***tips for kissing***

[dmgreenz]

Advice for first time kissers? What age audience are you writing for? But, I guess with each new person, it's kind of like the first time. . .

DM

Originally posted by tropix11:

I am trying to put together a good little bit of advice for first time kissers. Also, a girl I just recently kissed didn't seem to enjoy it, so I am also trying to pick up some tips myself. Thanks guys!

Peace Out!

[dmgreenz]

I wrote this one up awhile back, but it seems that the time has come to revive it. . .

This could be a pretty interesting thread. One thing that I noticed is that just about everyone that replied assumed it had to be an open mouth kiss. That's sometimes the least interesting because it's the most expected. There are other places that like to be kissed, and they feel different for the kissee and the kisser. Don't forget about them! I've gotten some good responses on these techniques from the ladies, so read on:

Depending on the situation and the person, I might like to start somewhere other than the mouth, maybe the back of the neck, the arm, a hand, a forehead. Sometimes it's about the surprise and giving attention to the 'underserved' parts of the body, then working on over to the mouth. I've been with people that say I have stimulated other parts of their body just through kissing - parts that aren't anywhere near the mouth. Build up the suspense and it can turn an average kisser into a kissing superhero. Kissing is the kind of thing that just about anyone can get good at (with practice, patience, and a bit of self control).

A few weeks ago, i was hanging out with a long-time friend of mine (that I've never hooked up with). We were on my sofa after a long night of clubbing/rolling and we just started playing with each others hands. I ened up kissing her hands and arms for about 10 minutes and I think we both really enjoyed it (I know I did). It didn't turn into anything bigger, didn't need to.

But, to the point of mouth kissing, something too aggressive can be overkill and really kill the moment. I like to start out slow, mostly lips, no tongue. Varying the pressure and duration of a lip kiss can be pretty hot. This approach can be a lot more sensual than full on tongue. It requires a lot more creativity and talent. Go slow with the tongue, and work to get into the grove with your partner. If you both synch up and get on the same groove, you can kiss for hours. it's wonderful. Sometimes, I'll give someone a little teaser kiss, let it linger for awhile (1/2 hour, day, week), then go back later on and pick up where I left off.

And, then what to do with the rest of the body? So many people want to paw and grope, but I find that distracting for both people. I like to focus just on the kissing sensation. leaving the hands out of it - at least for the start. I've been in situations where I've had to 'readjust' the girls hand because I wasn't ready to be distracted with other things.

When I'm rolling at a club, kissing is sometimes the only thing that I want to do. But, I'm just not forward enough to head up to an attractive women and start doing that off that bat. And, I just don't think that kind of behavior would be well received. It's also hard to 'chat someone up' when I'm busy looking at their lips thinking about the kind of kiss I could serve up. But, if she came up to me and started slow, I'd probably be into it.

So, that's what I've learned. Ladies, if someone was able to put all this into practice, would it score well on the kiss-o-meter?

DM

[nickijay]

Originally posted by dmgreenz:

I wrote this one up awhile back, but it seems that the time has come to revive it. . .

This could be a pretty interesting thread. One thing that I noticed is that just about everyone that replied assumed it had to be an open mouth kiss. That's sometimes the least interesting because it's the most expected. There are other places that like to be kissed, and they feel different for the kissee and the kisser. Don't forget about them! I've gotten some good responses on these techniques from the ladies, so read on:

Depending on the situation and the person, I might like to start somewhere other than the mouth, maybe the back of the neck, the arm, a hand, a forehead. Sometimes it's about the surprise and giving attention to the 'underserved' parts of the body, then working on over to the mouth. I've been with people that say I have stimulated other parts of their body just through kissing - parts that aren't anywhere near the mouth. Build up the suspense and it can turn an average kisser into a kissing superhero. Kissing is the kind of thing that just about anyone can get good at (with practice, patience, and a bit of self control).

A few weeks ago, i was hanging out with a long-time friend of mine (that I've never hooked up with). We were on my sofa after a long night of clubbing/rolling and we just started playing with each others hands. I ened up kissing her hands and arms for about 10 minutes and I think we both really enjoyed it (I know I did). It didn't turn into anything bigger, didn't need to.

But, to the point of mouth kissing, something too aggressive can be overkill and really kill the moment. I like to start out slow, mostly lips, no tongue. Varying the pressure and duration of a lip kiss can be pretty hot. This approach can be a lot more sensual than full on tongue. It requires a lot more creativity and talent. Go slow with the tongue, and work to get into the grove with your partner. If you both synch up and get on the same groove, you can kiss for hours. it's wonderful. Sometimes, I'll give someone a little teaser kiss, let it linger for awhile (1/2 hour, day, week), then go back later on and pick up where I left off.

