It's hard. I dated a guy who was a TOTAL NON CLUBBER, don't get me wrong, I'm not staying out til the wee hours of Sunday morning every week but I'd take a night out at SF over sitting in a bar getting drunk or sitting at home getting stoned every weekend, any day. But as much as I like clubbing,listening to house and trance, he liked getting stoned and seeing live jazz bands. We just didn't have enough in common socially, to make it work. It's good to have seperate interests, but very necessary to have some sort of social scene that you can both deal with. ------------------ You're only young once