good and important question! i've had 2 homecomings, in a way. i was born and raised in nyc, moved to l.a. for college for 4 years, moved back to nyc for 2 years, then moved back here to l.a. for 2 years now. when i first moved back to nyc, as you said, i didn't have much in common with the friends who were still there and the others had moved. i started going out dancing by myself after a while of not going 'cause i didn't have anyone with whom to go out, and i started running into the same people. and i did make a real friend at work - there's no rule that says you can't be friends and let loose with co-workers. sometimes it just takes time. but after my first clubplanet meetup, i made two good friends with whom i went out a lot (some of us here really do rock ). unfortunately, i moved just as i was getting close with them (really unfair - terrible timing. but i see them every time i come home to visit). at that first nyc meetup, i also met 2 guys from cali who were just visiting. when i moved back out to l.a., i gave them a call, and it turned out that they were going to a party to which i was going. we started going out a lot after that, and now we're friends . there are also people on the l.a. board i've met that are really cool, and i meet people when i'm out all the time. and there are a few friends from college i still see. it may sound cheesy, but there's a reason why we're all here, posting in the same place: we have a lot in common. sorry for such a long post; i hope you find it useful !