And, then what to do with the rest of the body? So many people want to paw and grope, but I find that distracting for both people. I like to focus just on the kissing sensation. leaving the hands out of it - at least for the start. I've been in situations where I've had to 'readjust' the girls hand because I wasn't ready to be distracted with other things.

When I'm rolling at a club, kissing is sometimes the only thing that I want to do. But, I'm just not forward enough to head up to an attractive women and start doing that off that bat. And, I just don't think that kind of behavior would be well received. It's also hard to 'chat someone up' when I'm busy looking at their lips thinking about the kind of kiss I could serve up. But, if she came up to me and started slow, I'd probably be into it.

So, that's what I've learned. Ladies, if someone was able to put all this into practice, would it score well on the kiss-o-meter?

DM

I give it a A+ but I'd need to experience it in real life to give you a valid grade....tee hee, I knew there was a reason I liked you!!

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[dmgreenz]

I'll be sure to bring the evaluation survey so you can fill it out and give me a grade.

Hopefully this isn't the kind of report card my parents need to sign. ;-)

And, I thought there was some other reason you liked me, something from Googies (or whatever that place was called)

DM

I give it a A+ but I'd need to experience it in real life to give you a valid grade....tee hee, I knew there was a reason I liked you!!

[trippintrance64]

anyone care about what *I* had to say? shit i put a good 15 mins into that one.

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[melichacha]

Originally posted by tyco:

and there you have it.......you get laid 1 hour later.......

Mikey

... Unless you disappear...

hehe...

ANYway, I agree for the most part -- it's all about suspense and fun tension...

- Meli -

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[deanna11]

Originally posted by trippintrance64:

anyone care about what *I* had to say? shit i put a good 15 mins into that one.

Al, all you guys are scaring me. you don't need to be exchanging tips! it's not fair to us girlies

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[trippintrance64]

Originally posted by deanna11:

Al, all you guys are scaring me. you don't need to be exchanging tips! it's not fair to us girlies

err...why isnt it fair? we gotta make ya want us somehow no?

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-----"A man makes his sunshine, and he makes his rain. Look at what you have, and where you are, before you say, "I've had a horrible day" Appreciate what you have, and realize how much others wish they could have that much. Live Life, and LOVE IT!" --Me

-----"Live for Twilo Fridays, The rest are just details" -Me

-----"I can walk in straight lines, within my own crooked world" -a drunken Aramis Ponte

[deanna11]

Originally posted by trippintrance64:

err...why isnt it fair? we gotta make ya want us somehow no?

we already do

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[twilogoddess]

i love it when guys suck my tongue....mmmmmm

[misskittie]

Originally posted by twilogoddess:

i love it when guys suck my tongue....mmmmmm

Oh yea me too me too!! It just kind of gives ya a hint as to what they can do in *other areas*

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[melichacha]

Originally posted by twilogoddess:

i love it when guys suck my tongue....mmmmmm

Excellent call..

- meli -

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"MeliChaCha -- Saving the world before bedtime... wait... I'm supposed to SLEEP?!"

... and to all my people, "Peace -- and Humpty-ness forever!"

AIM: MeliChaCha

E-MAIL: MeliChaCha@powerpuff.com <--- new addy!

OR MeliChaCha@aol.com

[trippintrance64]

Originally posted by deanna11:

we already do

Unfortunatley....not all of us are wanted as much as others. namley....Me.

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-----"A man makes his sunshine, and he makes his rain. Look at what you have, and where you are, before you say, "I've had a horrible day" Appreciate what you have, and realize how much others wish they could have that much. Live Life, and LOVE IT!" --Me

-----"Live for Twilo Fridays, The rest are just details" -Me

-----"I can walk in straight lines, within my own crooked world" -a drunken Aramis Ponte

[divalicious]

I like it when a guy hasn't had a breath mint or used a tooth brush, and has not swallowed his saliva in a while. And he shouldn't lick his lips just before, because dry chappy lips ar sooo appealing. Then he should grab me roughly by the back of my head, and shove his Viagra charged tongue into the back of my throat and move it like a blender trying to puree my tonsils. Oh and he shouldn't forget to make sure both of his lips are waaay outside of mine, you know, his top lip on the tip of my nose and the bottom on my chin, sort of like he's trying suck my face off. Yeah, that really makes for a great kiss!!!

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Peace Love Happiness y'all

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[mattyparsons]

all these things are great, but if you love the person you're kissing........

you can't beat that, and to me, that's all that matters.

now back to the real world where i ain't kissing anyone, and haven't for almost two months now!

AND

haven't kissed someone i loved in almost two years......

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there's no time like the present to start procrastinating!

