weyes Posted December 19 Report Share Posted December 19 we got really close last night - this guy i just started seeing - (in the bedroom, i mean) and i wanna talk to him so badly tonight, but there's that fear there that i'd freak him out if i did... why do guys and girls have to play that stupid game about waiting to call each other after certain events (these and others) when they really want to call each other at that moment? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thehacker Posted December 19 Report Share Posted December 19 ican'tfigureitouteither Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
loch Posted December 19 Report Share Posted December 19 Originally posted by weyes we got really close last night - this guy i just started seeing - (in the bedroom, i mean) and i wanna talk to him so badly tonight, but there's that fear there that i'd freak him out if i did... why do guys and girls have to play that stupid game about waiting to call each other after certain events (these and others) when they really want to call each other at that moment? if you wanted to call, all you had to do was pick up the phone and dial me, dear...no need to play games over the messageboards. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
glowgrlnyc Posted December 19 Report Share Posted December 19 Originally posted by weyes we got really close last night - this guy i just started seeing - (in the bedroom, i mean) and i wanna talk to him so badly tonight, but there's that fear there that i'd freak him out if i did... why do guys and girls have to play that stupid game about waiting to call each other after certain events (these and others) when they really want to call each other at that moment? Just call him...PlayinG games Suck...I never UnDeRStood the PoiNt of TheM. :confused: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karch Posted December 19 Report Share Posted December 19 No playing games??? how could it be any fun? I always use the "3 day rule" haha. Just the thing is you gotta play a little hard to get. Girls and guys want what they can't have. So don't give in totally until you really made a connection with him or her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
magilicuti Posted December 19 Report Share Posted December 19 playing games is just part of society. its how the dating game works now. if i had a number of a girl i was really interested in i'd call the next night. with girls i think its a bit different though. personally when a girl seems too "eager" she comes off as easy and that's a turn off.just my thoughts, the guys should be the ones calling at first anyway i think Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tatiana22 Posted December 19 Report Share Posted December 19 i personally feel that the calling him game is totally stupid but i play it cause u have to nowadays...when a guy calls me too much, i feel like they're overbearing, desperate, but in reality, they might not be at all.... it's tough dealing with something like this, in the scene that we're in and the people we meet.also, we live in nyc, where trust isn't a huge factor. lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
magilicuti Posted December 19 Report Share Posted December 19 once you get over the when to call bs then you have to deal with a ton of other bullshit. welcome to relationships... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xpander Posted December 19 Report Share Posted December 19 Unfortunately, as ridiculous as it seems sometimes, "playing the game" seems to be a pretty prevalent part of the whole relationship experience nowadays...I try to not do it but....... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vision Posted December 19 Report Share Posted December 19 you go for it...this world is yours and if you are going to sit back and wait for it to come to you than get comfortable in that seat...you might be squatin there for a bit Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gwyllion Posted December 19 Report Share Posted December 19 Originally posted by magilicuti just my thoughts, the guys should be the ones calling at first anyway i think I know it's kinda old school, but I usually wait for the guy to call me, that way I don't have to sweat it. I guess in my current relationship it's just worked out that way - he always calls me. But, WEYES, if you feel comfortable calling the guy up, then by all means call him. If he gives you shit or the "cold shoulder", then you know he's just a playa. I would give it a little time, maybe even a full day. You'll probably know when it's the right time.Good Luck Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
veranyc Posted December 19 Report Share Posted December 19 I don't think guys should HAVE to call first. We're big girls, we don't have act the way society tells us to act. If you want it, go for it. Hi by the way Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shugabooga Posted December 19 Report Share Posted December 19 Originally posted by magilicuti once you get over the when to call bs then you have to deal with a ton of other bullshit. welcome to relationships... magilucutti, i've been gone for two days and i come back to find that your self portrait is gone. what's up with that? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
barmenace Posted December 19 Report Share Posted December 19 c..cc....call! BurrRp! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kramadas Posted December 19 Report Share Posted December 19 Send him an e-mail to start with...just a hello or something. Then, see what sort of response you get, and go from there.I like to use all forms of communication Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nycchic24 Posted December 19 Report Share Posted December 19 Originally posted by karch No playing games??? how could it be any fun? I always use the "3 day rule" hahagod remember when its was the 2 say rule! before you know its going to be the 4 to five! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
