tommyarmani Posted September 26 Report Share Posted September 26 My one friend is so shy that when they mess his order up at a restaurant, he'll just say "its ok, I'll eat it anyway", knowing that he is unhappy about it but just too shy to say anything.Are woman more drawn to a strong type, or does it have to compliment that type of personality the girl has?Thanks,Wimp Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fkornre Posted September 26 Report Share Posted September 26 Originally posted by tommyarmani My one friend is so shy that when they mess his order up at a restaurant, he'll just say "its ok, I'll eat it anyway", knowing that he is unhappy about it but just too shy to say anything.Are woman more drawn to a strong type, or does it have to compliment that type of personality the girl has?Thanks,Wimp i think women want the guy to whip some a$$...thanxbrandy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tommyarmani Posted September 26 Author Report Share Posted September 26 Also, when he goes out to eat with his girl, He is too shy to tell the hostess "non smoking, table for 2" etc. He makes his girl say it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tommyarmani Posted September 26 Author Report Share Posted September 26 Originally posted by fkornre i think women want the guy to whip some a$$...thanxbrandy Trust me, Brandy is such a strong personality type, we clash constantly. I had to train her that i would order for us, not her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fkornre Posted September 26 Report Share Posted September 26 Originally posted by tommyarmani Trust me, Brandy is such a strong personality type, we clash constantly. I had to train her that i would order for us, not her. :laugh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tommyarmani Posted September 26 Author Report Share Posted September 26 Please advise. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastyt Posted September 26 Report Share Posted September 26 I think it depends on the woman. Some really dominant women need a more submissive man. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kaydup Posted September 26 Report Share Posted September 26 Tommy you have a lot of "friends" with problems Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bullseye Posted September 26 Report Share Posted September 26 Originally posted by kaydup Tommy you have a lot of "friends" with problems is it the friends? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tommyarmani Posted September 26 Author Report Share Posted September 26 Originally posted by kaydup Tommy you have a lot of "friends" with problems The shy freind is the total opposite of me. I am a total extrovert. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bklynzzfinest Posted September 26 Report Share Posted September 26 That doesnt sound like shyness to me... It sounds more like lack of self asteem. Hes not willing to stand up for what he wants. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tommyarmani Posted September 26 Author Report Share Posted September 26 Originally posted by bklynzzfinest That doesnt sound like shyness to me... It sounds more like lack of self asteem. Hes not willing to stand up for what he wants. He definitely is very insecure. probably go hand in hand. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
somebitch Posted September 26 Report Share Posted September 26 Originally posted by bklynzzfinest That doesnt sound like shyness to me... It sounds more like lack of self asteem. Hes not willing to stand up for what he wants. that is exactly what i was thinking. i think that is a huge turn off. i love confidence. i want someone who will walk into a restaurant and say they want the best table and not feel stupid. sometimes you feel stupid asking for something but then when you get it, it is so very worth it!! you have to ask for what you want, soemtimes even demand it otherwise you will always get shit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bklynzzfinest Posted September 26 Report Share Posted September 26 That sucks, one of my friends has like 0 self asteem. Hes not really a great looking kid, but If he just stood up straight, fixed himself up a little, and show some assertiveness im sure hes do ok with the woman. but i cant even remember the lastime he said he went out with somebody Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sexxyme Posted September 26 Report Share Posted September 26 I hateeee shy guys!! I think it's the biggest turn off when a guy can't stand up for himself..I mean, if I can do it..SO SHOULD HE!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
somebitch Posted September 26 Report Share Posted September 26 Originally posted by bklynzzfinest That sucks, one of my friends has like 0 self asteem. Hes not really a great looking kid, but If he just stood up straight, fixed himself up a little, and show some assertiveness im sure hes do ok with the woman. but i cant even remember the lastime he said he went out with somebody it is really sad. sometimes i feel insecure. i used to feel so stupid to do anything, i would sometimes not do thigns because of it, but now i have gotten to the point where i just dont give a shit... i am comfortable with who i am and if people dont like it they can kiss my ass, besides i find that i like people who say/do what they feel & i think others appreciate upfront people rather than people who keep their feelings inside too. it is boring if someone never speaks their mind. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wideskies Posted September 26 Report Share Posted September 26 Originally posted by somebitch it is boring if someone never speaks their mind. and totally destructive in a long-term relationship. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Felix_Leiter Posted September 26 Report Share Posted September 26 i always speak my mind Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tommyarmani Posted September 26 Author Report Share Posted September 26 Originally posted by bklynzzfinest That sucks, one of my friends has like 0 self asteem. Hes not really a great looking kid, but If he just stood up straight, fixed himself up a little, and show some assertiveness im sure hes do ok with the woman. but i cant even remember the lastime he said he went out with somebody I know exactly what you mean. People with thier lazy walk & poor posture just seem so unsure of themself. Head up, chest out & walk........... Thanks, Gus Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastey Posted September 26 Report Share Posted September 26 Originally posted by bklynzzfinest That doesnt sound like shyness to me... It sounds more like lack of self asteem. Hes not willing to stand up for what he wants. agreed... he doesn´t even have the guts to STATE what he wants. this isn´t really attractive... *to most women*. some will probably keep him as a puppy, let him pay and use him as emotional tampon, and if he´s very lucky give him some pussy, but only when *she* decides it.i also predict (cause IME it goes along with the type) that the guy is one without any real opinion, or at least a very "moldable" opinion. meaning he has no backbone when he says something at all. he says things that he thinks will please other people and has no "real" personality that you can grasp but rather is very agreeable with eveything. it´s not that he´s lying, it is that he has no real sense of "self".and to your first question, yes it is a turnoff for most women (with exceptions of course). the big big majority of women wants a man with confidence and backbone, someone who´s honest and has an own opinion even when it´s not always the same opinion as the woman has, someone who will stand up for his needs and wants (and therefor will stand up for "his" woman too if they should get together) and someone who doesn´t beat around the bush. someone that they think can make good decisions for the both of them, so if she´s in times of doubt, the woman can *count* on the man to make the right decision for the both of them (read: her).if he doesn´t make any decisions at all, stands up for nothing, is flexible in his opinions like play dough and shows no confidence, attraction goes out the window for women (with a very very small exception of course, like dominant females (as tastyt pointed out) or females with strong maternal instincts (that will treat him like a child but take care of him))hope that helped! cheers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bklynzzfinest Posted September 26 Report Share Posted September 26 Originally posted by somebitch it is really sad. sometimes i feel insecure. I was insecure around girls till I was like 15 or 16 then I realized I had just hooked up with like 4 girls in like just over a week.. and I said fuck... I must have something going for me, and never looked back.Im not saying im full of myself, or anything but when you have a + attitude you much more likely to get places. or in places if ya catch my drift Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tommyarmani Posted September 26 Author Report Share Posted September 26 Tastey, very well said! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hotbarbiedoll Posted September 26 Report Share Posted September 26 :: too shy to answer this question::No really, I hate a guy who is shy because, like someone else said, it is usually a sign of low or no self-esteem..Confidence is a very important factor in a person.. You usually view a person how they portray themselves..If they are shy and timid, we automatically view them as "weak". But if they present themselves with good or "worthy" opinion of themselves, they usually will recieve something of the same respect back. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jimk29 Posted September 26 Report Share Posted September 26 I'm very shy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fkornre Posted September 26 Report Share Posted September 26 the real question is...Tommy how do u like ur guys??? shy or not??? :laugh: thanxbrandy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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