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Thanks Jazl Though I would point out that "the special feeling" isn't love. Thatis another feeling. BUt you can make any woman you sleep with understand tht you respect them and really enjoy their company and are really happy to be enjoying a special moment with them. Now, I can only imagine how it feels when you combine that feeling WITH the bond of true love. THrow in a mind-blowing orgasm on both sides and I guesss it becomes a night to remember.

Thanks a lot SD. I wouldn't call it a paradigm shift as I had always held views along these line. Call it more of a crystalization. All my lovers had been very non-sensual women so while I could see the effect I could have on a woman by being sensual I never was exposed to the powerful reality that is created when sensual meets sensual and that loop of energy that just takes both of you away. So my views went from being loose and undefined to very defined with a practical example to draw on. At the end of that night all I could do is smile and think to myself how much I love rauncgy, nasty, filthy, women

I would never say this in person as there is no way to say it without seeming arrogant. But on the boards you can be honest because its not as if people can really think you are trying to make yourself look good - what would be the point? Having recently had and off-beat but great sexual encounter I came to a revelation. I had had no good sex ever before and I am 29. And only 2 partners. Yet I was fascinated with sex and more importanly, with women. I loved all the aspects of women though in recent years I had developped a balancing sense of their faults as well - this is important. I was really worried that night as I hooked up with two 30 something veterans that my skills would be obviously inadequate. As an avid porn watcher I knew so much theory - I pretty much know everything that has been written about sex because I'm interested and mainly because I have an extremely good memory so when I read something in the paper or in Cosmo or see it on TV it sticks in my head. But when I was with this couple it quickly became obvious that I was by no means incompetent. In fact, I was turning this girl on way more than her partner (partially because of the newness factor but also for other reasons). He knew what he was doing but was straight-forward , competent, and mechanical. I, on the other hand, was completely lost in the joy of touching a woman for the first time who wanted to be touched and was aggressive in touching back. There was no need to think abouthow much foreplay or how much this or that. I simply took my time everywhere. Everywhere was a delight to explore and to touch and to tease. We were both a flurry of motion using hands and tongues, feet and thighs. It wasn't only obvious erogenous zones that were touched but rather everywhere in a search for new zones that felt good. It flowed like a long dream. Knowing all my theory was great and allowed me to instantly get to ac ertain level and to give her some mind blowing orgasms that surprised both of us. But I felt that even if I didn''t know I would have learned soon enough simply by exploring and paying attention to her breathing, her responses, her eye movements. There was this electric vibe between her and me that wasn't about love, which she had with her Boyfriend, but about a connection on a different plane that they clearly did not. I can only imagine what it might be like to have a connection on both. In that moment all the cliche complaints on sit-coms, in books and by female friends about men made sense. I thought of my friends and of the woman's lover there and saw the stiffness both imaginatively and sensualy he displayed. Partly from training and partly biology women are just generally more sensual than men. SO I guess my realization is that to be a great lover forget about the technoques and positions at first and try to open yourself up. Through reading and the arts and generally being more honest and open in life your senualitty can begin to develop. Some people have it and some don't - but I think many have the potential who are not realizing it and this is what leaves many women with the feeling that they want more. I mean sometimes we all want rough animal sex and many men have good technique and physique and can provide that. But what about the thousands of other variations and combinations? What about not only knowing a woman's body techniocally but really being able to almost imagine being her so that you can assault her with so many differnt tpes of touches and carresses at different times and at the right times- so that you know just what dirty word to say at the right time to make her scream. A man should know all the theory to be at the top of his game. But that is pretty easy and straightforward. But I realize now that the key to getting better at sex isn't only in the bedroom. Its in becoming a freer, more imaginative and devloped person. Having women as friends and really getting to know them - embracing all the contradictions of feminity from the whore to the mother to the bitch to the friend. I was often guilty of doing this in a false way - of putting them on a pedestal and that interfered with really knowing them. You can't really say you love women until you love the good and the bad. See I guess the real key is that when it is obvious how un-judgemental, non-jealous and caring you are then that energy frees the woman up. With that energy every touch of yours tells her how sexyand beautiful you think she is and how gorgeous she is doing this nasty thing and suggests that doing even nastier things would make her even more beautiful and respected in your eyes. And when that happens watch out as I saw the other night - women can get really wild. Its all about this mental connection that I think great male lovers can make with women that they havemet for even a few minutes. Girls I know have talked about it - about a look, or a an expression or a few words and the body language and energy that just tell a girl that the guy nderstands women, is a friend of women, and knows how to make the bedroom a fun adventure that is different everytime. I guess that is my goal more than figuring out the 107th variationof the wheelbarrow position ) Please don't take this rant as being too arrogant as I myself feel that I have a ways to go. I just wanted to share what I am thinking.

