lollie60 Posted March 26 Report Share Posted March 26 let's say you found a nice person ..but then you think about marriage , having a family and growing old with this person and you feel like you're gonna choke + vomit. And the thought is just so horrifying IS that a good sign ?You see wedding videos and some people passing out or puking at their weddings becuz they're so nervous.. . These are reactions of nervous people who are afraid or think they're making a huge mistake .. not something happy people in love doI don't think those are good signs .EX. Carrie from Sex & the City almost vomited/suffocated when she was about to marry Aden even though he loved her and was a nice guySO is this a typical normal healthy reaction to LOVE ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuGaRNSpIcE Posted March 26 Report Share Posted March 26 well, i know im in love, but i ll let u know if i ever get married, lol. i know that i would be nervous, but dunno how bad i will be, i can tell ya id need a huge box of tissues Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bodiii Posted March 26 Report Share Posted March 26 thinking about hot garbage... i mean marriage...makes me throw up in my mouth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuGaRNSpIcE Posted March 26 Report Share Posted March 26 a lil bit?thinking about hot garbage... i mean marriage...makes me throw up in my mouth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kontrol Posted March 26 Report Share Posted March 26 if ur throwing up/ suffocating..its probably not a good idea lol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missroxy Posted March 26 Report Share Posted March 26 its normal to be nervous, and if you throw up when youre nervous then i guess its ok. if you don't, then its probably not a good sign Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ladyshady Posted March 26 Report Share Posted March 26 let's say you found a nice person ..but then you think about marriage , having a family and growing old with this person and you feel like you're gonna choke + vomit. And the thought is just so horrifying IS that a good sign ?SO is this a typical normal healthy reaction to LOVE ?it is normal to be nervous. of course, its a huge life decision.but when you think about spending the rest of your life with a person you love, and you feel like vomiting because it is so horrifying then obviously you are no where close to the commitment of marriagein my case when i think about the man i love that i hope to marry. or the man i will marry and grow old with, i smile.when the time comes ill be very nervous/anxious. but i wont find the idea even remotely "horrifying"love gives me butterfiles, not projectile vomiting... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bullseye Posted March 26 Report Share Posted March 26 i believe i finally met "the one," and i am very very much in love with her. wats great about the whole thing is that we have known each other for over 2 years before we started dating earlier this month, but the emotions have been growing for quite some time. i am so ready for everything that this relationship can become. honestly, the being single thing just wasnt cuttin it anymore. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lalate Posted March 26 Report Share Posted March 26 In general ... People that do that whole "oh, I have a bf, I have gf" way of talking, and refer to the fact that they have one to make themselves sound important, lack self worth. Most people toss around terms too lightly now ..."im in love", "she might be the one". Anyone can get married. Anyone can find the one. Try, however, to find the one that is the real catch, that everyone is after, and be able to keep it, and not have the marriage fail like most today, or turn into a faux-marriage, an open-relationship or with rapant secret infidelity. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anotherway83 Posted March 26 Report Share Posted March 26 i think the only way these days that a woman can prove that she truly loves a guy is thru anal sex...only when she agrees to have anal sex with him can the guy know that her love is trueotherwise it's all bullshit i say Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lollie60 Posted March 27 Author Report Share Posted March 27 if a girl proves her love for a guy by anal well then how do guys prove their love ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
barraquilla Posted March 27 Report Share Posted March 27 i think the only way these days that a woman can prove that she truly loves a guy is thru anal sex...only when she agrees to have anal sex with him can the guy know that her love is trueotherwise it's all bullshit i say there's nothing wrong with being nervous about something that is supposed to be a lifetime commiment. i was engaged, but never nervous and i believe that's because we were good friends first. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anotherway83 Posted March 27 Report Share Posted March 27 if a girl proves her love for a guy by anal well then how do guys prove their love ?well if the guy knows how to make her cum real hard repeatedly then he knows her body pretty well and you can be sure he loves her Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigdaddyk Posted March 27 Report Share Posted March 27 I think they are barfing because of the night before. You know the bachelor and bachleret party .. last signal night of drunken fun Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrsrice Posted March 27 Report Share Posted March 27 it can be true love without being ready for marriage. my bf and i have known we were the ones for each other for six years but we are just now about to get married Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastey Posted March 27 Report Share Posted March 27 love (god i hate using that word) and commitment are two different independent things.you can love without committing, and also commit without love.don´t think of them as connected. you can very well love a person your whole life without committing yourself to them. you have to set yourself free from what others expect you to do. like that you should marry a guy only because you´ve been together with him for a couple of years. it´s all bs and only in your head. just live your life in whatever way you like.i for one will certainly not commit myself for now, and i can´t picture me doing it for a long time.btw, bullseye, friends that become lovers are definately the way to go. i was friends with my current girl for like 4 years before we got together and we get along great. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SuGaRNSpIcE Posted March 27 Report Share Posted March 27 this thread is sucha tear jerker Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastey Posted March 27 Report Share Posted March 27 why? is it because i won´t commit? i´m sorry baby, that´s just the way i am. i hope i didn´t obscure your vision of the both of us being together forever and ever happily ever after Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lalate Posted March 27 Report Share Posted March 27 Tastey, great posts.Also, mindblowing lovers can fall in love too. Its happened to my friends and I sense it could be my future. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lollie60 Posted March 27 Author Report Share Posted March 27 . i was friends with my current girl for like 4 years before we got together and we get along great. you have a gf ? I thought you were this model chasing playboy You are also a narcissist ...like most men ... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastey Posted March 28 Report Share Posted March 28 you have a gf ? I thought you were this model chasing playboyoh right, i always hear these two are exclusive! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lollie60 Posted March 28 Author Report Share Posted March 28 if you're not exclusive you can't really say someone is your girlfriend or a boyfriend ... then they're something else. If you're not in a exclusive relationship with ONE person ..there's no need to use titles like that ...don't you think ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tastey Posted March 29 Report Share Posted March 29 if you're not exclusive you can't really say someone is your girlfriend or a boyfriend ... then they're something else.i try to avoid words like "girlfriend"... cause there are so much boundaries and restrictions associated with it.i´m not someone who puts labels on something that i have with a girl. if you´re both free spirits, defining what you have as a "relationship" or defining her/you as "he´s my boyfriend" or "he´s my girlfriend" is just putting labels and in the end, hurting what you have.i put very little commitment and very little labels on things i have with a girl. it´s more of a "i like you today, i´d love to see you tomorrow" basis. this is IME the mindset you´ll have the longest and "healthiest" relationships with, believe it or not. in really working relationships partners don´t put pressure on themselves by labelling themselves a certain way and therefor living the relationship through predefined pseudo-rules on what "a boyfriend/girlfriend" relationship should look like.if i´m with a girl and really like her, i won´t feel like fucking other girls. do i need to have endless talks about how "we´re exclusive now" and "she´s my girlfriend i´m her boyfriend" and telling everyone that we´re together and that we´re "bf and gf now"? not in my world. the feeling i have with her could last only a week, it could also last a few months, a few years, or even forever. i don´t know yet, and she doesn´t know either, that´s the whole point. just live your life by the moment, go along for the ride. that´s what´s life about. don´t worry about explaining the way you live life to others, as long as it makes sense for yourself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
intoxikated Posted March 29 Report Share Posted March 29 I'm in love with my boyfriend of over two years, and it took me a REALLY long time before I reached that point that I knew I wanted to have a future with him.....thinking about marriage and having a future together used to scare the crap out of me, but I just reached this point all of a sudden where I wanted him in my future...I think that you'll just instinctually know...you should always trust your instincts Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lalate Posted March 29 Report Share Posted March 29 i try to avoid words like "girlfriend"... cause there are so much boundaries and restrictions associated with it.i´m not someone who puts labels on something that i have with a girl. if you´re both free spirits, defining what you have as a "relationship" or defining her/you as "he´s my boyfriend" or "he´s my girlfriend" is just putting labels and in the end, hurting what you have.i put very little commitment and very little labels on things i have with a girl. it´s more of a "i like you today, i´d love to see you tomorrow" basis. this is IME the mindset you´ll have the longest and "healthiest" relationships with, believe it or not. in really working relationships partners don´t put pressure on themselves by labelling themselves a certain way and therefor living the relationship through predefined pseudo-rules on what "a boyfriend/girlfriend" relationship should look like.if i´m with a girl and really like her, i won´t feel like fucking other girls. do i need to have endless talks about how "we´re exclusive now" and "she´s my girlfriend i´m her boyfriend" and telling everyone that we´re together and that we´re "bf and gf now"? not in my world. the feeling i have with her could last only a week, it could also last a few months, a few years, or even forever. i don´t know yet, and she doesn´t know either, that´s the whole point. just live your life by the moment, go along for the ride. that´s what´s life about. don´t worry about explaining the way you live life to others, as long as it makes sense for yourself.So this girl you are talking about ... she's what ... ur girl friend?lol jk. Actually agree with u virtually 100% on this one. And do the same thing for the most part. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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