well stymie, everyone's different, and everyone has different needs it works both ways: you and your g/f decide to move in together. you discover you can't stand each other and break up but if you waited till you were married, you can't just pick up and leave. You'd be forced to grow up and accomodate each of your differences. What's the point in moving in together when you're sleeping over every other night anyway? Just like in NMN's example, she was getting upset when he made plans w/out telling her. YOU MIGHT AS WELL BE MARRIED Im not sure if you understand that, but that's how i see things, and that's how im going to live my life Plus, when you live with someone b4 you get married, where's the excitement when u finally get married?