kurokuma

Evidence why I wish stupidity either induced extreme pain or sterility. -KuroKuma

Okay...I don't know where to begin on this one. First of all...for someone who says they take everyone on their individual merits, so sure speak in generalities. You say..."The majority of blacks are not like you and they never tried better themselves. The majority of blacks have a chip on the shoulder and do nothing but think America owes them shit because they where slave traded." Have you ever been to an inner city school? Have you ever hung out in the ghetto? You say that most never tried to better themselves. Gimme a break...I don't know what country you're living in, but if you want to try and argue that there hasn't been a distinct culture built around keeping things this way, then you're living in a dream world. You also say..."But the realty of it is, is that the biggest slave traders in Africa WHERE BLACK. But no one talks about this. " People talk about it plenty. Read more of the history my friend. A lot of this trading was done at musket point. I'm well aware of the history. Are you? You further say..."They use an excuse like: "I deserve this job because I am a minority and I my ancestors where slave traded" The only way a people can get better as a group is to bring them selves up with education and self improvement." I think you missed the point and larger picture of what affirmative action and the like meant. Don't get me wrong...I believe people should get what they deserve and not be overlooked based on superficial merits of others. HOWEVER, the larger point of it all is that there is a system in place that prevents a lot of minority men and women from fairly and equiatably finding work and obtaining and education. And having lost a job at a bar because the management said "I was beinging too much black clientele to the bar..." I can tell you...this ain't an illusion. You say..."Ill give you this sure Nigger is a curse word but if your going to not allow that to be said then You better not let any one say Fuck,shit,damn or any other curse words because those are extremely offensive to me as a catholic. " Excuse me? A curse word? It isn't a curse word. It's much more than a curse word. It's a word of Hate and Disrespect that has been such for hundreds of years. What world are you living in dude. I'm sorry...no matter how you try to write it or make it seem, it's wrong. Period. There is no argument that can justify it. If I walked up to a white man and said "Yo...what's up my Honky" Would that be okay? Is that acceptable? I don't think so. One thing you still haven't grasped, it's less to do with race and culture, it's about respect. Respect for those who don't want to be demoralized and disrecpects based on the color of their skin. Further as a gay man, it pisses me off to hear people use terms like "That's so gay!" or call other people fags or the like. It is DISRESPECTFUL. And that should be more than enough to hear someone telling you it ain't cool to stop trying to argue it as okay and just stop doing it. -Grizz

I'm planning to be there too...WOOHOO! -Grizz

For the record as a black man, I don't use the word in ANY format. Whether you consider it slang or not and frankly, it pains me when I here other black people using it too. I don't give a fuck how cool or acceptable you think it is, but in NO UNCERTAIN TERMS it is NOT! I'm sorry, you can try and doll up the argument as much as you want to, but that's not gonna change the fact that my parents were shot at and blasted with high powered water fighting in the streets for the right not to hear that shit on a daily basis. It's offensive. Period. I use this board and like the pople here. I don't use the term and would hope in such a forum I wouldn't have to hear it. I don't use terms like guido or moley or anything else. So does that mean it's okay for you to say that stuff around me or my friend? Am I supposed to just sit back and hear it and go "Well...it's okay...some other people say it, so I guess I'll have to forgive them for it..." FUck that. I'm a firm believer in free speech. However, when someones right to free speech a.) supercedes an agreement they already made and b.) supercedes my right to enjoy myself without having to hear racisit epitets wrapped up in the cellophane of pop culture, there's a serious problem. Grow the fuck up and realize that you can't always get what you want and that to exist in NORMAL society there are rules of courtesy and conduct that need to be followed. Get over yourself. -KuroKuma the Black Bear

Yeah...thanks Ruth for an awesome party...Sorry I wasn't more talkative, but the pretty colors had my attention. Hope I didn't scare anybody...RawR! Was a lot of fun...was great hearing everybody spin too...niiice...=) Hope to do it again sometime. -Grizz

Actually...my ex and I's breakup had nothing to do with our sexual proclivites. Honestly, it had nothing to do with what we did in bed, it had everything to do with our lives not being compatable at the time. I didn't say that they were necessary for the relationship to be serious, but it was something we both enjoyed and something we could share together. We all have jealousy, but the point is at which point does your jealousy outweigh your reason. He and I's relationship worked fine inside and outside the bedroom, because we both had the ability to seperate our jealousy over things into what was reasonable jealosuy and what was not. Frankly...I thought it was hot to watch my boyfriend who I was unerringly attracted to with someone else. I'm sorry it was hot. Just as I know he enjoyed the same. However, I'm saying this, but I also have to admit that the dynamic between m2m relationships are quite different than those in m2w relationships. It's been so long since I went out with women I couldn't even really say if it would have been feasible in the past, I doubt it. The female emotional connection to sex is not the same as those of men...*shrugs* All I'm saying is, it worked for us...it won't work for everyone else. Hell...we'd even discussed adding a permanent third to our relationship. I'm a poly-amorist and so was he. It's all about personal boundaries. If it doesn't work for you and your partner, don't do it and if you do do it, know what you're getting into. -Grizz

