lolly Posted April 4 Report Share Posted April 4 Have any of you ever been sexually harassed at work?? Yesterday at work I was told by this guy that my ass looked really nice in the pants I was wearing. I don't even KNOW this guy. We were standing in an elevator. I was like, WTF?? Screw you!! I don't know whether I should report it or not though.Have any of you ever been sexually harassed at work and taken action? If so what happened?------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
glowball Posted April 4 Report Share Posted April 4 I have ....! but it was for the better .,we both got what we wanted lol..... but this is for real on your behalf , but listen if this keeps going ,like if you keep seeing him and says these things to you then get his ass fired ....! but if it was a one time deal then screw him then ......------------------ ------------------------- <A HREF="mailto:Martin-Izzo@si.rr.com">Martin-Izzo@si.rr.com</A> page 1917-243-0215AIM:GLowbali <--- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
emiliep Posted April 4 Report Share Posted April 4 Originally posted by lolly:Have any of you ever been sexually harassed at work?? Yesterday at work I was told by this guy that my ass looked really nice in the pants I was wearing. I don't even KNOW this guy. We were standing in an elevator. I was like, WTF?? Screw you!! I don't know whether I should report it or not though.Have any of you ever been sexually harassed at work and taken action? If so what happened?unbelievable! these guys just have no boundaries. i get "compliments" (if you even want to call it that) like those also. if it makes you uncomfortable on a consistent basis, i would consider taking it a step further but remember, you have to be able to prove it. that's the tough part. let alone all the lawyer fees and stuff. if it's bothering you that much, definitely do something. there's no reason for you to feel uncomfortable at work because of assholes! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tyco Posted April 4 Report Share Posted April 4 lolly I would say give him the benefit of the doubt since it is the first time but like glowball said, if it happens once more, I would consider it harassement unless you know he is just being polite or joking......which you don't.........either that or just tell him to fuck off and maybe he'll realize he's not getting any....... Mikey------------------"I don't want a piece....I want the whole thing....." - Bob Barker Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lolly Posted April 4 Author Report Share Posted April 4 Well, there are other things too. He's constantly telling me how "cute" I am. I only know this guy from seeing him all the time and don't know him at all on a personal lever. Not even a professional level. I also overheard him talking to another employee saying "she's got a sweet ass and she's damn cute, yeah I wanna hit that shit". What the hell? Then he tells me to my face that I have a nice ass. I'm too chicken shit to say anything to anyone though..I don't know what my problem is.------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
emiliep Posted April 4 Report Share Posted April 4 Originally posted by lolly:Well, there are other things too. He's constantly telling me how "cute" I am. I only know this guy from seeing him all the time and don't know him at all on a personal lever. Not even a professional level. I also overheard him talking to another employee saying "she's got a sweet ass and she's damn cute, yeah I wanna hit that shit". What the hell? Then he tells me to my face that I have a nice ass. I'm too chicken shit to say anything to anyone though..I don't know what my problem is.you've gotta say something to him. make it short and sweet....like "you're making me uncomfortable with your remarks and i'd appreciate it if you'd stop". then just walk away. don't entertain any of his "what do you mean?" questions. what a douchebag. i have a guy like that at my job too. i asked him to stop and he did. but i had to bring in the "if you don't stop i'm going to take this further and i really would like to avoid that" retaliation. FUCK him lolly! you show him what you're made of! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vampienyc10 Posted April 4 Report Share Posted April 4 NO WAY>>I work at a LAW firm....they are very serious about that sort of thing here..------------------AIM vampienyc10e-mail: vampie@aol.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
andre9000 Posted April 4 Report Share Posted April 4 Originally posted by lolly:I also overheard him talking to another employee saying "she's got a sweet ass and she's damn cute, yeah I wanna hit that shit". Homes got it for you bad. Maybe next time he comments, you do something like pick your nose or fart really loudly. That way he might not think you're so great.------------------Talkin 'bout what we gon' be when we grow up/I said what you wanna be? She said alive/It made me think for a minute then looked in her eyes/I coulda died.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jilly Posted April 4 Report Share Posted April 4 yup...DEFINITELY say something to him...I work in the tech field and usually am the only, if not one of the only females around..and these kinds of comments are uncalled for..and make me highly uncomfortable..Its not even just the comments..its the STARES. You would think some people had never seen a female before..recently I went to a conference..where there were not many females...can I tell you EVERY male (and there were 1000 people there) STARED and made comments about me ..right in front of my face the whole fucking time...young, old..didnt matter. I was so uncomfortable I didn't want to leave my room. so people..#1 this is serious..#2 please think about what you say ..------------------" I give in to sin ..Because you have to make this life liveable "-DMSmoknjilly@aol.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
