i let my guy set up the pace for phone contact, he usually calls me every day, but there were times when he had a lot of work and we talked once a week which is fine with me. I was being spoiled by him but only after we were dating for three or more months and all that time we spill all expenses right down the middle. But now that we've been together for 5 years, he doesn't spoil me as much.... I think someone who can't get adjusted to your time schedule and needs your attention constantly is too much work without rewards. Unless there are rewards and they are really nice