See...this is what I'm talkign about. IT's that kinda shit that makes people and busineses scared to make changes and do thing lest some idiot money grubber sues them cause they were breathing too loudly...*grumble* Oh shit...your post was too long...it strained my brain reading it...maybe I'll sue...hehhehheh... -Grizz

You know...while the resemblance is amazing...that's just scary... -Grizz

Well...I have a decent amount of experience on the topic, so I figure I'd offer my advice... My ex and I had threesomes fairly regularly. Mainly because the two of us were secure enough with ourselves and secure enough in our feelings for each other, that we were able to seperate the sex from the emotion. We had friends we played with and would occasionally go cruisin for a third. In the end what it comes down to is how comfortable you are with yourself and your partner. If you can look at your partner and know that what his cock is doing has nothign to do with what his heart is doing, go for it. However, make sure it won't come back and bite you in the ass. But as with all things in a relationship it comes down to communication. Communicate what you want and what you're feeling and let your partner know where you're coming from. Don't let your partner to put you into a position you're uncomfortable with (no pun intended) and vice versa. Communication is key. Particularly when embarking on this kind of journey, because it is an incredible amount of trust. -Grizz

As I read that article all I could think is how typical... It's really a shame...this one girls stupidity will effect so many people. However, I wish so many people wouldn't get away with making these amazingly pedantic frivilous lawsuits. Ouch...I stubbed my toe on the sidewalk...I should sue the city... Fuck that...*grumble* Hey...start smoking...it'll make you a millionare... -Grizz

Do what I did...quit and tell em to quit your big black furry ass... Um...wait a second... Anyway...I was getting really screwed at my job...so I had to quit...the list of the bullshit I had to go through was incredible. You know...it might be easy to say it, but working isn't worth losing your sanity... Fuck the corporate game...money isn't everything... -Grizz

Me personally...it's virtually impossible for me to find men attractive without facial hair. The more the better, but it's gotta be kempt . On me...I haven't not had some sort of facial hair since high school. Usually a full beard, but once in a blue moon I shave down to a goatee. Right now I have a short beard and long goatee. Facial hairs the shit and feel great on the more tender regions. Scruff feels like sandpaper. I think if a guy can grow facial hair he should. -Grizz

Yeah...I this I know...I honestly can't answer why I feel that way...I just do...*shrugs* -Grizz

The thing is...macking isn't particularly why I'm asking...I go party cause I wanna dance and feel the music. If I see someone hot I'd like to mack on...that's a perk. It's more a matter of feeling like an oddball and out of place sometimes...and yes...I do have to say...it would be nice to know that some of the eye candy I'm seeing is up for grabs, but that's not the main focus of what I'm getting at... -Grizz

Yeah, but the law of numbers has to work in my favor at some point... -Grizz

Well...it's not so much that per se, but it's kinda nice to know you aren't alone in the crowd. Though it would be nice if there were some hot men I knew it'd be okay for me to mack on...hehhehhehheh... -Grizz

Now you know god damned well you ain't never meet no god damned Doctor Martin Luther King... -Grizz

Alright...I keep wondering why I never meet any gay guys at parties. I know they have to be there. I don't particularly dig the music they play at most gay clubs. Happy house ain't my thing, I'm a DnB kid. Yet...I always feel kinda...weird/frustrated I can't quite describe the feeling. I keep talking to my friends about it and they say other gay kids they know that go to parties echo the same sentiment. So it forces me to wonder...if there are other gay guys and lesbians coming to parties...where are they? *ponders throwing up the Bat signal* Just a thought...mainly posting this hoping some folx might jump up and say something or that I'm missing something... Another random Kuma musing... -Grizz

Just wanted to say it was nice meeting everyone I did last weekend at Stereo...hope I didn't scare yah too bad. It was fun and the Usual Suspects tore it down. I couldn't leave the DnB room. hehhehheh... Anyway...hope to see everyone soon... -Grizz

That sounds good to me...thought my presence would depends on Kuro and Velvets attendance. -Grizz

Oh I do...and I do so at any and every given opportunity... *drool* My flesh...is so weak... -Grizz

I dunno...Wideskies knows my taste in men...but I think some of the hottest things on a guy are facial hair, thick furry forearms and thick furry calves...these things make men yummy...amoung...other...attractive body parts...*looks innocent* A nice ass and tummy is never to be over looked either... -Grizz

Yeah..don't forget Robotech and Tranzor Z...MASK...Thundercats... Atari and Pong machines... Those giant balls you sat on and bounced around...not pogo balls though... Quik Strawberry Milk Star Wars toys The list goes on and on... -Grizz

I gotta do good------->Cecil B Demented

What's this about guys feeling nuts and roll discounts? *ears perk* -Grizz