christyne13 Posted April 4 Report Share Posted April 4 Originally posted by lolly:...He's constantly telling me how "cute" I am...I also overheard him talking to another employee saying "she's got a sweet ass and she's damn cute, yeah I wanna hit that shit". What the hell? Then he tells me to my face that I have a nice ass...I'm too chicken shit to say anything to anyone though..I don't know what my problem is.Lolly, I'm a Human Resources professional and as such have been involved in quite a few of these cases. First off, have you ever told him "NO" ...seriously. Because, although I do not know the details ...it seems that he's just trying to get with you (as nasty as his approach might be) If you have made it known to him that there is no interest and he continues to "come on to you" then you definately would need to make a bigger issue of it. But, again from what I'm hearing ...it's not exactly a harassment situation (yet) ...even though I prob would have smacked his face already ------------------"...I'll take my problems to the dance floor... let the music make my spirits soar..." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blueangel Posted April 4 Report Share Posted April 4 Yep. Like emiliep, I suggest you say something short and to the point. Don't let him intimadate you! And don't show him any fear.Just walk up to him and say your piece. THEN if he says anything after that . . . go to your supervisor/manager and report his ass. IF your supervisor/manager doesn't do anything then go to the person above her/him or human resource office. If all else fails . . . go get yourself a lawyer cause you're gettin' paid BIG TIME girlfriend!My girlfriend, who worked in Bear Stearn, sued for sexual harrassment and got paid $500,000. And that's AFTER the lawyers got their cut. The trick is . .. you have to document what's going on. The best way to do this is write yourself an email to another account. For example:April 4, 2001-Spoke to manager today and reported "so-so" regarding certain remarks.-"so-so" said to me today in the elevator blah blah blah That's how you document it with a date. Good luck and stay strong!BlueAngel------------------"Be as you wish to seem." — Socrates [This message has been edited by blueangel (edited 04-04-2001).] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flying_high Posted April 4 Report Share Posted April 4 hahahaha....sorry but if people wouldn't take everything so serious...things would be much more relaxed here. If everyone of my colleagues takes the stuff I say and comment on seriously....gosh, they could get me on sexual harrassment too.Sorry to say that: but you guys (and girls) here in the States just have learned to make sooo much money with those things that one has to be so careful with what is said and done... takes away all the fun working with each other.Sure you should say something to him if it makes you feel uncomfortable...but that's it, easy as that.Sorry, just my 2 (European) Cents.------------------ AIM: flying77high Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastyt Posted April 4 Report Share Posted April 4 Originally posted by flying_high:... takes away all the fun working with each other.Oh yeah I really miss the good old days when it would have been no biggie for my boss to grab my ass or proposition me... gee how much "fun" would that be...You definitely need to confront this man. It's bad enough to have to deal with that shit in the streets, but in a work environment there is absolutely NO excuse. I don't know if i would talk to anyone else (my boss, hr, etc) just yet but definitely do so if he continues to behave in this manner. You shouldn't have to work under uncomfortable conditions.------------------I never try anything, I just do it... Wanna try me? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lolly Posted April 4 Author Report Share Posted April 4 Originally posted by andre9000: Homes got it for you bad. Maybe next time he comments, you do something like pick your nose or fart really loudly. That way he might not think you're so great. Hahaha. LMAO!!!! Maybe that approach would work. Fart really loud when he is near. That's a sure fire way to get him to stay away. Also another way of saying that MY ASS IS ON FIRE!!!!! Thanks for all the advice people. I am defintely going to say something to him if it continues. Then I'll take it from there. ------------------ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tranceaction Posted April 4 Report Share Posted April 4 Do what we used to do as kids on the playground..Take a ball, any ball.. and throw it at the guy and say "CATCH"... after he catches it, you look at everyone else and yell... "KILL THE GUY WITH THE BALL"..and watch how people everywhere chase him down and start beating him silly.Or a good old fashioned wedgie works wonders. