does profession matter to you in a mate?

[weyes]

i strolled into work from the sears auto center after dropping off my car, and my co-worker dropped what she was doing to give me a wide-eyed look.

"was the guy with the crazy glasses there?" she asked, hurriedly.

when i saw him there i had immediately thought of my co-worker; he was just her type. he's what my friends and i, back in the day, used to call "dork funky": someone who wears all the nerdy stuff with a sense of humor, trying to make it cool.

anycaca, i said, "yes," but didn't agree with her on the cuteness factor. but she said she wouldn't go out with a mechanic, anyway. i found that elitist and snobby . i don't care what a guy does, as long as he has the qualities i look for in a guy, which include education and intelligence; i think my co-worker jumps to the conclusion that auto mechanics aren't smart. i feel that, if a guy loves cars, devoting his time to them and getting paid for it is just the same as me following my calling, whatever that is.

are there people you wouldn't go out with just because of their professions? (obviously, a 30-year-old making minimum wage at bk doesn't count , but that speaks more to a lack of drive or motivation. i think you know what i mean.) are there any careers that are just no-nos?

[joeg]

wow, thats pretty fucked up...

jobs are jobs, ppl change jobs all the time, most people don't even like their job... its not really a piece of who you are in every case...

i wouldn't go out with anyone whos that stuckup...

maybe i'm nieve, or just a sappy romantic... but you can't use occupation as a contributing factor for love (or some pseudo-elitest version of love...)

i'm an IT Professional and i'd actually LIKE to find a female mechanic to go out with... or even more loony than that... my ideal girl would be an aspiring comic... (yeah, you'll note that being a comic, especially an aspiring one is not even thought to BE a real job in most people's eyes)

[petp]

the job per say does not matter, its the motivation behind it that matters to me. if a person is a hair stylist cause they like making people look their best thats a whole lot better than someone who wants to be a lawyer cause they want to chase ambulances and sue people.

[dolcemimi]

Alot of women do care about the guy's profession.

Sad but true.

[marcid21]

Originally posted by petp

the job per say does not matter, its the motivation behind it that matters to me. if a person is a hair stylist cause they like making people look their best thats a whole lot better than someone who wants to be a lawyer cause they want to chase ambulances and sue people.

i want someone who is as passionate about their career as they are about me.

Determination, success, and the ability to do and do well....no matter what profession. I don't want someone who is just skidding by, taking whatever task comes their way, but at the same time I don't want someone who takes work home with them.

Actually, I think career choices / motivation can tell you a lot about that person's ethic in general.

[rdancer]

Who cares what profession you are, as long as your making lots of loot... and its legal!

[notallthere]

As long as shes smart i dont care if she is a bum.

[dolcemimi]

Oh I don't care what the guy does but what I do care is about

AMBITION + PASSION !!!

If you're not ambitious or passionate - not my type !

[somebitch]

yeah i care, what you do says a lot about who you are. someone with no goals is not sexy to me. whether your goal is to be an artist or to own your own business, i dont care but i do care that the person is passionate about doing well in their career. then again, i shouldnt talk, im pretty lazy

[nympho69]

Originally posted by marcid21

i want someone who is as passionate about their career as they are about me.

Determination, success, and the ability to do and do well....no matter what profession. I don't want someone who is just skidding by, taking whatever task comes their way, but at the same time I don't want someone who takes work home with them.

Actually, I think career choices / motivation can tell you a lot about that person's ethic in general.

very well put

couldnt have said it better myself

[ou812]

OHhhh C'mon, you know what's up..........you've heard the songs:

"Gotta have a J-O-B, if you wanna be with me."

"Ain't no romance without finance"

"Ain't nuttin' going on but da rent"

and BTW...................what the fuck does anycaca mean?

[cintron]

some people hold a belief that they can't date anyone who's not "on their level."

with that belief comes a stereotype that people of a certain intellect hold certain jobs and that life operates in a fixed structure, with the "lesser" people holding the simpler jobs.

It's not true.

I'm [kind of] a mechanic, seeing as I spend most of my time in the shop working on my car or someone else's when i'm not in class.

I"m a mechanical engineer and i'd like to work for Toyota or Honda racing at some point, being a professional mechanic on an F1 team or involved in motorsports somehow.

Does that make me a "lesser" person? a simpleton?

I think not.

I too appreciate works of the literary cannon, i can carry on intelligent conversation provided i'm with company capable of doing the same. I appreciate art, jazz music, fine dining and all the walks of life that people assume only come with "higher society."

Just because i'd like to turn wrenches and race for a living doesn't mean that i'm "blue collar" in terms of my job and my personality.

Weyes, you're right. I do think it's elitist. If someone wants a sugar daddy, that's one reason... but simply discounting everyone because of their job is, to coin a phrase, judging a book by it's cover. Granted the average mechanic may not be a stunning intellectual tour de force, but at the same time there are many individuals whose personalities and taste for life may be far from what the stereotype for their particular job is.

Your friend won't ever understand that, so long as she holds that attitude.

