tommyarmani Posted December 26 Report Share Posted December 26 i always wait for the girl to make the first move.... problem is, she never does!!!! :laugh: but in my exp., waiting equals respect & looking for something serious, meaningful etc... Generally speaking of course.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xlr8ted Posted December 26 Report Share Posted December 26 Nigga what? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
georgym Posted December 26 Report Share Posted December 26 xlr8ted and tommy make smurfy points in this thread Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phatman Posted December 26 Report Share Posted December 26 Has there been any intimacy at all? Kissing, rubbing, etc? I can understand taking your time but even when I have, there has always been something - never just from nothing to everything. If it's been a month and no one has made a move, I would tend to think he really is not going to do anything - either that or he's waiting for his genital warts to heal... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xlr8ted Posted December 26 Report Share Posted December 26 We all the know that gold is gettin old.The ice in my teeth keeps the Cristal cold. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
babbo Posted December 26 Report Share Posted December 26 Originally posted by eckobarbie1 my intentions lately have been to stop fucking around and get serious with someone, i'm really tired of being lonely and just gettin off, you know?i just always highly doubt that a guy, any guy, would feel the same way. from my experience, they're all after one thing, one way or the other.of course we've spoken about having sex, and we both want to fuck each other, we just won't. anyone gay here???- you or HIM ??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bbbooom Posted December 26 Report Share Posted December 26 Originally posted by eckobarbie1 this is bothering me a little bit 'cause i just can't figure this guy out. i can't help but overanalyze everything so i need some advice...i've been talking to this guy for like a month and surprisingly we haven't had sex, he doesn't want sex and i don't want to have sex with him either..i would assume that means he wants to get serious...but he SWEARS he doesnt want a girlfriend either. i kinda think he's in denial..i mean, what else could he possibly be looking for? i find it hard to believe that he just "wants to get to know me" and is avoiding the sex thing because he doesn't want me to get "attached".any thoughts? HES GAY YOUR HIS COVER... WHAT GUY DOESNT WANNA HAVE SEX? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jtk4 Posted December 26 Report Share Posted December 26 maybe he is getting over a std or crabs and is just waiting to get over it so he does not give it to ou unless you have been Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
funeralhome Posted December 27 Author Report Share Posted December 27 i love how replies went from him being "serious" about me to him having std's.and to whoever asked, we have been kissing and what not, but that's basically as far as it goes. i saw him last night and he was high as a motherfucker and he STILL didn't want to take me home when i asked him to... i was mostly testing him to see what he would say rather than actually wanting to go there... and he fucking said no. i don't get it. i mean, si shouldn't be complaining..but i'm so confuuuuuseed. there's no such thing as a good guy in my book. :rolleyes: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
captainpec Posted December 27 Report Share Posted December 27 Originally posted by eckobarbie1 :there's no such thing as a good guy in my book.Maybe your book needs to be rewritten... there are some out there... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fliptoniaaa Posted December 27 Report Share Posted December 27 ecko!!!!!!!!!!!!!my advice to u....ruuuunnnnn the other way!!!!!!!!!!!!u will find some1 else that will be willing to knock the dust off that *****.....if this is how u guys r now..imagine when u really get to know each other!!!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kahn Posted December 27 Report Share Posted December 27 Originally posted by eckobarbie1 i saw him last night and he was high as a motherfucker and he STILL didn't want to take me home when i asked him to... i was mostly testing him to see what he would say rather than actually wanting to go there... and he fucking said no. i don't get it. What if he said yes? Would you have had sex with him. If not, maybe he senses that your just testing him. Why don't you just ask him what's up? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bbbooom Posted December 27 Report Share Posted December 27 Originally posted by eckobarbie1 i love how replies went from him being "serious" about me to him having std's.and to whoever asked, we have been kissing and what not, but that's basically as far as it goes. i saw him last night and he was high as a motherfucker and he STILL didn't want to take me home when i asked him to... i was mostly testing him to see what he would say rather than actually wanting to go there... and he fucking said no. i don't get it. i mean, si shouldn't be complaining..but i'm so confuuuuuseed. there's no such thing as a good guy in my book. :rolleyes: wyrd. stop playing games Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
