Dear nifer, first off all I have to apologize for my english, I'm a dutchie with fam. in Manhattan, but I realy reckon. you're situation. As a half dutch/indonesian male, I've dated girls from different cultures as well. As a matter of fact, I'm currently reunited with my girl from Cameroon (West-Africa). Throught out the years I learned a lot about myself and went thru some serious problems adjusting myself to my girl to make us feel comfortable. When I was down I hang out with my best indonesian friend and we seemed to be related to eachother in so many wayz. We (my friend and I) are both proud of our roots. And we use the same words and got raised with the same manners and phillosophy. It seemed that when my ex and I got into something ugly, we always let our heads down and thought we could never work it out because of our differences. But differences are not based on race or colour, they are based on how we grow up and develope. I even had to deal with being accepted by "my own"people, since I'm mixed. So you can probably reckognize the stuff I've been thru. Here's my advice, learn to know who you are and love yourself for it. In that way you will see that we are all equal, it's the narrow minded people that discriminate and surch for excuses. And the target's they pic that suffer and grow up and develope into people you would say are EMOTIONALY different. Just relax.....and keep your eyes and ears open...peace.