I am very jealous Sirdante in that you have had lots of great sex and I have had measly amounts of bad sex (the last adventure not included). But I ain't over the hill yet so hopefully I can make up for lost time. But I am learning that I really do have no inhibitions so things could get interesting. And yeah, isn't a woman squirming and squirting all over your face just the best!!

I got the Plan Dyanna! I will come over and give you endless hours of real orgasms which we will catch on video. Then we'll editdown to the best ones and use it as a training device so you can watch yourself and copy them. Weshould have you faking like a veteran porn star in no time Of course to round out your skills we'll have to tape all different types of Orgams - anal, g-spot, clitoral, squirting, combined-atack hehe I am nothing if not professional.

How can you say risky? It might become risky and I'm not saying that if there had been no coke and I could have gotten it up long enough to fuck I would have abstained. But all we did was suck and lick each other. I mean c'mon, some little risks in life you have to take. I mean the day I get blown in a condom, or even more laughable, actually use a dental damn, is the day they bury me. I mean the risk of aids from that is about the same as getting hit by a bus - so now I am twice as likley to get hit by a bus. boo hoo. I'll cut out bacon wear a bit more sunscreen and even out the overall death odds.

there's one thing to being adventurous and another to not being gay. A girl can do just about anything to my ass she wants if it turns her on. But I don't want a man touching me. I'm not afraid of it and I don't care if I was gay - if I found myself attracted to men I would do stuffwith them - but until that day no palying with the boys for me. On the other hand you can't be so afraid that in group sex you freak if say a guy's nuts happen to brush up against you aor whatever. That's no biggie. All of thios means too that if a girl wants to put a dildo in my ass fine - but no strapping one on and reaming me while talking about her hard cock and me being her bitch And as for the double standard - there just is one when it comes to same-sex play. More men are gay than women but women are freer to straddle the lines - especially sexually. Men tend tobe gay or straight (some exceptions) and any crossing of the line is a big committment and life changing event. Tat is just the way it is - its not a false double standard - its a real one.

A girl should never, ever fake it. Faking destroys the honesty and maturity required for truly good sex. Men have to learn what pleases their woen and also learn that sometimes, no matter what you do or hopw good you are its just noyt gonna happen. Just like women need to know that sometimes even the best of us finish too soon or occassionally not at all. And also to realize that for a variety of reasons sometimes we don't get hard or get 100% hard or can't stay hard. Sometimes sex is a porn movie - sometimes not and every body needs to develop the relaxed attitude that takes it in stride. If your man doesn't get hard laugh it off. See if he still enjoy the feeling and maybe still blow him or cuddle nd get him to work double shifts on you - if you can take it. If she doesn't cum ask her if their is anyting that would finish her or just finish yourself off quick and cuddle. Its all good - we are not machines/ And faking when its a man you don't really care about (one night stand) is still developping bad habits on your end.

