romy20 Posted August 9 Report Share Posted August 9 .....ok I have a question, I have a guy friend that Ive known for about 8 monthsand at first we were friends and every now and then hooked up, but then for the past 2 months we've been having sex, and its wierd cause this is the first time there;s no like actual "feelings", like its just sex, and we hang out alot and we're best friends, I dunno I don't know how to describe it its a wierd situation. Like he's good looking but just not my type. The one thing im worried about is that when me or him find someone we wanna actually date and be commited to, will that change our friendship? anyone else ever have this problem or has some advice?thanx:) -romina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lollie60 Posted August 9 Report Share Posted August 9 it should not change your friendship just pick up and go Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
i3itch Posted August 9 Report Share Posted August 9 Shouldn't change your friendship...And if it does, it means one of you grew feelings for the other Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chrismakk69 Posted August 9 Report Share Posted August 9 Originally posted by i3itch Shouldn't change your friendship...And if it does, it means one of you grew feelings for the other I agree with her...I've been in this situation before and it didn't change our friendship since we are still best friends......but sometimes when we are with other people, you can sometimes sense a little bit of jealousy from the other...I guess it depends on how close you two are and what feelings you both have for eachother. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
georgym Posted August 9 Report Share Posted August 9 the mere words "friends with benefits" just makes me I don't know wh.y.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bodiii Posted August 9 Report Share Posted August 9 i love all my friends with benefits...i'm just not in love with them...its an understanding that should be made up front...---if you do find someone...don't try to hide it...just discuss it like the friends that you are...if you are that close he will understand... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rdancer Posted August 9 Report Share Posted August 9 sounds like a nice relationship. If your BOTH into it just for the sex I dont think there would be a problem. Just dont make love anytime soon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tranzwhore Posted August 10 Report Share Posted August 10 watch out cuz friends with benefits become get husbands / wifes.at least for me! friends with benefits lead to engaged to be married. & we're best friends! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daemoncel Posted August 10 Report Share Posted August 10 i've actually had 2 friends with benefits turn into more then thatafter it got past the Friends with Benefits part, it was good for a bit and phazed out quickboth times it didn't work out Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sobeton Posted August 11 Report Share Posted August 11 once you hook up, it's no longer a friendship. there are going to be emotions that develop. as much the emotions may seem suppressed, they are there always lingering in the background. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chrismakk69 Posted August 11 Report Share Posted August 11 Originally posted by sobeton once you hook up, it's no longer a friendship. there are going to be emotions that develop. as much the emotions may seem suppressed, they are there always lingering in the background. unfortunatley, i have to agree with that... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NOT IN USE Posted September 15 Report Share Posted September 15 i didnt know this was even posted.....it is possible to have a friend with benefits.....you just make sure you never develop any feelings.....be open with each other...and make sure it is "just sex" and not "falling in love"....it depends i guess on how you originally felt about the person and your own past relationships.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bullseye Posted September 15 Report Share Posted September 15 go with it while it lasts Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NOT IN USE Posted September 15 Report Share Posted September 15 hopefully the girl and i can be friends after the sex is done......only time can tell....and alot of 'ego' will be involved... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
murrrr Posted September 15 Report Share Posted September 15 i've been in this situation before also and for some reason the guy always gets emotional after awhile, one thing is for sure that if u end the relationship u have w/ him and won't ever be the same, unfortunately Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NOT IN USE Posted September 15 Report Share Posted September 15 Originally posted by nybeauty i've been in this situation before also and for some reason the guy always gets emotional after awhile, one thing is for sure that if u end the relationship u have w/ him and won't ever be the same, unfortunately the guy gets emotions...i would think it would be the girl....i think i agree...the benefits unfortunately, may add more than just a friendship...sad but true...but only time can tell i guess Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
murrrr Posted September 15 Report Share Posted September 15 Originally posted by podes881 the guy gets emotions...i would think it would be the girl....i think i agree...the benefits unfortunately, may add more than just a friendship...sad but true...but only time can tell i guess i know it's weird but i dont get emotional when i know it's just a sexual thing, its a mistake i wont ever do again, i prefer to keep my best friend which sadly i couldnt because he wanted to be w/ me and i didnt feel the same way Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nynyny Posted September 15 Report Share Posted September 15 i hate girls like you..if im fucking a girl(unless it was just some slut one nighter, but i would never talk to a girl i fucked the first night again. no respect for sluts like that)...its for a reason and she better not be fucking anyone elseonce you fuck someone..there no longer your friend, but something more...(usually this begins a sexual relationship, or some form of tension because of mis matched feeelings) and theres no turning back(at least until some amount of time has gone by).... boys and girls cant be freinds...unless one of them is gay..thats just human nature... every single male is only freinds with good looking girls for one reason...BECAUSE THEY WANT TO FUCK THE GIRLS ! thats right.. and if you think thats bullshit, your not in touch with reality...now im a guy and i know how guys brains work...but women..shit, i dont know much about them...i do know that they are irrational and do illogical shit alot more then men...but to answer your question.. the guy probably thinks your his girl because..YOUR FUCKING HIM ALL THE TIME ! so by you going out and getting a new cock, you will probably break the poor kids heart and make him crazy and the moral of the story is:dont fuck your freinds Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
houze-kitty Posted September 15 Report Share Posted September 15 wow nynyny.....very well said---i have to agree that it is bullshit when a str8 guy and str8 girl are "just friends" there is ALWAYS attraction on 1 side or the other..even if they dont admit it....now im talking about peeps who spend a shitload of time with their "friend" not just casual aquaintences (sp).....SOMEONE is feeling more than just "freindship"...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NOT IN USE Posted September 15 Report Share Posted September 15 i dont know....i had a girl spend the whole summer at my apartment, and it has stayed friends with benefits (yes, we are both straight, well me straight, her bi)...whatever....we both know it will come to an end eventually and we decided just to deal with it then...I DO NORMALLY AGREE STRAIGHT GUYS AND GIRLS CANT BE 'JUST FRIENDS'...... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastyt Posted September 15 Report Share Posted September 15 If you have the maturity to realize that some things are more important than fucking, and the ability to transcend your immediate impulses... the sex of your friends is unimportant. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
babbo Posted September 15 Report Share Posted September 15 Originally posted by lollie60 it should not change your friendship just pick up and go [/QUunrealistic comment l;isted above, human beings are not robots Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
babbo Posted September 15 Report Share Posted September 15 Originally posted by sobeton once you hook up, it's no longer a friendship. there are going to be emotions that develop. as much the emotions may seem suppressed, they are there always lingering in the background. an intelligent comment from a human being- whew Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
houze-kitty Posted September 15 Report Share Posted September 15 tasty--good point but i wasnt talking about just fucking that person---i was talking about the attraction that one or the other feels......its not the same with guy/guy or girl/girl friendships.....in most cases someone always feels more than just freindship.....btw tasty..u have awesome vocab skills and a very eloquent way of saying things:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastyt Posted September 15 Report Share Posted September 15 Originally posted by houze-kitty tasty--good point but i wasnt talking about just fucking that person---i was talking about the attraction that one or the other feels......its not the same with guy/guy or girl/girl friendships.....in most cases someone always feels more than just freindship.....btw tasty..u have awesome vocab skills and a very eloquent way of saying things:) Oh, I wouldn't deny that there's often (usually?) an attraction on one end or the other... just that in *most* situations it's something that can be dealt with, and doesn't pose a major threat to the friendship....and thanks... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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