If she’s really on your mind, then call her up and be blunt and direct with her about how you feel. Tell her that she’s been on your mind, and you’re trying to initiate some sort of relationship with her. Ask her whatever’s on your mind, like is she seeing someone else, etc., but don’t get all upset or angry if she tells you something ou don’t want to hear. If she wants to get with you, cool. If not, leave her alone then. Don’t waste your time showing attention to someone that won’t reciprocate. P.S., NYC to St. Louis? Sounds a little to far to me. A day’s driving (5-6 hours) is about as far as I can do for a long distance relationship.