whoa - this got a little crazy up in here. first of all, exactly. we can't tell our nipples what to do. secondly, you guys should be blaming each other for constantly staring at the wrong girls' nipples . and that old argument about making your gf dress like a quaker because she's "yours now" is ridiculous. you still wanna look good, right? i don't wear things that show my nipples intentionally, but i don't pay any attention to whether they do or not. tastyt already covered this, but i'll just concur . nuts.and lastly, i wish i could go out without a bra. there are lots of cute/cool things with which one can't wear a bra, like this: i need to wear a bra 'cause my boobs are big, and it hurts not to wear one (i sleep in bras). plus, i'm not as perky as i was when i was a teenage b . if i could wear all those cool tops and dresses that required bralessness (a lot of which are conservative, but just have really interesting designs), i would, too .