foxylady69 Posted December 28 Report Share Posted December 28 Originally posted by captainpec Maybe your book needs to be rewritten... there are some out there... This is true... I saw one once. But, he was kinda funny lookin. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
b-side Posted December 28 Report Share Posted December 28 Another Woman Who has NO clue of what to DO with a GOOD MAN!We DO Exist !!!!But has ANYONE seen a GOOD woman....EKB: Don't look a gift horse in the mouth....& You still have not answered what U want really with Him... DOC~B:hat: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
funeralhome Posted December 28 Author Report Share Posted December 28 Originally posted by b-side Another Woman Who has NO clue of what to DO with a GOOD MAN!We DO Exist !!!!But has ANYONE seen a GOOD woman....EKB: Don't look a gift horse in the mouth....& You still have not answered what U want really with Him... DOC~B:hat: well.. i still don't know him well enough to know if he's the one i want to commit to, plus he's not showing me that he's even worth it. he only comes to see me at my bar while i'm working, he never takes me out and when he does drive me home or come to see me it's for shuch a short period of time. his excuse is that "hes sooo busy he has no time for a girl" how busy could you POSSIBLY be? if he really wanted to see me he would make time.i honeslty think he may just have someone else, that's why he hasnt taken me to his apartment. it's possible he's in a bad relationship and i'm like his side thing.and bside i'm not so sure he's a good man...he's a little shady. i feel him NOT being honest with me, ya know? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
captainpec Posted December 28 Report Share Posted December 28 So then don't waste each other's time them... if he was the "one" you would be doing a lot less questioning and a lot more "daydreaming" about him . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
funeralhome Posted December 28 Author Report Share Posted December 28 Originally posted by captainpec So then don't waste each other's time them... if he was the "one" you would be doing a lot less questioning and a lot more "daydreaming" about him . ugh. youre right. i shouldnt be stressing over the kid. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
b-side Posted December 28 Report Share Posted December 28 Remove Your feelings from the situation and just be a friend...Be a friend until whatever happens....... happens.... or doesn't Don't cross the line until you are ready for the consequences... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
weyes Posted December 28 Report Share Posted December 28 i think a "wait and see" approach is the best idea; don't force anything. but i think the main problem here is a lack of trust. i really can't say what he's thinking or doing, 'cause we have no idea what's going on in his head, for sure. but it seems to me like you have some idea of where a relationship should be after a certain amount of time, when, really, every relationship has its own timeline.and i would also point out that a month is really a very short period of time. first of all, you haven't known him that long, and, second, why hurry to define and/or label the relationship? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bumpdaddy Posted December 28 Report Share Posted December 28 Maybe he actually is really busy......Is that so hard to comprehend???? Maybe your schedules aren't compatible....I've had this problem.... never stopped me.... but I can relate... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
funeralhome Posted December 28 Author Report Share Posted December 28 Originally posted by weyes i think a "wait and see" approach is the best idea; don't force anything. but i think the main problem here is a lack of trust. i really can't say what he's thinking or doing, 'cause we have no idea what's going on in his head, for sure. but it seems to me like you have some idea of where a relationship should be after a certain amount of time, when, really, every relationship has its own timeline.and i would also point out that a month is really a very short period of time. first of all, you haven't known him that long, and, second, why hurry to define and/or label the relationship? why label and define? i'd feel more secure with myself, i guess. i don't want my feelings for him to get deeper or stronger, just to later find out it's not worth it, or meant nothing or was going nowhere. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
weyes Posted December 29 Report Share Posted December 29 Originally posted by eckobarbie1 why label and define? i'd feel more secure with myself, i guess...i totally know about the security that can come with titles, but i think that it's just too early for them, still. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
funeralhome Posted December 29 Author Report Share Posted December 29 Originally posted by weyes i totally know about the security that can come with titles, but i think that it's just too early for them, still. i think my heart is telling me to give up on this a little bit. after reading everyone's advice, it seems like i'd be better off not getting into him as much as i was. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hero47 Posted December 29 Report Share Posted December 29 maybe you dont look as good as you think... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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