i have the best saying ... "if you hurt me once, it's YOUR fault, if you hurt me twice, it's MY fault" i agree with spygirl, sometimes it takes a lot of getting hurt before you finally realize what you want and what excatly it is that you are looking for. they do say, "you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince" !! i used to think that it was me who was at fault, but the truth is, it's not that i don't know how to love or how to give, it's just that i didn't find the person who can love me back and give just as much yet. both good and bad come with all things, you live, you learn and you go on ... sometimes stronger, sometimes weaker.