weyes Posted September 7 Report Share Posted September 7 a woman came into my work the other day (camera store/photo lab) and was showing me pictures of an elaborate and gorgeous flower arrangement, explaining that her "love" had sent them to her."aren't they beautiful?" she asked. then she went on to talk about the man who sent them. "he's the love of my life. he's the one. but i told him i can't see him anymore. see, he's indian and believes in reincarnation, and i believe in jesus christ, and i just can't marry someone who doesn't believe in the lord."she went on to say that, on their first date, he asked her if she would see him exclusively, and she had said, "yes.""we knew right away that we were meant for each other," she said. "i'm just praying he can change to the lord so we can be together."now, this seems crazy to me. she was going on for about twenty minutes, talking to me about how this is it - true love. how she knows this is the man with whom she is meant to spend the rest of her life. she's never felt like this, etc., etc. but she's willing to throw it all away over religious beliefs.what's more important: religion, or your soulmate? i'm sorry, but it seems like a no-brainer to me. this person comes around once in a lifetime - there's only one of him. and no one is ever going to share all of your beliefs. what would you guys do in this kind of situation? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuGaRNSpIcE Posted September 7 Report Share Posted September 7 i am religious, but if they are in love, then it shouldnt matter, she is gonna go through life wondering "what if" thats not the way it should be Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nos Posted September 7 Report Share Posted September 7 My question is, why does he have to start believing in the Lord, why can't she start believeing in reincarnation and all of his beliefs? But if you love the person and you think he or she is the one then nothing else should matter! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marcid21 Posted September 7 Report Share Posted September 7 Originally posted by weyes what's more important: religion, or your soulmate? i'm sorry, but it seems like a no-brainer to me. this person comes around once in a lifetime - there's only one of him. altho I beg to differ on that point, I do agree that the two of them should be able to work through a compromise.that being said, i will do my best to sacrifice and compromise for the love of my life. Things that are given up, would surely be made up for tenfold. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
koky Posted September 8 Report Share Posted September 8 IN MY OPPINION SHE IS A SELFISH BITCH & IS JUST THINKIN BOUT HERSELF... IF I WERE HIM ID LOSE THAT BITCH !! CAUSE SHES MAKING HIM CHOOSE ... WHY DOESNT SHE GIVE UP THE LORD FOR HIM ?? :mad: OR JUST MEET IN THE MIDDLE & BOTH TURN JEWISH !! NOW THAT WOULD BE FAIR Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tranzwhore Posted September 8 Report Share Posted September 8 pussy has more pull than a tractor. this guy's probably gonna convert. he'll go back to his beliefs after the divorce. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anotherway83 Posted September 8 Report Share Posted September 8 Originally posted by tranzwhore pussy has more pull than a tractor. this guy's probably gonna convert. he'll go back to his beliefs after the divorce. i really dont think u know indians, or that u understand the typical indian mentality i think its extremely unlikely that he'll convert...i'd like to know why she doesnt wanna convert, thoanyway, if they're in love, religion shouldn't matter Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daemoncel Posted September 8 Report Share Posted September 8 Originally posted by anotherway83 i really dont think u know indians, or that u understand the typical indian mentality i think its extremely unlikely that he'll convert...i'd like to know why she doesnt wanna convert, thoanyway, if they're in love, religion shouldn't matter sometimes it comes down to the pull the families have on the people, because that can make or break people when it comes to these sort of thingsthe acceptance from the parents are so important to so many people Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
funks0ul Posted September 8 Report Share Posted September 8 Originally posted by anotherway83 i really dont think u know indians, or that u understand the typical indian mentality Lol, I'd like to hear what you think the typical indian mentality is. Me personally, I'm not too religious, but would never give up my religion for someone else. I could be in a relationship with someone of another religion, and could also marry someone of another religion, depending on how religious that person is. If the guy tried to push his religion onto me, I couldn't deal with it. I've seen a lot of couples break up when it comes to religion. I've also seen people try to convert others to their religion, but they themselves wouldn't be willing to convert for their partner, and I think that's kinda messed up. I wouldn't/couldn't and never would ask someone to convert for me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daemoncel Posted September 8 Report Share Posted September 8 Originally posted by funks0ul Lol, I'd like to hear what you think the typical indian mentality is. Me personally, I'm not too religious, but would never give up my religion for someone else. I could be in a relationship with someone of another religion, and could also marry someone of another religion, depending on how religious that person is. If the guy tried to push his religion onto me, I couldn't deal with it. I've seen a lot of couples break up when it comes to religion. I've also seen people try to convert others to their religion, but they themselves wouldn't be willing to convert for their partner, and I think that's kinda messed up. I wouldn't/couldn't and never would ask someone to convert for me. good girl!it's such a grey area for many couples, and it's not easy to approach cause people react very randomnly when it comes to their religion Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
