NYC is not the point, your career is! I had a long distance relationship with the first love of my life. It lasted quite a while (7 years) over three countries, Poland, US and Hong Kong. We actaully didn't get along very well after we were living together for the last two years of our relationship. Because I gave up a part of my career, to be with her back home in NYC. The resentment turned to bitterness and the bitternes turned to disolvement. Follow your dreams. If your dream is to be with this guy only, than follow that, if your dream is to excell in your career, than follow that. Just don't give up on what you want, what ever it may be. I would crawl on the street to have back the career I had before my x and I spllit up. It all depends what you want, and everything else will fall into place. If you decide once you are there to go back for him, than it will be an expensive lesson, but at least you gave it your best shot. These days most people don't even get a shot.