ok, for me personally, i am NOT one that has to commit...if anything, i usually run the other way but i am really, really picky--it is kinda a catch22 situation, i think, cause on the one hand, i would love to find that someone that i can build my life with, and when/if i find that someone that makes me happy, i am more than ready to commit...BUT, the problem is, everyone i seem to date, meet, whatever is not someone that i can see spending an extended amount of time with(for whatever various reasons)...so, for ME, i would rather be single and do my own thing than settle just for the sake of commitment, and some false sense of security. when i do date someone, i now take it super-slow and really find out about them instead of giving into my wishful thinking and jumping into a commitment i am going to run away from the next day a little long, but since no one but spygirl stepped up, i figured i may as well