hmmm ... the 2 of us were supposed to spend thanksgiving together and she cancelled on me. i don't know if it's really 'cause she wants to mope around by herself or if it's 'cause she wants to hang out with the asshole. i don't think either is a good idea. but she said on the phone, before i said anything, "i know this is good for me, it's just hard," so i think she's on the right track, at least for now. the one problem is that she thinks they can be friends, and i think he needs to be 100% out of her life. but i can only be there for her as much as she'll let me be.