optikal23 Posted August 2 Report Share Posted August 2 Just curious...Does age matter in a relationship for anyone on this board? If so, how does it matter?What's the max. difference?I know there's no 'right' or 'wrong' or definite answer, but I was just curious.5 years really is not 5 years.A 33 year old guy and a 28 year old girl is ok.But a 18 year old guy and a 13 year old girl is just plain wrong.Anyway, does it matter? (forget about the 18-13 thing).And how/why does it matter? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clubbingirl Posted August 2 Report Share Posted August 2 i think, if you're in love....you're in love.BUT, like the 13 year old thing, I dont care if you are in love, the 13 yr old girl/guy doesnt know any better. and i think that the older person would be taking advantage. ::i feel this way b/c at a yong age, i thought i was in love and did stuff that i shouldn't have dont--later to only find out that i was not in love at all. but at the time, it felt so real:: so, in conclusion.....if you're old...lets just say around 18, then be with anyone you want. but if you're young, like 13, NOT acceptable to be with someone older.well, thats just how i feel. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest gabo Posted August 2 Report Share Posted August 2 I don't think age matters. I dated a 29 year old when I was 17.She lied to me and said she was 18. I believed she for 2 months.I know what your saying, but she really looked like a 18 year old.I have pics to prove it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastyt Posted August 2 Report Share Posted August 2 Yes. But there are exceptions to every rule. Before my boyfriend, I hadn't dated a guy my age or older in several years. Rarely am I attracted to someone substantially older than myself.But even though they may look great, I now find myself so alienated from younger people sometimes! I met a really gorgeous 19 yo recently, after several conversations I realized she was really cool, but unfortunately we are at completely different stages of our life. It's not a bad thing, though, everyone has to go through with it! I wouldn't mind dating someone a lot younger, if they were really mature, but I wouldn't want to date someone a lot older who's really immature! If I had to place a limit, I'd say 22 or 23 on the younger side, 32 on the older side. I'm 26. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigpoppanils Posted August 2 Report Share Posted August 2 i know a guy who is 29 and his girlfriend is 18. they have been dating for 3 years, and just got engaged. she really does look older than 18, and is more mature than the guy is. she did lie about her age, and he didnt find out her real age for 3 months. by then he was too in love with her to let go (and fyi: she is the dominant one in the relationship, not the guy. quite frankly, she is a fucking control freak) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scaredgirl Posted August 2 Report Share Posted August 2 sometimes matter well at least for me , sometimes he can be old in age but very inmature on mind , brain etc.. so it depends Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katiew Posted August 2 Report Share Posted August 2 I dont think age should matter at all. If you're in love ... you're in love. Thats really the only important thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gambitrah Posted August 3 Report Share Posted August 3 Originally posted by katiew I dont think age should matter at all. If you're in love ... you're in love. Thats really the only important thing. I agree to a point. Im 27 and my gf is 19...but I see us at 2 different stages in life and unless things change I will move onto someone else. Her not being 21 is a PITA! FWIW I know of a 15 yr old who is getting married to a 45 yr old that was a good friend of the family..could a 15 yr old be in love like that? and why would a 45 yr old take obvious advantage of the young girl (sex obviously)...to each their own i spose :blank: :blank: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
atomicapples Posted August 3 Report Share Posted August 3 this subject goes 50/50... mentality and age is too different things... 35 year old bum will act lie a kid, a 19 year old stock broker will be more mature... but whatevers..personally, i would rather give up on love rite now... at my age (22) all i think about is money... love is my second priority rite now.. why you ask? well if you are in such love why not wait if true love will always come around and back again... rite? think about your future in successfulness, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest gabo Posted August 3 Report Share Posted August 3 I didnt finish my post before, I wanted to say that we dated for 2 months and then she told me that she was 29. We didn't stop dating then, we went on for 2 more years. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