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sassa Posted April 5 Report Share Posted April 5 I used to work at Wendy's (horrifying experience...Jesus) for a month in Jersey when I was 18,and the fucking Peruvian guys there kept checking out my ass and talking about me in Spanish...of course I had no clue what they were saying..I got annoyed,went to the manager,asked him to tell him to speak fucking English around me because I didn't think it was fair I didn't understand anything...he said that's just the way they are,and their English is not that great.Then I told him what they were saying (a girl translated for me later on...)and he said he'd talk to them.He never did.The problems continued until I quit from being sick of the shit there.I should have sued their asses.Right now I am ok with my job (I'm a library assistant which is why I log on here often from work),but there's this one evil fat,blond,fucking nasty smelly pathetic bitch who's out to ruin me,and she's trying to get me fired...anyone have any ideas what I can do to fuck her over instead?------------------Sassa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sgbrooklyn Posted April 5 Report Share Posted April 5 Hey hun!I seriously doubt he meant what he said in a bad way. I get funny compliments like that in my office all the time. I laugh it off cause I think its funny... I have never felt threatened but any of my associates or their comments.. And boy do they have alot to say all the TIME! However, if I was in your shoes, and I am guessing by your post you were a bit upset.. You should make sure he knows that your uncomfortable with his comments.. I am sure he is a nice guy and probably couldn't help himself to see you looking soo HOT! But I really wouldn't worry about it.. Boys will be boys! Love, Sineminem!------------------ I love everyone today! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nightangel Posted April 5 Report Share Posted April 5 Yes, but Iiked it. But in your case smack the bastard in the balls. Then reptort him to the boss and get his ass fired. Then call his wife and tell her what the ass is doing at his tough day in the office. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
klubbheadsor Posted April 6 Report Share Posted April 6 Hey Sassa, That's what happens when you work at places like that!! Those are the people who are going to work there!! I'm not going to blame you completely they should keep there eyes on the food they make instead of your buns!! Anyways it's better that you got out of there!! Trust me not all Peruvians are like that!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
djmoonshine Posted April 6 Report Share Posted April 6 hey lolly... i totally feel your pain... one of my managersat work is always telling me how he wants to fuck me and "make sweet love to me" and blah blah blah... hes even gone as far as smacking my ass... yes, ive said something to him, but im thinking he's thinking its a joke... and im not the only one either... i know for a fact he does it to other girls at my job...my advise to you... def. say something... it totally sucks to feel uncomfortable at work..good luck love ~ moonshine------------------ life's a ride... pack light...AIM: dELERiUM 540 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cathyo Posted April 6 Report Share Posted April 6 Isn't it funny how two different co workers could say the same thing (sexually), and one you find funny and the other you find nasty?I have one broker who does nothing but look at consumption junction all day (he's my pot smoking ex-hippie broker who I've gotten pills for before!). He'll say, hey Cath, come check this out; and there will be some short porno on and I find it hilarious. All day we crack dirty jokes, etc...But my other broker just grosses me out if he says anything remotely related to sex. He himself is not gross or anything...maybe it's because I can't stand his personality.------------------ ~*~*~Don't use time or words carelessly, neither can be retrieved.~*~*~ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nickijay Posted April 6 Report Share Posted April 6 if it makes you uncomfortable you need to tell him to quit it. plain and simple....then if he keeps doing it i'd say there's a prob. i wouldn't call it harrassment at this point. i worked in a restaurant where one of the owners was an alcoholic. i really liked this guy, he was really good to us (the waitstaff) whereas the other owners were assholes. prob. was that when he was bombed he'd get frisky. once he stuck his hand up my skirt and grabbed my ass so i basically turned around and told him that as much as i liked him i wouldn't put up with that behavior from him and if he ever did it again i'd have to go to one of the other owners. he never did it again!! ------------------ Boink like a bunny with spring fever!!!uknj@aol.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vampienyc10 Posted April 6 Report Share Posted April 6 Originally posted by sassa:anyone have any ideas what I can do to fuck her over instead?sabotage her....what does her job entail?------------------AIM vampienyc10e-mail: vampie@aol.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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