i don't know if you're asking about getting the best friend to come around or how to get the one in whom you're interested to come around, but it seems to me as though you were just talking about her friend. am i right? if so, she's probably just a little territorial (i know that word sounds really horrible when used in reference to a person, but the meaning is the same and i can't think of a better one right now ) about the one you like and is scared of losing time with her. that happens a lot, especially in really close, best friend situations. when two people feel like sisters/brothers, the invading potential boyfriend/girlfriend is often the other friend's enemy at first, even though that friend may not even know the potential bf/gf at all. either the girl you like's friend will come around, or she won't, but you can't spend your time trying to win her approval; she's gotta sort through a lot of her own stuff before she can give you a fair evaluation, and it's not your job to be something you're not to please her. sorry for all those confusing subjects (bf/gf/friend...)! let me know if that wasn't clear, and i'll try to phrase it better .