OK first off... J Lo deserves it - she IS trashy. That said, if the man has a point, the man has a point. Part of a relationship is realizing you can be wrong, as can the other person, and you have to be willing to take their criticisms and suggestions. Granted, too much criticism means emotional abuse, however, legitimate points are admissible. For example when I was living in Italy, my boyfriend used to get ridiculously pissed at me cause we would go out and I would do stuff that is totally normal in the US - talk with other guys at the bar when I'd get a drink, dance close with my female friends and tell unwanted guys we weren't heterosexual so they'd go away - all that happens all the time here, but there, he told me, people take that as being whorish behaviour and what the hell was I thinking? At first, I was like "well fuck off, I don't think it is so what do I care what you think?" but if you take it as that your significant other is actually just looking out for what's best for you, there's no reason to be so defensive. Granted, i think it's bad to change completely for someone, they have to love you for what you are, but you can't dismiss everything they say either. Like Ben, they *might* have a point here....