gambitx73 Posted December 9 Report Share Posted December 9 I was running a stint of about 2 year relationship... bad bad bad break up..we both hate each other now..and won't speak to each other..her wings have been clipped,.. she's originally from upstate NY and now in Jersey.... she came down to live w/ me and now w/ her new found freedom she says...C ya... and is running off to someone else's apartment to rent for free.. (she was renting free at my place too) obviously ..she was my gf.Well in any event..just wanted to see if anyone was going through similar Shi*!* that I am and would like to share experiences...It's a learing lesson ... she had much insecurities and trust issue to begin w/ ... I've done my best to show unwavering and unconditional love..but i guess it's true what they say in that movie Alexander the Great.."people are like snakes.... you can tend and care for them all their lives..and one day they will just turn on you"......"Those that love too much will lose it...those that love with Irony lasts"..Well maybe i am just venting my anger at the fact that she broke into my bedroom (after we split she had her own bedroom in the same house)... and she tore up ALL the pictures she could find of my Ex gf's and letters and cards that were sent to me...Mutalated the Teddy Bears we gave each other for Valentines Day 2003/2004...placed the mutalated bear and roses on my bed with a note reading:::"Sleep on these Bed of Roses Ass hole"..She got mad b/c I left the house and mad plans w/ my friend to see the movie alexander the GREAT w/o talking to her..isn't that what your supposed to do anyway once someone breaks up w/ you...ignore them??!!! She found out that I had had two instances in which I was in a state if infidelity.... which really made our relationship much more of a roller coaster..My instances were Feb and april of 2003 in which our relationship and commitment level was not or has not matured to the point in which it was during 2004 and when she truly decided to move in w/ me and actually moved in with me....As bad as it may sound..and I'm sure there are women reading this and saying that i got what i deserverd..but wait there is more to the story..i later found out just very recent that she was hooking up w/ somoeone on June28th which is of course more recent than mine..as well as when she did move in w/ me in july of 2004 she was totally mysteriously coming home at 3am saying she was in a hot tub w/ 2 guys smoking pot... and that nothing happened and for me not to worry about it???And also disappearing for a whole weekend w/o telling me, up until i called her...saying that she just wanted to be w/. friends...whom the friends i found out was a guy she had already hooked up w/ earlier in the beginning of our relationship..now now you guys might be thinking that why was i still w/ her when all this happenned... I excused alot of the things she did, b/c she was young... (don't worry she's not under 18. ) well now to make the long story even longer..she has been hooking up w/ females.. which is all fine w/ me...I can respect someone going through stage or a phase or maybe just a total permanent change..but the fact that she brought home this girl to MY HOUSE and slept over..Really killed me..i almost LOST IT.. luckily for them.. i did not see them that night or the morning after... Not only that she totally disrespects me by bringing this gay guy friend she makes out w/ in front of me on my porch...She is supposed to move out after the finals or during the finals... which believe me... can't come any sooner..in any event...it's still hard b/c there were moments that were truly cherishable and it's hard b/c for crying out loud this is the girl I thought i was going to Marry and have KIDS WITH!!!Dreams and fairy tales.. ah such dreams are hard and painful to die...so anyway... for those of you who have issue of affairs of the heart..I'm sure my troubles and worries make your troubles seem much more bearable.Just say "thank god I'm not this kid"..Believe me it's not fun being me right now..the good side of the coin is that I have learned to be humble and true to myself... and to be kind in the moment of which most people would have contempt and hatred..In the end it's KINDNESS that matters most...also then i can look forward to going out and meeting someone new..perhaps not jumping to a relationship but meeting people at clubs to dance and have drinks w/ and meet up again and again weekend after weekend..is fun..Yeah i miss those days in TWILO, SF, Hunkbunka, Abyss, Exit, ARC, Vinyl..oh man Vinyl..it's been a long 2years coming.... but it's time for me to whip myself back into shape and put on those dancing shoes once more... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gambitx73 Posted December 9 Author Report Share Posted December 9 Oh and wait I also found a note she was exchanging w/ a friend during school that READ.."