leeanne Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 When is it a good time to invite your date up to your apartment? In my opinion its when you can close your eyes and fall backward and know that he will catch you. You should know a lot about the person alone with you in your apartment. Have you ever tried to push a 200+ pound man with a bad attitude out of your apartment? Its pretty much impossible. No matter how you say it, saying that you only let people you completely trust come into your apartment, says that you think a lot about yourself and you take care to make sure you are safe. People get their clues about how to treat you from how you treat yourself. If you and your date spend the entire dinner talking about how great you think you are and then you let him up without really knowing him, you are really telling him that you actually don't believe you are such a treasure and you will let a total stranger into your home. I don't like it when guys pressure me into being alone with them. It sets off warning bells that this guy wants one thing and I will soon be on my knees picking-up whats left of my heart. Thankfully I have been on my knees with my shattered heart but never after being made love to by one of these con artists. I never have felt like a fool running into someone who stopped calling because they always ask the same thing, "why didn't we end up together?" (Translation- "why didn't you sleep with me?") And I always say, "I don't know..just lucky I guess- You didn't want it bad enough- maybe you had a date limit and I didn't fit into the schedule.") The old saying, "I'm not that kind of girl" is kind of laughable in this day and age, but I have a new version. When I start to get the, "aren't you going to invite me up" pressure I look confused and say something like, I think you are used to dating a different type of girl. When I know you and trust you. "I" will invite you into my home, you wont need to invite yourself." A lot of guys will stop calling after this but guess what kind of guys they are. Not the guys who REALLY ARE looking for someone special Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phatman Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 ....i usually invite them over after like 5 jello shots... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elementx Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 Originally posted by phatman ....i usually invite them over after like 5 jello shots... :laugh: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leeanne Posted March 18 Author Report Share Posted March 18 where did you put your apple martini when you did them? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phatman Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 ...they dont call me two-fisted mary for nuthin... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cintron Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 Originally posted by leeanne When is it a good time to invite your date up to your apartment? after she gives me head in my car.that's when i know she's flexible enough to reach and skilled enough to not make a mess. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
weyes Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 nice one, leeanne . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joeg Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 Originally posted by cintron after she gives me head in my car.that's when i know she's flexible enough to reach and skilled enough to not make a mess. :laugh: ...and smart enough to know how to get a ride home... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
entheogen808 Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 i agree with you in a way leeane...kinda like that mike tyson case...what was that girl thinking going to his hotel room? and to put a slightly miogynistic spin on things, don't invite a guy up to your apartment unless you're planning on giving him some, or if it's firmly established that you are friends. once a guy has that invitation, he might assume that he is getting some, and might get angry if he doesn't. not that it's right, but it happens, and you girls need to protect yourselves. the odds of a woman physically defending herself against a 200+lb man are slim. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nympho69 Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 Originally posted by phatman ....i usually invite them over after like 5 jello shots... :laugh: i have to admit that was too long and uninteresting to readwtf was that???i think she should hook up with tastey... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
petp Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 kudos leanne, i wish more women (and men) thought like you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clubkat Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 Originally posted by petp kudos leanne, i wish more women (and men) thought like you. i absolutely agree. . .very very very nice post! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fineones Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 Originally posted by entheogen808 i agree with you in a way leeane...kinda like that mike tyson case...what was that girl thinking going to his hotel room? and to put a slightly miogynistic spin on things, don't invite a guy up to your apartment unless you're planning on giving him some, or if it's firmly established that you are friends. once a guy has that invitation, he might assume that he is getting some, and might get angry if he doesn't. not that it's right, but it happens, and you girls need to protect yourselves. the odds of a woman physically defending herself against a 200+lb man are slim. ladies ur alright im 200 flat...no need to worry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phatman Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 ...i'm sorry but i disagree with everybody here......i dont think inviting a man up to your place instantly sends out an automatic-sex message. i also dont think it says anything about who and how the girl is. i have been invited into a woman's apartment and not had sex (hold the jokes please)....it's great that men are being classified as basic sex-pots here...dont invite us in unless youre going to give us some and if you dont we might get upset or not call you back...gimme a break...i know there are guys out there like this but as i always said...these are boys, not men... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastyt Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 Originally posted by phatman ...i'm sorry but i disagree with everybody here......i dont think inviting a man up to your place instantly sends out an automatic-sex message. i also dont think it says anything about who and how the girl is. i have been invited into a woman's apartment and not had sex (hold the jokes please)....it's great that men are being classified as basic sex-pots here...dont invite us in unless youre going to give us some and if you dont we might get upset or not call you back...gimme a break...i know there are guys out there like this but as i always said...these are boys, not men... And this, my friend, is why I consider you my dear pinky pal... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
entheogen808 Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 Originally posted by phatman ...i'm sorry but i disagree with everybody here......i dont think inviting a man up to your place instantly sends out an automatic-sex message. i also dont think it says anything about who and how the girl is. i have been invited into a woman's apartment and not had sex (hold the jokes please)....it's great that men are being classified as basic sex-pots here...dont invite us in unless youre going to give us some and if you dont we might get upset or not call you back...gimme a break...i know there are guys out there like this but as i always said...these are boys, not men... true, but unless you know that the person you are with is a man, not a boy, it could be a bad thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phatman Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 Originally posted by tastyt And this, my friend, is why I consider you my dear pinky pal... ...thanks sweets...Originally posted by entheogen808true, but unless you know that the person you are with is a man, not a boy, it could be a bad thing....come on now...you could go quite a long time before figuring that out...same goes for women as well...that's a whole different thread... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
entheogen808 Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 Originally posted by phatman come on now...you could go quite a long time before figuring that out...same goes for women as well...that's a whole different thread... but me being a 220lb man, i can remove a 120lb woman from my place, much easier than a 120lb woman could remove me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phatman Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 Originally posted by entheogen808 but me being a 220lb man, i can remove a 120lb woman from my place, much easier than a 120lb woman could remove me. ...i was talking about finding out whether she was a woman vs. a girl.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
weyes Posted March 19 Report Share Posted March 19 Originally posted by phatman ...i'm sorry but i disagree with everybody here......i dont think inviting a man up to your place instantly sends out an automatic-sex message. i also dont think it says anything about who and how the girl is...i'm with phattie on this one; i'll put it right up there with the famous "she was asking for it [rape] 'cause she was looking really sexy in that outfit" line . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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