while thinking about the past, i wonder if any of you have done the same thing; i'm looking for some stories and/or input on this topic. i broke up with the second important guy in my history because i lost my attraction to him. that came about simply because the guy couldn't kiss, for as long as we were together, no matter how much i tried to show him how i liked to do it (i'm not even gonna say "teach," although, in his case, that might actually be valid.). it went from disappointing to annoying to repulsive. looking back, i sometimes feel bad for breaking up with him, but, at the same time, if we weren't compatible on that level, we really weren't compatible in general. here's another story, though, that i think's a little different. i have a friend who won't go out with a guy who won't go down on her right away. that's her number one requirement in bed. i can understand that being important to her, and i think that's valid, but, if a guy has reservations, yet is willing to work up to it, isn't what the relationship could become (both sexually speaking and not) worth the wait? thoughts?