Well, ramrod, why would that be fair? ramrod, here's a comparison: you like to eat green eggs n ham on tuesdays. Your girlfriend LOVES green eggs n ham, and wants to eat it with you on Tuesday's. But, even thou she loves it, you say no. Bring your selfishness down a notch and let the girl do what she wants. In my opinion, anyone in a relationship shouldn't "grind" with other people. Dance , yes. Grind, no.