Yes it was And hopefully even nastier days await

What a weekend. I have had almost no sexual experience myself (4 girls - 2 of them one night stands - only intercourse 3 times). The main reason was that until ayear or so ago I was a raging ADD hyper-active case that was just to nuts for most women to handle. Despite that I had as friends many sexually adventurous people and I always thought I would be one too - I seemed to have no jealousy and no inhibitions. But you never know until you try. Well a while ago I finally discovered why I was so hyper and got treated and I became a new person. Suddenly I was getting looks and such from girls but I wasn't out that much and didn't know anybody and never seemed to pull off the cold pick-up at a bar or club. And I am so busy working trying to create a career after 27 years of being a lazy freak that I have like 0 friends in town. Meanwhile, I am a complete horn dog and porn fan - and having no sex ever didn't help with the sex obsession (last lay was a bad one night stand a year ago). So I go out this weekend, alone as usual, and run into the former manager of my local porn shop (I was a BIG customer). He is 34 and has his girlfriend with him. We start talking in general and somehow it comes out that they are BIG swingers with an open relationship. He was joking that just 3 days ago she went to their swing club alone because he was too tired and the thought of her fucking tons of strangers alone turned him on not off. But I thought nothing of it although she was quite attractive. We ran into other acquaintances of theirs (non-swing ones) and went to a club. At 3 am I say I'm bored and that I still have more e, booze, Ice and coke and ask if they want to walk the three blocks to my place. I don't have many expectations but then she says "so, you want company?" and I say "yeah" and she responds "How much mpany?". I try to be cool and say "whatever happens , happens". When we get back to my apartent I start pull down the sofabed in front of the TV and serve them drinks. I light candles and put on a great lesbian porn and some sasha and Diggers. We do some lines, another e and just start chilling. One thing leads to another and she is naked blowing me. Funny thing is that while I am fine (usually on e) the booze and coke had both of us with coke dick. Things felt good but we couldn't get too hard or cum - but what was so cool is how that didn't bother her at all. She was expereinced enough to have seen it a million times and she wasn't weirded at all. Eventually he got hard enough to fuck her but most of the time we were just touching and baking out on e and of course devouring her. I was worried that my lack of practical experience would make me seem clumsy or inadequate for a guy my age. Now, I have rarely fucked and the coke delayed that obstacle to another day. But I am pretty new at everything else too. I own the Seymoure Butts series Squirters which graphically demonstrates how to find the g-spot and make women squirt. It might have been the E but soon, with no shyness, I have my face firmly planted between her legs. I have 1, then 2, then 3 fingers in her and I find the G-Spot immediately and feel it harden. I slowly and in different rhythms stroke it and apply upwards pressure. Soon I have two fingers of my other hand in her ass (something else I've never done before). My tongue is teasing her labia and then I am nibbling and finally alternating between dancing touches and slow, methodical licking on her clit. I have to put my chest on her stomach to pin her down as she tries to squirm free. She is coming consistently in sharp, hard orgams that just seem to break over her endlessly. I had never seen a woman cum like that live before. Her pussy is getting so wet that that my hands are making that sloshing sound and my face is covered in her juices. And they just taste so fucking great. I am oblivious to her fake pleas to stop and relentless in pursuit of my goal. Finally, after about 35-40 minutes of doing this her body convulses like she was being electrocuted and she screams out. I start thrusting my 3 fingers in her even faster and do the same with those in her ass. I sucked her super-hard clit into my mouth and ran my tongue all over it. She starts screaming and my face and mouth is flooded with streams of juice. I keep licking and sucking until she finally stops moving. It was the most erotic experience of my life. Obviously I loved it if I remember every detail. She seemed to be impressed too. Maybe I got lucky - who knows - but man did I feel like a million bucks. The rest of the night was filled with many great scenes of him pounding her while she blew me and her jerking us both off andher fngering herself in front of us. It was all very cool. Maybe it was just the drugs that prevented any awkwardness and I'll find out the next time they call as I will go sober (some weed) for "optimal performance". But one thing is for sure - I loved being a freak. They want me to call and go out again soon - hopefully with "friends"they said. Adventure is calling and I am sure as hell gonna answer the fucking door.

Your points are well taken. But I don't agee with everything. I thinktat everyone goes through a period where their involvement in the scene is at unsustainably high-levels. When lie does come crashing in they react by completely moving on. But I have scene others gracefully transition their activity levels so that they always party but only so much and so hard as the demandss of their age and lifestyle allow. That is my plan. I may only go out 6 times a year when I'm 35 but rest assured I will party like an animal when I do.

