you think? lol...ok, i agree that the labels are notsomuch important, and personally, i RUN from calling someone my BF--that is a 4-letter word as far as i am concerned...BUT without labels of some kind, you have to be sure that the other is not just having cake and eating it too and taking you for granted, as unfortunately began to happen in NYCchic's long relationship, and i am sure has happened to many of us...without the tie of a label or the commitment it implies, we get more relaxed and we get away from the responsibilities we should have towards someone we want to be with, b/c "i don't have to do XY or Z, they aren't my BF/GF"...so, i agree we can get along without labels, just like people can be perfectly happy in love and never marrying, but for me, i eventually want some security and i want a title when i am ready...just my thoughts...