static_cling Posted November 3 Report Share Posted November 3 I need to ask you all a question. I have been in a relationship for a while now, and I love the girl to death. She's my best friend as well as my lady. The only problem is this....Our love life is lacking. Like even when we do have sex, it's boring and I can't wait for it to be over. It's like I do it just to keep her happy. Personally I am a freak. I love sex and doing whatever, only problem is, the way I feel about her, I don't want to do these things with her. I want physical, sweaty, "dirty" sex. Am I wrong (I'm sure I am), that I want to have a mistress or someone who I can go to, who perhaps is in the same position as me, that I can have wonderful, marathon sex with on occasion? Does anyone out there have this problem? It's just I'm a good looking guy and always had great sex my whole life and now I feel so unhappy and sexually fustrated. Can anyone make light of this for me?Thanks.......... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
risa06 Posted November 3 Report Share Posted November 3 it looks like you and your girl are more friends than lovers...may be you should take some time off.........CHEATING IS BAD....VERY BAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
static_cling Posted November 3 Author Report Share Posted November 3 I wish I could but we live together. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
risa06 Posted November 3 Report Share Posted November 3 so move out...go back home....tell her to go back to her momm for some time...........there is always a way out!!! u just have to look for it........... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
static_cling Posted November 3 Author Report Share Posted November 3 I hear what you are saying but we are stuck in a lease and I can't afford to keep the apartment myself or stick her with it. I am emotionally happy with her. I just feel I need to be happy sexually too..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mysteriousss Posted November 3 Report Share Posted November 3 Like everyone already said, there is NOTHING worse than cheating. You will feel like SHIT if you do, especially since you say that you love this girl.. You're probably afraid to tell her that you want something freakier in bed coz she'll think that you're sick or something. Is she really closed minded about these things or are you just scared to even approach the subject? If the ONLY problem in this relationship is sex, talk to her or slowly make it more and more "fun". Every other time do something new and see how she reacts. She might get freaked out, then ask her why she doesn't like it. Some ppl are just not very open to new things no matter what they are. But MAYBE, just MAYBE she thinks the same thing and WANTS you to get dirtier with her. You never know. It's always those quiet ones that are the true freaks Bring it out in her, she'll love it! Let her discover new things that she'd never even thought of. Part of why sex is so much fun is because you get to discover new things all the time about you, your body and your partner.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
divvalicious Posted November 3 Report Share Posted November 3 hey once it starts turning into that "i love him/her like a sister..when u stop being sexually attracted to the person...there isnt much u can do...i know you "love her" but sex is a very important factor. and you should be able to be with someone that you love and have the best sex with...so maybe its time you break up and look for someone else, before you end up cheating on her and hurting her even more...------------------~~PaRt TiMe AngEL PaRt tImE DeViL~~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sosultan Posted November 3 Report Share Posted November 3 I know exactly what you should do! Surprise her! Invite some hoes over for a night, and indulge yourself into an unforgettable orgy! Make sure to use chains, a whip, and lots of leather. or, you can do what everyone else tells you here, -- communication is the key (make sure you bring it up in bed though) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mysteriousss Posted November 3 Report Share Posted November 3 Originally posted by sosultan:I know exactly what you should do! Surprise her! Invite some hoes over for a night, and indulge yourself into an unforgettable orgy! Make sure to use chains, a whip, and lots of leather. or, you can do what everyone else tells you here, -- communication is the key (make sure you bring it up in bed though)OMG you're crazy He didn't ask for advice on how to give this girl a heart attack Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
littled Posted November 3 Report Share Posted November 3 get a movie....a porn if she'll go for it, if not, get something erotic (maybe Eyes Wide Shut) and watch it w/ her. don't tell her why, but just imply what you like about it and ask her what she likes. hopefully you'll both get turned on and be able to take it to another level. good luck Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
risa06 Posted November 4 Report Share Posted November 4 Originally posted by static_cling:I hear what you are saying but we are stuck in a lease and I can't afford to keep the apartment myself or stick her with it. I am emotionally happy with her. I just feel I need to be happy sexually too.....listen...may be you should tell her what you told us....tell her what you need/like/want/have to have....u never know...may be she has a lil freak in her too......ask your gilrie....... I had the same problem w/ my ex b/f...I felt like I needed so much more than just making love and all these other sweet things....so I told him (it took alot to do that..trust me) what I want...and he was like..."omg...I was waiting for it"............just try.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
static_cling Posted November 4 Author Report Share Posted November 4 Risa thanks for all your responses, but honestly I don't think I want to do these things with her. I'm just so confused. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xxxdrewxxx Posted November 4 Report Share Posted November 4 Originally posted by static_cling:I hear what you are saying but we are stuck in a lease and I can't afford to keep the apartment myself or stick her with it. I am emotionally happy with her. I just feel I need to be happy sexually too.....What's up? Listen, I know exactly how you feel right now. But your at a point right now where your options are limited. Cheating should be out of the question though.Communication is the key here. You need to voice how you feel to her. If she doesn't know that you are unhappy with your sex life, then how can she make changes to help improve it? Try new things with her. I know you stated that you didn't want to do those kind of things with her, and that brings up another point. Why not? I'll have to agree with Risa, that you guys are more friends then lovers, and that isn't always a bad thing. But this is something that you need to think about. Are you still sexually attracted at all? No matter how shallow it seems, sex will make or break a relationship. You HAVE to be sexually attracted. Take a step back and look at the whole picture bro. Sounds to me like there might be more to this story then your letting out...Drew------------------You know everything will flow... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
risa06 Posted November 4 Report Share Posted November 4 Originally posted by static_cling:Risa thanks for all your responses, but honestly I don't think I want to do these things with her. I'm just so confused. hey...no problem hon...I hope things will work out for you........but just like Drew said.... cheatining should be out of question.....take careoh and Drew....I agree w/ you 100% darlin' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xxxdrewxxx Posted November 4 Report Share Posted November 4 Originally posted by risa06: hey...no problem hon...I hope things will work out for you........but just like Drew said.... cheatining should be out of question.....take careoh and Drew....I agree w/ you 100% darlin' Thank you sweetie... Unfortunately, I have a lot of expierience with fucked up relationships and the problems that come along with them. I guess I can really pick em... Drew------------------You know everything will flow... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
risa06 Posted November 4 Report Share Posted November 4 Originally posted by xxxxdrewxxxx: Thank you sweetie... Unfortunately, I have a lot of expierience with fucked up relationships and the problems that come along with them. I guess I can really pick em... Drewhmmmmmmm...same here ....oh well..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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