..yeah this class sucks I don't even know what to freaking write about in this paper...etc..etc.. ..and the guy (can't name names) just bought a house but doesn't like it and is already selling it and is planning to get an apartment one town over and he says to just be a cold hard bitch and tell him I love him,... But GRRR it's hard because I don't like him nor am i attracted to him anymore..." <--talking about me..I read this about just 2 weeks ago.. you can imagine my HURT and devastation.. she had wrote this i suspect back in September...when she was living with me and was my girl friend..so that whole time she was just pretending to love me just so when the time was right for her she was just going to LEAVE me...man... I was Fucking HURT so bad.. but more relieved b/c i thought i was the one that fucked up on the relationship when she found out about my instances back in 2003... I realized that i wasn't really losing anyone special...Such a shame.. such a shame..I mean i really really really LOVED this girl sooo fuckin' much BEYOND belief...such a shame.. Oh well..All i can say is that what was once told to me by somoneone special.."As long as you dance and move you shall never stumble..." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arkmoned Posted December 9 Report Share Posted December 9 Yeah i break up at least every other month is blows Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
erica127 Posted December 9 Report Share Posted December 9 my last break up was really bad & i don't talk to my ex anymore either...but once you get past a month or so, you look back & realize it's totally for the better even though it may not seem like it now....i'm sorry to hear it ended like that & had a lot of bad shit happenin...take what you can from this relationship & use it in the future....everything will work out though... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gambitx73 Posted December 9 Author Report Share Posted December 9 my last break up was really bad & i don't talk to my ex anymore either...but once you get past a month or so, you look back & realize it's totally for the better even though it may not seem like it now....i'm sorry to hear it ended like that & had a lot of bad shit happenin...take what you can from this relationship & use it in the future....everything will work out though...Thanks for the response and support... just curious though..how long was your relationship that one you speak of about after a month you'll realize it was for the better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
erica127 Posted December 9 Report Share Posted December 9 Thanks for the response and support... just curious though..how long was your relationship that one you speak of about after a month you'll realize it was for the better.i was with him for about 7 months & then hookin up & chillin wit him for another 2 years or so Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gambitx73 Posted December 9 Author Report Share Posted December 9 Hmm...interesting.. i also like your quote.. guys aren't worth your tears and the guys who are won't make you cry..I like that.. that's sweet.... idealistic, but sweet.what clubs do you go to around here or new york city?I went to club abyss tonight and met up w/ old friends it was really nice, and had a few drinks... 2 were free Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gambitx73 Posted December 9 Author Report Share Posted December 9 Erica are you Aquarius or Sagitarius.? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
erica127 Posted December 9 Report Share Posted December 9 i am an Aquarius....thanx about my quotes...i have a couple other for my girls as well who are going through tough times....the one that made them feel a whole lot better was "i cried today...not because i miss u, or even because i wanted u, but because i finally realized im gonna be ok without u.." well, it's off to work for me...oh, i go to clubs around here but also go to spirit in the city whenever i i am not too lazy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vsoto212 Posted December 9 Report Share Posted December 9 All I can say is hang in there and keep yourself busy, busy, busy. Go out and buy yourself some PHAT GEAR and pimp it out. I was there not to long ago. It sucks ! But eventually it will fade away.Victor Soto Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
misk Posted December 9 Report Share Posted December 9 ...that shit is fuckin long!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stiffler Posted December 9 Report Share Posted December 9 I wouldn't even give her til finals are over................no f'n way!!! Sorry bro I feel real bad for the situation you are in, but I'd put her out with the garbage!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ayquebueno Posted December 9 Report Share Posted December 9 I was in a 5 yr relationship and when you break up it's a terrible pain. However, time is the only thing that will truely heal you, but I promise you, you'll be ok in the end (with or without her). Everything happens for a reason, even if you don't see it now. After my break up I was single for a little over a year, then I found the love of my life, so it seems. We have now been exclusive for 8 months. I am so in love with her and it's wonderful. Hang in there man and I promise you'll be ok. Remember, you were a person before her, she did not make you who you are...you did. Good luck, stay busy, and soon enough you'll have other girlies saying "ayyyy que bueno!"Best, ayquebueno Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
