starvingartist

Ok I see that I should have been more specific as far as explaining the situation at hand. It's quite long so I will attempt to give a brief synopsis. My passion is my career. I can not imagine life doing something else. I have put all my effort, drive and motivation towards my final goal which is having my own label. A former client has offered me a position in Milan. Quite frankly this happens to come at a time where I have lost interest in living and working in New York. This coupled with the fact that I am in love makes the otherwise easy decision to move complicated and filled with doubts. I think he would move but it is not realistic in the sense he does not speak Italian, and I can not imagine "making" him move on the account of my pursuit of fulfilling self interests. I guess the true question is whether or not love requires you to become selfless. Which to some degree I would say yes. On the same note, I do not think I could be selfless, maybe not now, maybe never. Thanks for the many replies I appreciate the input.

I left out the specifics of the situation because sometimes details cloud logically or otherwise sensible decisions. Well my career is my passion and honestly I feel they are in somewhat of an equilibrium at this point, which makes the decision the more difficult. Briefly, I'm in love and I'm debating moving. On top of that I would be traveling more frequently then I already do.

Love itself is am emotion, what do you mean by love would not make you choose? Do you mean your partner? Well life is not perfect sometimes the choice must be made,, But what is the "right" or should be the "right" choice and for what reasons....

Very well said. I must strongly disagree on the original point that American men are more assertive etc then their European counterparts. On the contrary, when it comes to gender specific behavior there are more commonalities found across all borders. Except one thing, Italian men are better lovers jk

What do you place the higher value on career or love? Which "should be" the most significant? Are the questions one in the same?

Good or bad? Would such an action help the economy? If so, what is the theory behind it working, or not working?

Is this happening or could be happening? I heard something along these lines but not the entirety of the story? If so, what are everyone's thoughts on this matter?

Ok, any examples?

Since you specified the color, here's one:

My intentions were not to be misconstrued as crying, complaining, etc. I was merely posing the question because I wanted a concrete answer. I have just been hearing a wide range of figures being thrown around and quite filter whats reliable or not. Thanks anyways. Oh and where are you getting this 25% return figure, because last I have read or researched showed finding an investment at even 12% right now is impossible in the U.S. I could be wrong though...

Actually I misread what you wrote. In any event, just because you have not seen something does not mean it does not exist. Also what do you consider healthy and prosperous? I think see very little relationships whether the people be similar or dissimilar to be healthy, hehe.

You do realize this is the exact opposite of what you said in the previous post?

People in general do not make sense.

I am being somewhat lazy,, However someone recently told me rough figures and I wanted to know if anyone knows the exact or can confirm them. I was told when Bush took office the U.S. had a surplus of roughly 200 million and that currently the deficit is 400 billion+. Is this information correct?

One of my favorite quotes from a film "You know what's wrong with you, Miss Whoever-you-are? You're chicken, you've got no guts. You're afraid to stick out your chin and say, 'Okay, life's a fact, people do fall in love, people do belong to each other, because that's the only chance anybody's got for real happiness.' You call yourself a free spirit, a 'wild thing,' and you're terrified somebody's gonna stick you in a cage. Well baby, you're already in that cage. You built it yourself. And it's not bounded in the west by Tulip, Texas, or in the east by Somali-land. It's wherever you go. Because no matter where you run, you just end up running into yourself." Paul Varjak

Ayer conocí un cielo sin sol y un hombre sin suelo un santo en prisión y una canción triste sin dueño Ya he ya he ya la he y conocí tus ojos negros ya he ya he ya la he y ahora sí que no puedo vivir sin ellos yo Le pido al cielo sólo un deseo que en tus ojos yo pueda vivir he recorrido ya el mundo etero y una cosa te vengo a decir viaje de Bahrein hasta Beirut fui desde el norte hasta el polo sur y no encontré ojos así como los que tienes tú Rabboussamai fikarrajaii fi ainaiha aralhayati ati ilaika min haza lkaaouni arjouka labbi labbi nidai viaje de Bahrein hasta Beirut fui desde el norte hasta el polo sur y no encontré ojos así como los que tienes tú Ayer vi pasar una mujer debajo de su camelo um río de sal un barco abandonado en el desierto Ya he ya he ya la he y conocí tus ojos negros ya he ya he ya la he y ahora sí que no puedo vivir sin ellos yo Le pido al cielo sólo un deseo que en tus ojos yo pueda vivir he recorrido ya el mundo etero y una cosa te vengo a decir viaje de Bahrein hasta Beirut fui desde el norte hasta el polo sur y no encontré ojos así como los que tienes tú

How big is your wall?