[tropix11]

thanx for the tips guys. Especially the long ones that go into detail. Hopefully the next time I see this girl she will be amazed, huh?

Peace Out!

[nickijay]

Originally posted by divalicious:

I like it when a guy hasn't had a breath mint or used a tooth brush, and has not swallowed his saliva in a while. And he shouldn't lick his lips just before, because dry chappy lips ar sooo appealing. Then he should grab me roughly by the back of my head, and shove his Viagra charged tongue into the back of my throat and move it like a blender trying to puree my tonsils. Oh and he shouldn't forget to make sure both of his lips are waaay outside of mine, you know, his top lip on the tip of my nose and the bottom on my chin, sort of like he's trying suck my face off. Yeah, that really makes for a great kiss!!!

RMAOLOF - ROLLING MY ASS OFF LAUGHING ON FLOOR!!!!

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[foxyroxy20]

everyone gave some good advice, but not everyone likes the soft kisses all the time, some ppl like the hard long passionate kisses, shoving the tougue all in there, etc. I know i do, I hate the soft kisses, its ok at first, but if its too slow and barely touching tongues,then i am turned off and bored. So u just have to find out what each person likes, go with the flow.

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[tropix11]

Once again guys, thanx for your input. ( I don't want to be one of those "new people" on the post who don't reply).

Peace Out!

[ooana]

Kat, I think we had the right idea earlier today...<winks>

Mikey..how're those studies going? <smiles innocently>

-Oo

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---"Cause you're a boy, silly."

"For the Greeks, the hidden life demanded invisible ink. They wrote an ordinary letter and in between the lines set out to write another letter, written in milk. The document looked innocent enough until one who knew better sprinkled coal-dust over it. What the letter had been no longer mattered: what mattered was the life flaring up undetected..."

[misskittie]

Originally posted by ooana:

Kat, I think we had the right idea earlier today...<winks>

Mikey..how're those studies going? <smiles innocently>

-Oo

Hmmmm yes I do agree with you there!!! I think we need to start that back up again...shall we??? Maybe we can be a lil more *descriptive*....Im feelin bad today!

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"Love is friendship set to music."

...E. Joseph Crossmann

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[dmgreenz]

And, weren't you saying something about the fewer teeth the better? They just get in the way of a good gums kiss.

DM

Originally posted by divalicious:

I like it when a guy hasn't had a breath mint or used a tooth brush, and has not swallowed his saliva in a while. And he shouldn't lick his lips just before, because dry chappy lips ar sooo appealing. Then he should grab me roughly by the back of my head, and shove his Viagra charged tongue into the back of my throat and move it like a blender trying to puree my tonsils. Oh and he shouldn't forget to make sure both of his lips are waaay outside of mine, you know, his top lip on the tip of my nose and the bottom on my chin, sort of like he's trying suck my face off. Yeah, that really makes for a great kiss!!!

[jammy]

Originally posted by divalicious:

I like it when a guy hasn't had a breath mint or used a tooth brush, and has not swallowed his saliva in a while. And he shouldn't lick his lips just before, because dry chappy lips ar sooo appealing. Then he should grab me roughly by the back of my head, and shove his Viagra charged tongue into the back of my throat and move it like a blender trying to puree my tonsils. Oh and he shouldn't forget to make sure both of his lips are waaay outside of mine, you know, his top lip on the tip of my nose and the bottom on my chin, sort of like he's trying suck my face off. Yeah, that really makes for a great kiss!!!

ROFLMAO!!!

~*Jam*~

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[ooana]

Originally posted by misskittie:

Hmmmm yes I do agree with you there!!! I think we need to start that back up again...shall we??? Maybe we can be a lil more *descriptive*....Im feelin bad today!

And this is different than everyday...how?

;-)

-Oo

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"When the soul wishes to experience something, she throws an image of the experience out before her, and enters into her own image."

---"You have wings! Why don't I have wings?!"

---"Cause you're a boy, silly."

"For the Greeks, the hidden life demanded invisible ink. They wrote an ordinary letter and in between the lines set out to write another letter, written in milk. The document looked innocent enough until one who knew better sprinkled coal-dust over it. What the letter had been no longer mattered: what mattered was the life flaring up undetected..."

[nickijay]

Originally posted by dmgreenz:

I'll be sure to bring the evaluation survey so you can fill it out and give me a grade.

Hopefully this isn't the kind of report card my parents need to sign. ;-)

And, I thought there was some other reason you liked me, something from Googies (or whatever that place was called)

DM

What, you mean that glimpse of nipple I caught when Divalicious and I were lifting up your shirt?? I'll take that too!! You'd better watch out, Mister Greenz......

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