i wanna get married, but i don't want kids, and it worries me that i'll have trouble finding someone who also doesn't want to have children. but it shouldn't be a problem if i actually do find my kindred spirit . my wedding's gonna be dope, though; a lot like my friends' megan and jeff's. people can wear what they want as long as it's festive (they had a 50s cuban feel for the wedding, so everyone came brightly dressed and there were a lot of floral patterns ), and i won't be caught dead in a boring white/off-white dress. it's supposed to be a happy occaision, right? i'm gonna dress accordingly!!! i also don't intend to have a hierarchy of "maid of honor" or anything like that. that seems to just exclude people and it really serves no purpose. everyone at my wedding knows s/he is important to me, anyway . as far as what changes occur when the marriage is official, i don't think there'd be all that many, as i plan to have lived with my fiancee for a while. if we can't get along living together, we can't be married, so that trial will already have been over and done with. marriage really is just symbolic (and now serves many legal purposes); i'd know i'd be intending to spend my life with the man anyway .