at the time or anything of that nature. From a respect point of view, if you're in a relationship with someone then there's certain things that you just do and don't put yourself in a position where it's more than likely that something will happen. Finally, yes you did tell him about making out with guys and the guy going down on you and what not but then you end it with, "I told him right away and didn't lie to him." From a standard definition point of view, yes you didn't like to him, that is true. But you did withhold the truth from him, were dishonest and as mentioned before, didn't tell him probably because you wanted to save your own ass. In anycase, maybe your feelings have changed and what not but I'm with most of the guys on this one, he should be told, how he handles it from that point, excluding extremes, is probably going to be a justifiable reaction and behavior.