Well you should take the wall down either way and replace it with the bricks you want. But you will definitely need someone with some experience to help even if you do not take the wall down. Simply because you need to be precise with measuring the bricks and you will also have to cut bricks in half etc. (because you do not want them entirely aligned vertically) Good luck!

Well I am not entirely crazy about the brick look. However if your going to do it, I think it looks best when only one wall is brick preferably a wall with a window. Ok this may sound crazier but do you know what is behind your wall, there may in fact brick already there, ask because you may be able to just tear the wall down.

Jealousy is a personal characteristic which is difficult for most to change about themselves. What you are asking for basically is for this person to change. I am sure you know it is not easy for a person to change. The only thing you can do is express how you feel. Now you will not be able to change this person but he may be able to change the way he expresses his jealousy,suppresses it etc. This may sound bizarre to most but I do not view jealousy as such an evil concept. This characteristic may also be an extension of his overall passion, motivation for life, career. In the face of extreme behaviours, emotions there usually lies extreme noble characteristics in a sense. They tend to go hand in hand. The way a person acts towards you is also the way they behave towards greater things. I would never ask someone to change their entire attitude. In a sense their overall attitude is what attracted me to them in the first place.

Your judging an entire nation on the views of 10-20 people from a messageboard? Clearly it is a relatively small sample size, and quite frankly there were differing views which in my eyes is healthier then a one sided discussion. I would also like to point to the fact that the United States has a relatively small history when compared to those of other countries and the existence of human life altogether. On that note, in my eyes they have accomplished a great deal when it comes to the topic of progression and equality and I will also add at a greater increasing rate then most of the world. That is something to be proud of in my eyes. However I will also note that it fosters an ever growing way of life in which traditional values hold no place. Now some traditions have their place. For example the concept of marriage was brought up several times. Right now the country with the highest divorce rate is the U.S. Now I am not saying that divorce does not serve a much needed purpose in some cases. However the family unit is the basic unit which shapes individuals into whom they will become. I feel the U.S. is on one side of the spectrum in which everything with traditional values etc is thrown out in the name of "progression". And there are other countries in which every traditional value is held on to. The middle ground seems more appealing to me than either extreme. In which people respect individual differences but do not look down upon those who choose to live their lives according to a set of traditional values. It seems to me the only depressing part of it all is the hypocrisy that lies in the very hearts of those fighting for equality and progression who belittle and wish to throw away the very long extensive history of values, morale, culture, etc from the face of the earth. But this has a far greater consequence on every day life, happiness, family, etc. Ultimately when the acceptance of differences meets respect there will finally be progression on more then a national level, on a global level. Until that point in which individuals discontinue imposing their "right" "just" way of living on others, the entire country, the entire world there will be ever growing regression.

Does International Law undermine Democracy? If your country is governed by those whom you have elected but the ultimate power lies in International law is your involvement in government lessened in a sense? Can International law ever work in a world run by individual countries with vastly differing views, governement bodies, etc? Is nationalism good or bad? Or is nationalism the force that drives behaviours which are purely motivated by personal, individualistic gain? But could there ever be peace, an internationally respected governing body whose laws are enforced if there is more then one type of governement be it capitalistic, socialist, etc?

I somewhat agree and disagree with your views. I will not pass judgement on anyone who is gay, I accept everyone for who they are. However if they want a marriage license I believe they should be entitled to it. Now I will not go as far and say that homosexuality is "wrong" but I grew up in a very religious setting so I know it is not my place to judge. But as far as the right to adopt, etc well I can understand the reasons for debate, if same sexes were supposed to have children then they would be able to have it naturally. Then again there are also straight couples who can not have children and they adopt, etc. I am a strong believer in both science, religion, philosophy, logic, etc. Therefore I can look at certain things as right or wrong, but understand that I can not use biology, science, or logic to prove that it is wrong in anything more then a religious stand point. Finally to answer the question I would prefer a government that is run by the law of man and not by the law of God because quite frankly there is not one God, text, etc that everyone follows.

Actually out of all the places I have lived NY is by far the easiest to make it in, hehe. I just dislike the atmosphere, etc. My lease is also up this August, and quite frankly I honestly can not say whether or not I will renew it. Oh well, next week I am actually flying to Italy on assignment for two weeks and I guess during that time I will try and reach a decision.