well, some people might disagree that roleplaying is a normal and healthy part of a couple's sex life. i too have gone back and forth on the issue... by 'allowing' our partners to enact rape scenes, does it somehow foster the idea that rape is okay? it's related to how some people think pornography is bad because it shows images of women in rather degrading positions; does that MAKE people think women should be degraded, used, abused?... i don't think so, just as i don't think that play-rape is necessarily bad in all cases.