Felicia - those perky, realtits and that bod and the way she litterally whimpers when she comes. Katie Gold - not the best looking or body - but I love that petite blonde look w/ baby tits and she isjust so fucking nasty and dirty. God I lovethat in a woman - she is just such a slut )

When I think about it more - I have no problem with the anal play. But maybe just her using a vibrator would be better - when she gets the strap on and starts calling it her cock it just gets too much into the gender-bender / homo-erotic for me. But who knows...maybe she just needs to ply me with liquor and sweet words and ill do anything she wants

I'd do it with a girl I truly trusted and knew. I'm all for overcoming barriers and hang-ups. However, some hang-ups are really deep rooted. This is one of the most so. The problem and danger is that we don't always know our response to things until after it happens. Unless you really knew the girl, something like this might make her feel differently and less attracted to you afterwords. It shouldn't and she might swear it won't only to find out after that she cannot ever look at you the same way. This fantasy and act hits very, very pimal; cords in terms of identity, masculinity and gender - it would take serious openess and enlightenment for it not to have some effect. That being said, if a girls mouth on my cock feels better with her finger in my ass then a vibrating strap-op would probably feel great.

it is very hard to remember these things sometimes i agree. very hard.

It is the principles that you hold fast to in the toughest of times that define you. We in the western world pride ourselves on our tolerance and our openess; on our fairness and our justice. America has now joined most of the rest of the world in being a victim of terrorism - although clearly on an unprecedented scale. Our free and open society that makes us so strong also makes us so vulnerable to these acts. We will never be able to stop them all - such is the price of our freedom. Resist the urge to blame the government for this failure - they are already blaming themselves far more than we ever can. Finding the culprits can take a long time. It can be very difficult. The men or women responsible are evil. Evil knows no race or religion. It is its own religion. Resist the urge for quick vengeance and easy answers. Think to yourself that the Arabs and Persians you know and see around you may very well feel threatened today - may be fearful that they will bear the brunt of our misplaced wrath. Islam is an old religion that preaches a message of tolerance and freedom not very different from that of the other major religions. If indeed an Arab group turns out to be responsible remind yourself that as we have Ted Bundy so do they have their psychopaths. Don't isolate them. Don't blame them. Show courage and bring them back into the fold. Many of them may have lost family as well. They are Americans. Allow them to grieve with us. Don't hate them - hug them. There has been too mucg hate for one day - for one lifetime. We want justice - not vengeance.

It is the principles that you hold fast to in the toughest of times that define you. We in the western world pride ourselves on our tolerance and our openess; on our fairness and our justice. America has now joined most of the rest of the world in being a victim of terrorism - although clearly on an unprecedented scale. Our free and open society that makes us so strong also makes us so vulnerable to these acts. We will never be able to stop them all - such is the price of our freedom. Resist the urge to blame the government for this failure - they are already blaming themselves far more than we ever can. Finding the culprits can take a long time. It can be very difficult. The men or women responsible are evil. Evil knows no race or religion. It is its own religion. Resist the urge for quick vengeance and easy answers. Think to yourself that the Arabs and Persians you know and see around you may very well feel threatened today - may be fearful that they will bear the brunt of our misplaced wrath. Islam is an old religion that preaches a message of tolerance and freedom not very different from that of the other major religions. If indeed an Arab group turns out to be responsible remind yourself that as we have Ted Bundy so do they have their psychopaths. Don't isolate them. Don't blame them. Show courage and bring them back into the fold. Many of them may have lost family as well. They are Americans. Allow them to grieve with us. Don't hate them - hug them. There has been too mucg hate for one day - for one lifetime. We want justice - not vengeance.

the feel that you want to pee feeling is one of the signs of a g-spot orgasm. Go with it. You won't pee.

Youare on the right track sweetie. I'm glad to know that you havent soured on advanced sexuality in general. Do what you acnto get out soon. And don't pretend that anything is going on when you are still at home now. Tell him its over and that you are just waiting to leave. Stay at friend's places on weekends and whenever you can - try not to be around all of the time. Mainly, the one piece of advice I cangive you is to move beyond anger. This will please your BF at first but then it will scare him as he realizes that by giving up any care of who was right or wrong you are truly giving up the relationship. Its really hard to not want to feel vindicated when you are wronged. he will keep making you feel that maybe you were too hard on him or misinterpreted it. You, doubting, will yell and scream and do anything just to finally hear him admit fully and completely that it was his fault - he was wrong. But he may never do that. But aslong as these things matter you are still IN the relationship. What you have to do is realize that they no longer matter. You or him may have been wrong. Doesnt matter. The one truth that this has all shown is thathe doesnot make you happy. And once this truth is found it really is irrelevant who was the bigger asshole or who was wrong or right. The only thing that is "right" is for you to go. Try to go all buddhist, at least on the outside, and just don't let yourself get baited into arguments or fights. Be kind, pleasant and completely forgiving - because it is very easy to forgive when it doesn't matter. Anyways, these tings are hard, if not impossible to do but the moreyou act like that instead of screaming, yelling, resentful yet still involved people the better it will go. But then again what the fuck do I know.