echostar Posted August 3 Report Share Posted August 3 Originally posted by optikal23 Just curious...Does age matter in a relationship for anyone on this board? no Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nitro449 Posted August 3 Report Share Posted August 3 This is a tricky question. It does matter if you're talking about an 18 year old dating a 27 year old. The mentality just aint there. However if you're talking about a 22 year old dating a 30 year old then it doesn't matter........just my 2 cents:tongue: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nicole781 Posted August 3 Report Share Posted August 3 AGE DEFINITELY DOES NOT MATTER!!! I have dated boys who were 29 & 30 years old and were the most immature guys I have ever dated! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
romy20 Posted August 4 Report Share Posted August 4 No it doesn't matter to me. I'm 21 and my boyfriends 17, he's gonna be 18 in a few months, and this week is our 2 year anniversary. romy20:D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
atomicapples Posted August 4 Report Share Posted August 4 Originally posted by romy20 No it doesn't matter to me. I'm 21 and my boyfriends 17, he's gonna be 18 in a few months, and this week is our 2 year anniversary. romy20:D damn i, mean most of the girls i dated were older then me, but not old like that... i want a 25 year old girlfriend... with a career. i hate girls who are bums or who live off you... i like self dependent women.... anyone here one of them???? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted August 4 Report Share Posted August 4 I think it just depends on where you are in life...13 and 18 is kind harsh sounding, although it's no different than 23 and 28!!!!!! Go figure that one out:confused: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rachel1997 Posted August 4 Report Share Posted August 4 I had my share of young guys, like 1-2 years younger then me when I was 18-20.Now all it seems that I like only guys older then me, 23, must be at least 23, 24 years old... otherwise they don't know what they are doing... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
princesslolita Posted August 12 Report Share Posted August 12 Kind of.... I'm 22 , won't date younger.. I prefer guys like 25.. Not older then 30. =0 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dgmodel Posted August 12 Report Share Posted August 12 its not the age it your mind frame, and your personality. Depends on the person as well... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
atomicapples Posted August 12 Report Share Posted August 12 very true dgmodel, but what if you want out with a girl who was 39 with luggage? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kaoszx Posted August 12 Report Share Posted August 12 for sex, age matters not (within reason)....but for a serious relationship, i like to keep it within 5 years of me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
barvybe Posted August 13 Report Share Posted August 13 Originally posted by dgmodel its not the age it your mind frame, and your personality. Depends on the person as well... i always used to date older girls when i was in my teens - sometimes a lot older (relatively) - like 15 / 20, 16/19, 19/24. I had the best time and learned alot. Always hung out with older peeps.then i found people my age sort of caught up and the older girls moved on to different priorities. more recently, i was with a GREAT girl closer to my age but now i wasn't in the same mind set as her.older / younger don't matter a lick --> its how you can connect and if you can both bring a lot to the relationship. for me, i need a strong independent woman - i'm super social and crazy but also very introspective and need someone confident enought to give me my space. Other people want to be the stonger / weaker person or whatever so it really depends. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dgmodel Posted August 13 Report Share Posted August 13 Originally posted by atomicapples very true dgmodel, but what if you want out with a girl who was 39 with luggage? I have,(29)and Im 22, and it sucks, anyone with baggage is a hassle, still doesnt matter with the age. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clubgodraver Posted August 14 Report Share Posted August 14 well i don't think its so much the age factor...its the maturity level. but i guess to an extent. if both partners are looking for the same kind of relationship and are on the same level it can work. but anything more than a 5 year difference is kinda pushing it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SPYGIRL3 Posted August 14 Report Share Posted August 14 Originally posted by clubgodraver well i don't think its so much the age factor...its the maturity level. but i guess to an extent. if both partners are looking for the same kind of relationship and are on the same level it can work. but anything more than a 5 year difference is kinda pushing it I'm with you on that one....It's just a number. I know a guy who is 25-26 and he's dating a girl who just turned 18. They are happy, so...I guess that's all that matters. I usually only go out with guys that are older than I am, but if you are at that same level I am, it' all good. True love has no boundaries...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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