dgmodel Posted November 10 Report Share Posted November 10 if your spouse/partner/gf/bf whatever, cheated on you with someone hotter and sexier and better off than you or someone who was extrememely ugly and worse off than you??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phatman Posted November 10 Report Share Posted November 10 ...idk...if i ever got cheated on, i tend to think i wouldnt give a shit how pretty or ugly the other person was...i guess i cant say but what's the difference, the damage is done...if i found myself worrying about that, i would feel i was concentrating on the wrong particulars... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mala Posted November 10 Report Share Posted November 10 Ughhh....I'd die if they cheated on me w/ someone uglier. Slap in the face. But yeah, yeah cheating is bad. But hell....if you're gonna do it, it better be justified. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mssabina Posted November 11 Report Share Posted November 11 cheating is cheating, it hurts regardless who it's with but i think i would be a little comforted by the fact that i was cheated on with someone ugly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chris817 Posted November 11 Report Share Posted November 11 If your gonna cheat always cheat up Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bling Posted November 11 Report Share Posted November 11 the second one......... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastyt Posted November 12 Report Share Posted November 12 LOL... interesting question. I'm not sure... when my ex cheated on me it was with someone waaaay below me (iow, she was a white trash pig)... the fact that I knew he was winding up with *that* made me feel a little better. But that was a special situation, b/c the relationship was already pretty much over with anyway. If something were to just happen out of the blue, in a seemingly healthy relationship... I think that they'd both be just as bad. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sexxyme Posted November 12 Report Share Posted November 12 Cheating is cheating..it hurts regardless..doesn't really matter how ugly or how good looking the other person is.!!! Makes no difference to me! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
somebitch Posted November 12 Report Share Posted November 12 i agree with what other people have said about cheating with anyone being kinda the same but i know how i am..if a guy i was dating cheated with someone better looking than me i would feel a lot worse about it. i guess i would be jealous & i would feel like maybe i dont mean anything to him and he is really only interested in a pretty face. no matter who the person cheated with, it would be over. i most likely wouldnt forgive a cheater but i think i would feel worse if it was someone cuter than me. then again you can alway see it like he cheated with the hot girl b/c shes hot but the uglier girl??? he must have really felt something for her & that is something to be more angry about. meaningless fucking is one thing but for your man to be fucking someone he has an emotional connection to,, that is another story. neither should be forgiven imo. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tranzwhore Posted November 12 Report Share Posted November 12 either way, he's gettin' dumped! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destiny Posted November 12 Report Share Posted November 12 cheating is just bad in the first place, but if im going to be cheated on, the girl better be ugly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jimk29 Posted November 12 Report Share Posted November 12 Originally posted by dgmodel if your spouse/partner/gf/bf whatever, cheated on you with someone hotter and sexier and better off than you or someone who was extrememely ugly and worse off than you??? I don't think either situation feels good, but it's harder to take if the person is extrememely ugly and worse off than you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phuturephunk Posted November 12 Report Share Posted November 12 Originally posted by jimk29 I don't think either situation feels good, but it's harder to take if the person is extrememely ugly and worse off than you. ...I think alot of that stems from the fact that guys are, more often than not, the 'provider' in the equation... Now, before I get all kinds of protests from the fembot gallery, let me qualify that.....If a chick I was deeply in love with ever cheated on me with some useless schlub, I could pass it off as 'well, maybe she saw 'something' inside of him that was worth taking a second look at' I could say that i was a good enough provider in a material and safety sense, but the intangible happened to trump me (and intangibles are alot of what love and attraction is)... If she fucked around on me with someone who was more handsome, richer, and pretty much better in a 'provider' sort of way, then It'd hurt on two counts.. 1) I'm not 'good enough' as a provider and 2) I don't physically fit the bill either....From a man's standpoint, that would hurt worse, because it would strike at the heart of our inherant need to make ourselves useful.....ick..this is so hard to explain...Either way, i'd feel terrible about it, but it would suck doubly if she did it with some dashing asshole that had a better car, and a better life than me... ..Or something ot that effect.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phuturephunk Posted November 12 Report Share Posted November 12 ...Also, in this conversation, we have to keep in mind that as a society we put alot more stock in female BEAUTY than female ABILITY... conversely, we put alot of stock in male ABILITY and little (well, depends on the social group) on male BEAUTY... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karisma Posted November 12 Report Share Posted November 12 either way, it would hurt me more than words could express, and i would definitely break up w/ him.... but I would rather him have sex wih an ugly girl rather than someone really hot... i would imagine him having sex with this hot-ass girl and it would kill me--imgining him f*cking some ugly chick would at least give me something to (eventually) laugh at... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
koky Posted November 12 Report Share Posted November 12 Originally posted by tranzwhore either way, he's gettin' dumped! we think alike miss whore :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mssabina Posted November 12 Report Share Posted November 12 Originally posted by jimk29 I don't think either situation feels good, but it's harder to take if the person is extrememely ugly and worse off than you. really? i would take it worse if the person was extremely gorgeous and better off then me... it'd make me feel inadequate, like i wasn't good enough so my bf went out to find someone better... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jimk29 Posted November 12 Report Share Posted November 12 Originally posted by mssabina really? i would take it worse if the person was extremely gorgeous and better off then me... it'd make me feel inadequate, like i wasn't good enough so my bf went out to find someone better... But if ther personis a pig with nothing going for them, you have to ask yourself, why would my sig. other do this?Why risk what we had, for one night of sex with an ugly person?? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mssabina Posted November 12 Report Share Posted November 12 Originally posted by jimk29 But if ther personis a pig with nothing going for them, you have to ask yourself, why would my sig. other do this?Why risk what we had, for one night of sex with an ugly person?? that's true, i didn't think of it like that. either way, it's not a desirable situation... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jimk29 Posted November 13 Report Share Posted November 13 Originally posted by mssabina that's true, i didn't think of it like that. either way, it's not a desirable situation... agreed. Either way it stinks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tommyarmani Posted November 13 Report Share Posted November 13 Would you rather jump off a cliff or a bridge?Lets put it this way, when someone cheats on you, several things happen.First & foremost, REGARDLESS of what the other person looks like, how much money they have, etc, the cheater has broken "your bond" & that just plain hurts.Second, however, some people may have serious feelings of inesurity that can be severely fueled by the status of the person they chose to cheat on you with. These feelings can be lessened if the person was beneath you.Bottom line, i had an ex cheat on me with a guy on the redsox & it left me feeling "cheated" AND insecure as if i couldnt possibly measure up to a professional athletes status.But now i have brandy & never have to worry about this topic Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
b-side Posted November 14 Report Share Posted November 14 Psychotherapy would imply that you have a BIG EGO problem if you are concerned @ the beauty of someone cheating.. more than the actual ACT itself... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bumpdaddy Posted November 14 Report Share Posted November 14 this is a tricky question..... men and women cheat for different reason... guys usually cheat cuz they meet a really hot lookin girl and the little head kicks in.... women sometimes cheat for the same reason... but some of them will do it because they see the "better opportunity" in a sometime not so good lookin guy.... I wouldn't be as pissed if she went for a "better opportunity" if she banged a pretty boy for the fuck of it ... then i'd be pissed Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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