Basically, even if you and/or your boyfriend are people that can enjoy threesomes and maybe open relationships (truly open relationships almost never, ever work whereas a couple sharing their sex together with the occassional other often does), you guys were nowhere near being ready. Given the state of your relationship and the approach taken it was doomed to be a mess. I so rarely say this because there are usually two sides to a story and things I don't know - but I feel pretty strongly this time that you just have to go. Get out. Scram. This man is not the one for you. I've seen these situations too were you just feel that you have to stay with somebody, give them a chance, forgive them. But this isn't about forgiving anymore. Its not about whether he is bad or evil or did the wrong thing. It seems that after all your posts about him that he just is not the man for you. You are a truly sweet and sensitive soul. Your sexual freakyness is something that accentuates your fundamental romantic nature but that cannot live without it. You need kindness, respect, honesty and consideration. You don't need confusdion, strange roomates, threesomes that aren't done in a good way. Your BF is traking advantage of your desire for sexual exploration. After all your talk he or you might feel that you have to do this or that when the opportunity presents. But you don't. You are very attractive and will ahev many, many chances to do all the wild and freaky stuff that you want in life once you get the fundamentals right. And it will be so much better then. I say get back to basics for awhile. Dump this guy - give him the truly open relationship he wants. Get your own place, find your own space. Then start exploring life on your own terms 'cause this is crap. I'm almost angry here - I am fucking angry at the thought of a guy treating someone like you like that. I mean sure, you're no angel, but this is just bullshit. Time to trade him in for a better model.

Miss you too kittie. I'll never be regular again but MrDick will pop in and out from time to time:) I'm pretty fair but I really got to say that the sex boards are not what they were 7 months ago. I guess everything has its prime and we were lucky to enjoy it. Maybe even help make that time its prime

ahh young grasshoppa When a guy gets real addicted to suckin' on pussy it becomes his need to please you. Trust me, I've had a few one night stands that for whatever readon turned into nothing more than us smoking joints and me eating and fingering her for hours. And I did not feel the least bit like I missed out on my needs - that night was awesome. Sure, I need to get off too but not every time. When you have a face full of delicious, sumptuous, pink pussy you have no other need than to keep licking. Except maybe to put a fingerin her ass

*buds to "head" of the line* "Excuse me miss. As an out-of-towner I got no real shot at the title here. So I was wondering if maybe I could slip in ahead of the rest for a little pussy licking before everything gets complicated. Just give me and my tongue and fingers and my bag of vibrators a few hours of your time. Then I'll slip back out of your life and let you resume your interviewing of potential candidates. Satisfaction is guaranteeed -over and over again. We even provide thejoints, tunes and whipped cream. Its a complete servcing miss with all the extras for a one-time low cost fee of one kiss. What'da say miss?

It'll be cool babe. No settling this time around. I know you'll find a smart, kind guy who you can trust - both to go down on you like a champ and to not do it on anyone else without your permission Dating game sux (I know) but you are in an awesome position to playit. You are still young, gorgeous and really smart. You know, as much as anyone can, what you want. And of course you fill out a pair of skin tightpants like nothin' else. You got it all You may be too much for most men but when you find one who can match you it will be all worth it Best of luck. Wyatt

Sorry Dyanna But maybe you should back the truckup a bit. only know a bit of your story but maybe you are jumping to some conclusions. What you really seem to know is that at this point your prime concern is finding a hetero male partnerwho satisfies you both sexually and romantically. Someone who you trust and who excites you. All that other stuff is too soon to know. You had a bad experience or two. But mainly you were doomed from the start by going in with a shaky relationship to begin with. Generally from what I've seen, if a couple wants to explore threesomes and moresomes, etc... they have to be more solidly committed and trusting with each other than normal - not less. But what do I know. All I'm saying is that in the future there still may be a place for sexual adventure and pussy and new partners. But not as a replacement for what you reallywant butrather as an added bonus once you have found the right guy.