[georgeacasta2]

Originally posted by cintron

some people hold a belief that they can't date anyone who's not "on their level."

with that belief comes a stereotype that people of a certain intellect hold certain jobs and that life operates in a fixed structure, with the "lesser" people holding the simpler jobs.

It's not true.

I'm [kind of] a mechanic, seeing as I spend most of my time in the shop working on my car or someone else's when i'm not in class.

I"m a mechanical engineer and i'd like to work for Toyota or Honda racing at some point, being a professional mechanic on an F1 team or involved in motorsports somehow.

Does that make me a "lesser" person? a simpleton?

I think not.

I too appreciate works of the literary cannon, i can carry on intelligent conversation provided i'm with company capable of doing the same. I appreciate art, jazz music, fine dining and all the walks of life that people assume only come with "higher society."

Just because i'd like to turn wrenches and race for a living doesn't mean that i'm "blue collar" in terms of my job and my personality.

Weyes, you're right. I do think it's elitist. If someone wants a sugar daddy, that's one reason... but simply discounting everyone because of their job is, to coin a phrase, judging a book by it's cover. Granted the average mechanic may not be a stunning intellectual tour de force, but at the same time there are many individuals whose personalities and taste for life may be far from what the stereotype for their particular job is.

Your friend won't ever understand that, so long as she holds that attitude.

[Mystify]

what's important to me is that the person has goals, ambition, and drive... someone who's lazy and doesn't work for what they want turns me off.... i want to be successful and i work very hard and i'm motivated, so ideally, i would want those traits in a partner....

passion is also an important factor, who cares if they've got a great job, if they're not passionate about that they do, the succes doesn't mean anything

[tastyt]

Originally posted by somebitch

yeah i care, what you do says a lot about who you are. someone with no goals is not sexy to me. whether your goal is to be an artist or to own your own business, i dont care but i do care that the person is passionate about doing well in their career. then again, i shouldnt talk, im pretty lazy

That sounds about right. We spend most of our waking life at work (sad but true), if you're miserable at work chances are you're going to be miserable everywhere else. Then again, in this economy there are a lot of people who are just holding onto their jobs for the security factor, and who can blame them? But as long as you have dreams and goals and are working towards them, that's the important thing.

I've actually never dated a "professional," suit and tie guys have never really done it for me. There's something about a man doing manly things that just makes me.... mmmm. Just because someone works with their hands doesn't mean they can't use their brain too.

[nSyNcBaBy]

Originally posted by Mystify22

what's important to me is that the person has goals, ambition, and drive... someone who's lazy and doesn't work for what they want turns me off.... i want to be successful and i work very hard and i'm motivated, so ideally, i would want those traits in a partner....

passion is also an important factor, who cares if they've got a great job, if they're not passionate about that they do, the succes doesn't mean anything

i agree.

[cintron]

Originally posted by georgeacasta2

"Hi my name is Earl. I like candlelit dinners, romantic walks on the beach and only the finest wine in a box that money can buy."

not even close.

[marcid21]

Originally posted by cintron

"Hi my name is Earl. I like candlelit dinners, romantic walks on the beach and only the finest wine in a box that money can buy."

not even close.

... try here Sparky

www.match.com

[cintron]

I tried it, put in my critera, you know - likes anal sex, hamsters, tubs of Jell-O and french ticklers and you're not on there, bitch.

did you stop liking the jellO?

[scaredgirl]

I wouldn't go out with a porno star i just think i cant handle that ..........

[cintron]

Originally posted by scaredgirl

I wouldn't go out with a porno star i just think i cant handle that ..........

I bet you don't like buying used sneakers either you elitist bitch!

:goofy:

[marcid21]

Originally posted by cintron

I tried it, put in my critera, you know - likes anal sex, hamsters, tubs of Jell-O and french ticklers and you're not on there, bitch.

did you stop liking the jellO?

NAH.....I think you just forgot to mention your boundless love for genital warts.

[magellanmax]

Originally posted by georgeacasta2

LMAO !! Thats really cold George...

Cintron is better than that !!! Daaaayuuum !!

[scaredgirl]

Originally posted by cintron

I bet you don't like buying used sneakers either you elitist bitch!

:goofy:

WHO DID U CALL ELITIST BITCH???

hey i dont know u , i never spoke with u , is my feeliings ,

my toughts ...i respect what u write , think and feel so dont use that verbs with me ....

[someclown]

Originally posted by scaredgirl

WHO DID U CALL ELITIST BITCH???

hey i dont know u , i never spoke with u , is my feeliings ,

my toughts ...i respect what u write , think and feel so dont use that verbs with me ....

Um, I think she was kidding. I mean, who really would want to get serious with a porno star (banging from time to time doesn't count)?

Anyway, the only real criteria that I have (as far as career aspirations) for a possible relationship, is that she is not lazy. I can't stand laziness. I picture myself out working my ass off, while some slob is sitting around the house and counting my money (I think I may be jaded from some marriages I know...)