a friend of mine in college slept around a lot, but always, and i mean always used condoms. but condoms aren't 100% effective, even when used properly, and she got pregnant. she had no idea who the father was, and, even though she had been drinking and smoking weed and even did mushrooms once while pregnant before she found out, she decided to keep the baby. all of her friends, though, including me, didn't support her in that decision. firstly, we were her friends, and knew that she was not ready to be a mother, and secondly, we knew that a child would not be able to get what was needed from our friend as a mother, at this point in her life. our friend got mad at all of us, but our not supporting that decision really was supporting her. she finally got an abortion when her own 13-year-old little sister told her she thought she should. everyone - even the unborn - benefitted in the end.