itzbangin Posted December 9 Report Share Posted December 9 i just broke up with someone. At least i save money on christmas shopping. If you are breaking up i would kick her to the curb that second. keep your head up better days and better lays. I never talk to Ex's always either ends up some sort of drama or just pointless in other ways. Plus if she isnt giving you ass anymore whats the sense in talking to her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnnylaw Posted December 11 Report Share Posted December 11 Get out, see the world, she is one fish, in one pond,in one town, in one state,in one country, in a whole world of Oceans. Move on, fuggettabout her, it obviously wasn't meant to be. And she obviously has no loyalty to someone who helped her out. That's just the tip of the iceberg, you should consider yourself you go out now, and not later, and lost half your shit! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blondiegirl Posted December 11 Report Share Posted December 11 I agree...you should kick her to the curb..Her being there is only causing the knife to dig deeper... Remeber..."out of sight..out of mind" Once she is out the door, she will be out of your life and it will be a lot easier on you.. I have been in your situation, but a little worse.. My friends helped me out the best. GO out find YOU again, start all over.. go get a haircut, or buy new clothes. Get rid of everything that reminds you of her, it wil be much easier belive me. Everything happen for a reason, and you are going to be able to find true love with someone else.. And believe me she will relize what she has lost..."you don't know what you got till it is gone" The new year is coming, so take advantage of it...It is only going to get better from here. Good Luck and keep your head up. you will be the better person in the end.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gambitx73 Posted December 11 Author Report Share Posted December 11 I agree...you should kick her to the curb..Her being there is only causing the knife to dig deeper... Remeber..."out of sight..out of mind" Once she is out the door, she will be out of your life and it will be a lot easier on you.. I have been in your situation, but a little worse.. My friends helped me out the best. GO out find YOU again, start all over.. go get a haircut, or buy new clothes. Get rid of everything that reminds you of her, it wil be much easier belive me. Everything happen for a reason, and you are going to be able to find true love with someone else.. And believe me she will relize what she has lost..."you don't know what you got till it is gone" The new year is coming, so take advantage of it...It is only going to get better from here. Good Luck and keep your head up. you will be the better person in the end....*********************************************Thank you... Funny you should say, get a haircut. My hair was really long and i was going to cut in after the New Year,.. b/c of work and family peer pressure... Well my hair was shaved short all around but my long hair covered it so it wasn't obviouse.. Well in any event,.. there really isn't much an option of what type of haircut i get b/c of the shave all around, other than a fade.. so that is what i got.All the people 'ladies' at work that I never even knew acknowledge me, was saying.."Oh i didn't recognize you with the haircut it looks really nice"Well it did make me feel a bit better Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kara168 Posted December 13 Report Share Posted December 13 I got out of a 2 1/2 year relationship about six months ago and it's been really hard on me too. This was also the man I thought I was going to marry, have kids with, etc. We were actually living together and engaged. I am not in love with him anymore I guess I just miss what we had. I had the summer of my life being single but this time of year is very hard and can get really lonely. It really sucks that you are going through this at Christmas time. Summer is always the best time to go through a break up lol. Anyway...hang in there you sound like a good guy - u can do better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gambitx73 Posted December 13 Author Report Share Posted December 13 I got out of a 2 1/2 year relationship about six months ago and it's been really hard on me too. This was also the man I thought I was going to marry, have kids with, etc. We were actually living together and engaged. I am not in love with him anymore I guess I just miss what we had. I had the summer of my life being single but this time of year is very hard and can get really lonely. It really sucks that you are going through this at Christmas time. Summer is always the best time to go through a break up lol. Anyway...hang in there you sound like a good guy - u can do better.Thank you!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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