amy, i understand that you want to make your guy happy all the time, and i think that's terrific, but the more you emphasize that, the more it sounds like you spend your time doing that while you get nothing in return. you're making the situation sound like you're a big-time giver and don't get much, and that that's all right with you. i don't think that's all right, i don't think it's healthy to think that that's all right. i sincerely hope your guy does care about your satisfaction in bed, and that your reality is different from the way your writing comes across.