Geez, some people just don't get it. Some people think depression is what happens when you favorite team loses or your car breaks down or your sweetheart breaks up with you, that you're sad and that's "depressed". But people with serious depression don't have any control over it, it affects them all day every day no matter what. They wake up depressed and they go to sleep depressed. They can win the multi-million dollar lottery and they'll still be depressed. They can have 1400 women wanting to fuck them and suck them, and they're still depressed, they can have all the success in the world and they're still depressed (Kurt Kobain, anyone?). Depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain which affects the emotions so that the person is always depressed. They can't help it. They can't just snap out of it. They can't say, "I'm going to make myself not be depressed." It doesn't work that way. Imagine this. You have dark glasses permanantly attached to your face. Every minute of every day of every month of every year you see the world, and life, through the dark lenses. Let's say that the lenses make everything look gray. Blue skies look gray. White doves look gray. Flowers and bright colors look gray. Everything looks dark gray to you and you can't will yourself to see everything light, because you're always looking through the gray lenses. Someone tells you, look at the pretty red flowers! But to you they're gray. Then they tell you, looks at the beautiful green grass and trees on the mountains, with the white clouds near the top. But to you the green grass is gray, the trees are gray, and the clouds are gray. And you can't control it because that is how your eyes see the world, because of the gray lenses. And you don't have the ability to remove the lenses. That's how life is to some people with depression. What people with depression need to do is see a doctor who can prescribe anti-depression medication for them, and they have to take it every day. A good anti-dep. med can alter the chemical imbalance and help them see the world without the gray lenses. It is a whole new world when the lenses fall off. With some people the depression is so severe that meds don't completely contain the chemical imbalance, but at least they will have some more control over the emotions and their life. Notallthere: I have read that people with depression become withdrawn from friends and sometimes sabotauge their own relationships. Some know they need meds but refuse to take them, and some others don't realize that meds can help them and so don't even ask about them. I hope that you're the second type of person. See a doctor and explain your symptoms and get yourself on a good anti-depression med. It can make all the difference to you, your life, your family, and your girlfriends. But be prepared for the side effects. Almost all anti-dep meds affect your libido, lessening your interest in sex and the pleasure of sex. Try Wellbutrin, it doesn't have that effect. Prozac, Paxil, Celexa, and many others do. Effexor is another one which I don't think affects the libido. But if you get on a med which lessens your libido, look on the bright side, any girlfriend will love having sex with you. Why? I'll put it bluntly this way...when I was on the first 3 meds I mentioned, I lasted an hour to two hours in bed with my girlfriend! I didn't feel it that much, and it was an hour or more before I shot my load, though when we watched porn flicks together I came a lot quicker. I think that was because she got so horny that she creamed a lot heavier and it felt better. Or maybe that combined with the porn getting me horny despite my weak libido helped. Good luck!