magilicuti Posted December 19 Report Share Posted December 19 Originally posted by shugabooga magilucutti, i've been gone for two days and i come back to find that your self portrait is gone. what's up with that? is it? i thought i just got ride of the megatron thingy under my "self protrait" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thehacker Posted December 19 Report Share Posted December 19 Originally posted by tatiana22 i personally feel that the calling him game is totally stupid but i play it cause u have to nowadays...when a guy calls me too much, i feel like they're overbearing, desperate, but in reality, they might not be at all.... it's tough dealing with something like this, in the scene that we're in and the people we meet.also, we live in nyc, where trust isn't a huge factor. lol you pretty much hit the bullseye. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xxsweetie Posted December 19 Report Share Posted December 19 Originally posted by karch No playing games??? how could it be any fun? I always use the "3 day rule" haha. Just the thing is you gotta play a little hard to get. Girls and guys want what they can't have. So don't give in totally until you really made a connection with him or her. Oh yea... ya gotta love the good ol' three day rule I think its a stupid rule, but most guys i meet still manage to go by it. Now its beginning to be more like the 4-5 day rule.Example: I met this guy last Saturday, gave him my #....wonder if and when hes gonna call:confused: I think if you wanna call the guy you should, if he comes off cold or distant or whatever, then hes just trying to be a playa.I think its up to us girls to break that whole guy-calls-first ruleIm sure it'll happen eventually Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brooklynkid Posted December 19 Report Share Posted December 19 Originally posted by xxsweetie Oh yea... ya gotta love the good ol' three day rule I think its a stupid rule, but most guys i meet still manage to go by it. Now its beginning to be more like the 4-5 day rule.you peeps have been watching Swingers lately, haven't you? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xxsweetie Posted December 19 Report Share Posted December 19 Originally posted by brooklynkid you peeps have been watching Swingers lately, haven't you? Actually, no. This is my reality Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gwyllion Posted December 19 Report Share Posted December 19 So, what's the report, WEYES? What have you decided to do??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thehacker Posted December 19 Report Share Posted December 19 Originally posted by brooklynkid you peeps have been watching Swingers lately, haven't you? what a supreme piece of cinema. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brooklynkid Posted December 19 Report Share Posted December 19 Originally posted by thehacker what a supreme piece of cinema. Indeed. For your pleasure, a snippet from the great film Swingers:TRENT: See, baby. It's not that hard.CHARLES: 818?MIKE: 310.MIKE: How long do I wait to call?TRENT: A day.MIKE: Tomorrow?TRENT: No...SUE: ... Tomorrow, then a day.TRENT: ... Yeah.MIKE: So, two days?TRENT: Yeah. I guess you could call it that.SUE: Definitely. Two days. That's the industry standard...TRENT (to Sue. shop talk): ... I used to wait two days. Now everyone waits two days. Three days is kinda money now, don't you think?SUE: ... Yeah. But two's enough not to look anxious...TRENT: Yeah, but three days is kinda the money...MIKE (interrupting sarcastically): Why don't I just wait three weeks and tell her I was cleaning out my wallet and found her number...CHARLES: ... then ask where you met her...MIKE: Yeah, I'll tell her I don't remember and then I'll ask what she looks like. (pause) Then I'll ask if we fucked. How's that, Tee? Is that "the money"?The guys laugh.TRENT: Laugh all you want, but if you call to soon you can scare off a nice baby who's ready to party.SUE: Don't listen to him. You call whenever it feels right to you.MIKE: How long are you guys gonna wait to call your honeys?TRENT & SUE: Six days. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LavenderMenace Posted December 19 Report Share Posted December 19 Originally posted by brooklynkid Indeed. For your pleasure, a snippet from the great film Swingers:TRENT: See, baby. It's not that hard.CHARLES: 818?MIKE: 310.MIKE: How long do I wait to call?TRENT: A day.MIKE: Tomorrow?TRENT: No...SUE: ... Tomorrow, then a day.TRENT: ... Yeah.MIKE: So, two days?TRENT: Yeah. I guess you could call it that.SUE: Definitely. Two days. That's the industry standard...TRENT (to Sue. shop talk): ... I used to wait two days. Now everyone waits two days. Three days is kinda money now, don't you think?SUE: ... Yeah. But two's enough not to look anxious...TRENT: Yeah, but three days is kinda the money...MIKE (interrupting sarcastically): Why don't I just wait three weeks and tell her I was cleaning out my wallet and found her number...CHARLES: ... then ask where you met her...MIKE: Yeah, I'll tell her I don't remember and then I'll ask what she looks like. (pause) Then I'll ask if we fucked. How's that, Tee? Is that "the money"?The guys laugh.TRENT: Laugh all you want, but if you call to soon you can scare off a nice baby who's ready to party.SUE: Don't listen to him. You call whenever it feels right to you.MIKE: How long are you guys gonna wait to call your honeys?TRENT & SUE: Six days. I thought you were my new best friend when you told me there would be fruity candycanes, but now? you are stuck with my ass for LIFE!translation: thanksformakingmelaughcausemydayhasbeenrealsucky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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