atomicapples Posted September 8 Report Share Posted September 8 love is everything. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daemoncel Posted September 8 Report Share Posted September 8 Originally posted by atomicapples love is everything. till someones god gets in the way...meaning that they believe that it has to do with their god Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
weyes Posted September 8 Author Report Share Posted September 8 Originally posted by atomicapples love is everything. wow. you surprise me with this . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
guest00901 Posted September 8 Report Share Posted September 8 I think that women is just one of those "jeasus freaks" anyone in their right mind would say "fuck the religion lets go to vegas and get married"Yes, religion can be a big part of someones life, but when it comes down to having that "true love" in your life, you need to look past the really really stupid shit and just be with that person. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phuturephunk Posted September 8 Report Share Posted September 8 Originally posted by sexxybabyd Yes, religion can be a big part of someones life, but when it comes down to having that "true love" in your life, you need to look past the really really stupid shit and just be with that person. ...Someone's religion is a bit more than 'really really stupid shit' considering the millions of human beings through time who have killed or been killed in the name of it......Dropping a hobby that one's mate finds undesirable is a compromise, giving up one's religion is a complete, radical life change (at least in the eyes of the person who's giving it up)....big difference... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
guest00901 Posted September 8 Report Share Posted September 8 I didn't mean that religion itself is stupidI ment that the situation is really stupidNot being with your soul mate because of a difference in religion:confused: Very stupid reason Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LogiKandReasoN Posted September 8 Report Share Posted September 8 Din da da Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phuturephunk Posted September 8 Report Share Posted September 8 Originally posted by sexxybabyd I didn't mean that religion itself is stupidI ment that the situation is really stupidNot being with your soul mate because of a difference in religion:confused: Very stupid reason ..Yeah, but seeing as how religion deals heavily with matters of the soul and morality, one would think that being 'soul' mates with someone would definitely bring at least pieces of said religion into play, no?... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Felix_Leiter Posted September 8 Report Share Posted September 8 Originally posted by phuturephunk ..Yeah, but seeing as how religion deals heavily with matters of the soul and morality, one would think that being 'soul' mates with someone would definitely bring at least pieces of said religion into play, no?... what are you doing?? it's like playing the violin for a deaf person........don't lower yourself Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tranzwhore Posted September 8 Report Share Posted September 8 Originally posted by atomicapples love is everything. i'm sure he'll tell her what she wants to hear and believe whatever the fuck he wants to believe. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastyt Posted September 8 Report Share Posted September 8 Originally posted by funks0ul Me personally, I'm not too religious, but would never give up my religion for someone else. I could be in a relationship with someone of another religion, and could also marry someone of another religion, depending on how religious that person is. If the guy tried to push his religion onto me, I couldn't deal with it. I've seen a lot of couples break up when it comes to religion. I've also seen people try to convert others to their religion, but they themselves wouldn't be willing to convert for their partner, and I think that's kinda messed up. I wouldn't/couldn't and never would ask someone to convert for me. Agreed. I myself do not believe in organized religion, but as long as someone doesn't try to force-feed me their beliefs, and respects mine, that's all I care about.This woman is extremely selfish... she wants him to change yet isn't making an effort at the same thing herself? Just chalk it up to something that wasn't meant to be. We're talking about the force that has been responsible for more bloodshed than anything else in the history of humankind... is it really surprising that it could tear something as fragile as a relationship apart? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jimk29 Posted September 8 Report Share Posted September 8 I could never be with anyone that tried to push that religion nonsense on me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tranzwhore Posted September 8 Report Share Posted September 8 Originally posted by jimk29 I could never be with anyone that tried to push that religion nonsense on me. i feel the same way! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fliptoniaaa Posted September 8 Report Share Posted September 8 once again tastyt another point for u!!!!!!!!!!!!religion kills!!!!!!!!!!!!more than any drug ever has or ever will do!!!!!!"imagine" john lennon!!!!!!!thats basically my thought on the situation!!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elementx Posted September 8 Report Share Posted September 8 She sounds like a bitch...But for love. I would say meet in the middle... Still believe in what you believe in. But together study each ones religion and maybe learn something about it... She is askin him to change. But if you think about it. Usually if you are that into religion at that age. And being that religion is what you believe and not what you know. Then you cannot change your beliefs... You believe in those things for one reason or another and love cannot change that. But by learning one anothers religion maybe you can get a better understanding on why each person believes in something different... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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