mugzie... have i got a story for you. back in 93 i met my ex. we fell in love almost instantly, like the 1st date. NO JOKE... we had so many things in common or so i thought. we loved to hang out, i was in school, did not work, he worked as a fork lift operator, we both loved to hang out with our friends, listen to music, and just do cool things together. it was an awesome week when we paid all of the bills and had $$$ to spare. we were very happy. well, than i started to change some. at first the change was so small you could hardly tell. than i got a good job (big 5 accounting) i wanted him to start dressing up, etc... now this is the man who picked me up in a white hanes t-shirt, skippys, and some baggy pants on our 1st date. he hated to dress up and he felt that i was asking him to compromise who he was. well than some other things happened in his life (can't share to painful) and i become very ashamed of him...... plus he refused to compromise or meet me half way. he felt that meant that he was selling out. things got harder and harder for us and we finally split........ neither of refused to budge or meet each other in the middle... so hon what i am saying is this.... go with her and enjoy yourself. you have talked about how you much you love her on this board a lot. you may find that you enjoy yourself and doing it with her will make it even better...... let us all know how much fun it is!!!! oh and these events generally have free drinks....