I know, but I am saying if it happens every now and than when you and your partner are in some heated fights, its never right, but after those fights you make up and prove your love to them, than couldn't one say that they were wrong in that short term but overall I now he or she loves and cares about me b/c of all the nice things they do for me. Hurtful words are wrong and they hurt alot, but if your overall actions are good and loving doesn't that override the hurtful words that are said in the heat of the moment.